Does a person's looks really matter to you?

[DorkyFresh]

i like girls with gap teeth, back boobs, and chest hair.

 

[knowsbleed]

You should look in the mirror and put a wig on. Problem solved.

 

[Genesis 1.0]

Physical attraction accounts for about 65% of any possible relationship for me.

Nobody wants to wake up next to a wilderbeast every morning, regardless of how sweet a disposition and nature he/she/it has. Having a great personality isn't exclusive to unattractive people anyway, so to Hell with the implications that you have to choose between a hot mate and a troglodyte.

 

[JAK®]

Yes and no. I've known girls that were very physically attractive but I hated their personality, so all that attraction goes out the window. I've been attracted to girls who weren't particularly good looking but their personalities have won me over.

But actual ugliness? I don't know. I'd say that yes, looks matter to an extent.

 

[DorkyFresh]

You should look in the mirror and put a wig on. Problem solved.

nah...im missing the chest hairs. without that, it's a deal breaker...

 

[WildcatNC]

Attraction matters. Attractiveness is relative though.

Attraction also implies the "whole package". Its more than looks to me, but also includes that.

Its not superficial to need to be attracted to someone to be with them. Its common sense.

 

[Genesis 1.0]

Yes and no. I've known girls that were very physically attractive but I hated their personality, so all that attraction goes out the window. I've been attracted to girls who weren't particularly good looking but their personalities have won me over.

But actual ugliness? I don't know. I'd say that yes, looks matter to an extent.

I think anyone with any dating experience and 2 brain cells to rub together can tell you the same but at the end of the day, for me personally, that 65% weighs heavily.

 

[Eggyman]

I think anyone with any dating experience and 2 brain cells to rub together can tell you the same but at the end of the day, for me personally, that 65% weighs heavily.

Of course it does. You don't want to stick it in a pot roast.

 

[DorkyFresh]

at 5'5 i really can't be picky about height preference. of course i prefer shorter women but that hasn't prevented me from hooking up with a couple of taller girls.

also, i've met some girls i didn't think i'd be interested in because i didn't initially think they were very hot but then got to know them and realized how attractive their personality was. on the opposite end of the spectrum i once ended up with a girl i thought was pretty bangin' but soon found out she was a total (dog in heat).

like most here, i always judge looks first (of course) but then get to know the person and end up judging them as a whole. however, looks DO matter. as shallow as it sounds, i'm not gonna date a girl that doesn't have any redeeming physical qualities no matter how awesome she is. she could be the richest, nicest, funniest, most selfless girl in town but if she's got snaggle teeth, a hump back, and a carpenter's hands i'm gonna be keeping my distance.

 

[knowsbleed]

Dude... you're 5'5"... you should be willing to hook up with anything that is willing to rent you their vagina.

 

[Eggyman]

I don't think he wants to, Bleed. Being that size it sounds like it wasn't that long ago he crawled out of one.

 

[incorrectuser]

If I'm looking for a relationship looks and personality are equally important. But on the other hand, if I'm just after a one night thing after the pub looks do take over in terms of importance. Call me shallow or whatever but thats just the way it is.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

There are a couple people who pointed out that good looks can't make up for a bad personality, and I believe that to be absolutely true. I also believe that a good personality can't make up for bad looks. Like I said, I believe they are both equally true.

However, that said, in my view there are a lot of different types of girls to me that constitute "good looks". For example, the last girl that I spent about 4 months fauning over, she wasn't exactly a 10 in the looks department. I was attracted to her, but she did have a rather plain look about her. So good looks certainly doesn't have to be super model caliber.

 

[Erzengel]

I like vapid looking girls, with deep psychological issues, vacant look in their eyes and personalities as deep as a thimble.

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

Looks are important to a degree, I dont care what anyone says, the only reason I will ever approach a girl is initially solely based on looks, if I start talking to them and dont like their personality however, I will lose interest fast.

 

[Kelly]

Looks are important to a degree, I dont care what anyone says, the only reason I will ever approach a girl is initially solely based on looks, if I start talking to them and dont like their personality however, I will lose interest fast.

I understand where you are coming from, but I have found that some of the most beautiful women, are flat out scary in the morning....and others you teach them some tricks with make up and they can look awesome....all I'm saying is, if that is EXCLUSIVELY what gets you to talk to a girl at first...you could be missing out on the one, OR....your first morning, a major surprise....lol

 

[Sundancer]

There's one element people tend to overlook in Beauty & the Beast.


The girl would not have given the Beast a chance if she had not been forced/contracted etc. to live with him.


We become interested involve and dating when we hit puberty, so yeah, sex is a key factor.

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

I understand where you are coming from, but I have found that some of the most beautiful women, are flat out scary in the morning....and others you teach them some tricks with make up and they can look awesome....all I'm saying is, if that is EXCLUSIVELY what gets you to talk to a girl at first...you could be missing out on the one, OR....your first morning, a major surprise....lol

Oh yeah I know this Kel, I talk to girls i'm not attracted to all the time in work, etc, and over time have come to find them attractive, but when I'm out on the town its normally initially looks which get interested in talking to a girl.

I know make up can do a lot for girls as well, which is why i'll try and get to know the girl a little but before taking anything further.

 

[ReTrO JuNkIe 42]

Physical is what gets the attention, The mental is what keeps it

 

[JStorm]

My brother and I subscribe to the 'league' argument and/or the 'scale' argument, when this question comes into play. Both are similar, just depends on what mood we are in.

1-10 is a scale. Most people give themselves a point or two higher than they actually are, a la actors with his or her height. No one wants to "appear" as one really is.

My point, when a five approaches an eight, the chances are slim that this will hit off. Very rarely do you see this happening, and if so, the chance is said person actually took the time to get to know each other.

Why this is such a horrible idea that we have in out head, I will never know. But the point of the argument is that we - as a whole - think this way when a person approaches us. If I considered myself a six, I would shoot for six's and above. But if a five or below approached my, the presumptuous ass would think "I'm better than that."

I'm not stating that a one can land a ten - the world would collapse. Just giving my long-winded response to what most else has said: attractiveness is key.

However, I submit that taking the next step is vital to seeing if that person is actually a five, four, etc. Lately, I'm trying to not be so pious about it and realize that a cup of coffee - 45 minutes tops - is not a bad way to find out if a person's personality, likes, interests, life experience will allow them points.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

You have to be attracted to a person. Well I know I do. I don't think I could be with someone I don't find attractive.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Physical is what gets the attention, The mental is what keeps it

Ding ding ding, a winnar is you.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

My brother and I subscribe to the 'league' argument and/or the 'scale' argument, when this question comes into play. Both are similar, just depends on what mood we are in.

1-10 is a scale. Most people give themselves a point or two higher than they actually are, a la actors with his or her height. No one wants to "appear" as one really is.

My point, when a five approaches an eight, the chances are slim that this will hit off. Very rarely do you see this happening, and if so, the chance is said person actually took the time to get to know each other.

Why this is such a horrible idea that we have in out head, I will never know. But the point of the argument is that we - as a whole - think this way when a person approaches us. If I considered myself a six, I would shoot for six's and above. But if a five or below approached my, the presumptuous ass would think "I'm better than that."

I'm not stating that a one can land a ten - the world would collapse. Just giving my long-winded response to what most else has said: attractiveness is key.

However, I submit that taking the next step is vital to seeing if that person is actually a five, four, etc. Lately, I'm trying to not be so pious about it and realize that a cup of coffee - 45 minutes tops - is not a bad way to find out if a person's personality, likes, interests, life experience will allow them points.

I think I agree with this 100%

I definitely know that while I acknowledge that I'm not the best looking guy in the world, that I am still a reasonably attractive guy and thus, I certainly have physical standards that I'm not willing to compromise. If a girl falls short of that, sorry, we can be friends, but that's about it.

That said, there are certainly girls out there that might not be the greatest lookers, but have a personality that can certainly make up for it. I have met those girls a few times myself. Don't get me wrong, there is still a level of attractiveness to these girls, but they might not be the girls that make you do a double take. But their personality is great, and it makes you want to be around them and in their company.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I like an attractive woman but I dont have a set "type." I dont mind a taller woman. I'm 6'1'' so its pretty unlikely that I will date anyone taller than me, but I wouldnt mind it. I wouldnt date an ugly woman but I wouldnt mind an average one.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I like an attractive woman but I dont have a set "type." I dont mind a taller woman. I'm 6'1'' so its pretty unlikely that I will date anyone taller than me, but I wouldnt mind it. I wouldnt date an ugly woman but I wouldnt mind an average one.

This, I don't think I really have a set type either.