Does a person's looks really matter to you?

[Erzengel]

I always thought I'd be with a girl who had dark hair, light eyes and porcelain skin.

I ended up with a half white/half black girl.

I mentioned this in another thread of how we all have these preconceived notions of what we think we want in terms of partners and relationships but it usually turns up to be all together different.

 

[JStorm]

I think I agree with this 100%

I definitely know that while I acknowledge that I'm not the best looking guy in the world, that I am still a reasonably attractive guy and thus, I certainly have physical standards that I'm not willing to compromise. If a girl falls short of that, sorry, we can be friends, but that's about it.

That said, there are certainly girls out there that might not be the greatest lookers, but have a personality that can certainly make up for it. I have met those girls a few times myself. Don't get me wrong, there is still a level of attractiveness to these girls, but they might not be the girls that make you do a double take. But their personality is great, and it makes you want to be around them and in their company.

My most recent - serious - ex was that type. Ma even said she wasn't the prettiest I've ever dated, but she and I got on really well. And to further our point, she became one of the hottest women I ever dated - in my eyes - as I got to know her more.

Too bad I ****ed it all up.

 

[Erzengel]

Wait...is this the same girl who wouldn't make time for you? How did you mess that up?

 

[JStorm]

I always thought I'd be with a girl who had dark hair, light eyes and porcelain skin.

I ended up with a half white/half black girl.

I mentioned this in another thread of how we all have these preconceived notions of what we think we want in terms of partners and relationships but it usually turns up to be all together different.

Blondes scare me. My high-school-sweetheart was a bombshell blonde, but welded a knife better than any Ninja I knew.


So I guess that's my only "notion." I won't disregard a blonde; but I will damn sure test the waters more so than a brunette. But with that said, the ex you and I have gone back and forth about is a brunette. . so go figure.

 

[JStorm]

Wait...is this the same girl who wouldn't make time for you? How did you mess that up?

Oh no. This one was about a year ago, before "the ex" decided to play love game with me.

She was fantastic and flat out amazingly-awesome.. . in all aspects.

I screwed it up, by being a dumbass. Plain and simple.

 

[Erzengel]

Ah...I see.

 

[Danalys]

i think personality can be reflected in looks, manner and little subtle elements of movement. so i think initial impressions can be more than the physical. part of you knows even if you don't consciously. sometimes it's like you sense someone even before you've laid eyes on them just because of what you've picked up in your peripheral vision.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

i think personality can be reflected in looks, manner and little subtle elements of movement. so i think initial impressions can be more than the physical. part of you knows even if you don't consciously. sometimes it's like you sense someone even before you've laid eyes on them just because of what you've picked up in your peripheral vision.

I agree with this too.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

My most recent - serious - ex was that type. Ma even said she wasn't the prettiest I've ever dated, but she and I got on really well. And to further our point, she became one of the hottest women I ever dated - in my eyes - as I got to know her more.

Too bad I ****ed it all up.

Yea man same here. Well, I can't say "ex" because her and I were never together, but the last girl I was involved with was like that. When I first met her, she was just that little country girl that sat in the corner. I had my eyes on someone else at the time. But, she was cute, and through talking to her and spending time with her I started to really fall for her personality, and that only grew as her and I spent more and more quality time together. Unfortunately, she decided she'd rather throw it all away and push me away than to let us actually develop a relationship due to her fears and insecurities, but nothing left I can do but just let her go and do her thing.

 

[SpideyVille]

Normally, I would've said yes, looks matter, immediately. But about a year ago I was in this one class with some girl I never really paid much attention to even though she sat right across from me. I didn't think much of her looks because she wasn't my type, so I didn't bother with her. But towards the end of the semester we somehow started talking and I realized we had a lot in common and I started to like her. Then from that point, I began to think she was really pretty. But then, we had some problems and stopped talking for a while until recently, when I went out with her and some of her friends, and I began to see her differently, in a way where I didn't think she was as pretty as I did when I liked her, and also because I saw her personality and it wasn't how I remember. So all the feelings I had from her just sort of disappeared.

But it showed me that looks really don't matter when compared to personality. I've seen some of the hottest girls be complete witches on the inside, and that's a real turn off in most cases. So I've come to believe that looks can spark an interest, but personality is what can really seal the deal, unless a person is just so completely shallow and prefers looks only.

 

[CrashNburn]

I think you have to be somewhat physically attracted to someone first....something about their appearance attracts your attention. Then you get to know their personality and weigh out whether to be with them or not. As much as some think its low to go based on looks, I think a physical relationship is just as important as anything else. It keeps that spark going. I guess im trying to say that looks matters.

 

[CrashNburn]

I have to admit, its definitely interesting to see both sides of the coin!

 

[Immortalfire]

I know a girl who is quite beautiful, and has a very charming, kind hearted personality.


Sigh...

 

[Danalys]

I have to admit, its definitely interesting to see both sides of the coin!

is this about suggesting a woman does a twirl?

 

[Bboy]

If we're talking about a romantic partner, of course the person's looks matter. It's not shallow, it's part of attraction.

It's more than just the surface - definitely. But if you're not physically attracted to someone, why would you waste your time?

 

[ComicChick]

i'd be lying if i said looks didn't matter at least somewhat but they arent the most important to me

a person i find initially attractive can become ugly when you see how they are real quick, and likewise a person can become more appealing and attractive as you get to know them better.

 

[B.A. Baracus]

I know a girl who is quite beautiful, and has a very charming, kind hearted personality.



Sigh...

Then ask her out, whats the worst that can happen.

You can't go swimming unless you're willing to get wet. Wait that sounds wrong, but seriously ask her out.

 

[SpideyVille]

I knew this girl once who had only been involved, in terms of a serious relationship, with three guys in her life, and she told me that she didn't particularly think of any of them as great looking guys. At least, that wasn't what attracted her to them most. It was more about how they presented themselves and treated her. It kinda made me feel bad because I liked her for a while and she knew, and even though she said I had good looks, we never made it past being just friends. But it showed me how I shouldn't just focus on how I look to try and impress a girl.

 

[raybia]

So many say that they care more whats on the inside when looking for a partner, But still that attraction physically has to be there.

Would it matter to you (if your male and straight) if a girl is much taller than you (or even much shorter than you), would it matter if they were physical deformed, maybe something that could be passed onto your future children. What about the person being obese or maybe something like a small penis or just plain ugly?

Just how much would a person's look's affect if you date them?

There is nothing wrong with being with someone you initially find attractive but it cannot be the factor that keeps you with that person. The person on the inside will determine that because the physically part is going to change in time.

 

[SpideyVille]

Is it just me, or does someone's look change according to how you feel about them? I mean, like I've noticed that I thought some of the girls that I have liked were really pretty when I first met them. But the ones that I ended up having some kind of problem with later on, I look back at them and feel like they weren't as pretty as I first thought. But it makes me wonder if they're not pretty because we had problems and thins ended badly, or if it's because they just were never all that good looking in the first place. Either way, I always ask myself what was I thinking.