G9: The Rainbow Room

[newwaveboy87]

...a thread for gay members of the hype and straight allies to discuss our struggles, coming out experiences, relationship issues, and life in general.

I'm just going to leave this here...

http://www.buzzfeed.com/ellievhall/patrick-stewart-and-ian-mckellens-friendship-is-better-than

 

[Manic]

JD & Turk in real life, only English and with knighthoods.

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

Adorable.

 

[newwaveboy87]

JD & Turk in real life, only English and with knighthoods.

and one of them is gay...

 

[Pink Ranger]

and only one of them is gay...

Edited for accuracy.

 

[Schlosser85]

Sir Patrick and Sir Ian are definitely BFFs.

 

[newwaveboy87]

Edited for accuracy.

I figured no one would mistake Sir Patrick for anything other than a hetero male. But fair point.

Sir Ian on the other hand...

I want to be just like him when I grow up.

Sir Patrick and Sir Ian are definitely BFFs.

And it's so adorable. I just might die.

 

[Matt.S99]

There needs to be a dating site or something for gays who are into nerdy things. Dammit!!! I need someone who will understand my connections with fictional characters.

 

[Schlosser85]

Ian is hilarious.

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

There needs to be a dating site or something for gays who are into nerdy things. Dammit!!! I need someone who will understand my connections with fictional characters.

Understand, tolerate or share the interest?

Many women tolerate their husbands love of football even when they don't understand it.

 

[Matt.S99]

Share the interest, preferably. Cuz I'm going to be honest, "nerdy things" pretty much run my life. If it's not fashion, it's Buffy, SATC or comics. Not really into anything else at all. I'm passionate about these few specific things. You'd think with fashion it would be easier, but it's not. It's more like oh yeah I love fashion! But then they have absolutely no clue what they are saying and I just sit there biting my tongue thinking, " I want so badly to call them out but I shouldn't. "

 

[Pink Ranger]

There needs to be a dating site or something for gays who are into nerdy things. Dammit!!! I need someone who will understand my connections with fictional characters.

You know there's a few LGBT nerd groups in Toronto. There's apparently a club that meets at the Glad Day every week to play Arkham Horror and other high involvement board games. You actually meet real people that way, not just over the internet.

 

[Matt.S99]

I know there's a gaymer thing, but I'm not a game person at all, unfortunately. I also don't live exactly in the city so it's a bit harder. Are there any comic based groups?
But I would love to check it.

 

[Pink Ranger]

I know there's a gaymer thing, but I'm not a game person at all, unfortunately. I also don't live exactly in the city so it's a bit harder. Are there any comic based groups?
But I would love to check it.

Look up "Toronto Gaymers." Even if you don't like video games, they do a lot of stuff around comic books too (as far as I can tell from the outside, as I'm an old crank who doesn't like to meet new people anymore).

 

[Matt.S99]

Look up "Toronto Gaymers." Even if you don't like video games, they do a lot of stuff around comic books too (as far as I can tell from the outside, as I'm an old crank who doesn't like to meet new people anymore).

I was just telling newwaveboy87 this earlier, I'm such a social person and am always the life of the party, but I am such an introvert too.

Life's dilemmas.

Are you part of this group aswell?

 

[Pink Ranger]

I was just telling newwaveboy87 this earlier, I'm such a social person and am always the life of the party, but I am such an introvert too.

Life's dilemmas.

Are you part of this group aswell?

No, I only know about them in theory.

 

[Manic]

My mom suggested I "pray to change" so she can be a grandmother.

That's it. I'm moving. To another state.

 

[newwaveboy87]

That's awful. I'm very sorry.

 

[Manic]

She seemed okay with it when I told her a while back, but she's been going to church a lot for the last couple of months, and I think someone's been putting ideas in her head. That, and she's been obsessed with becoming a grandmother for a few years, and my brother buys condoms in bulk.

 

[Marx]

Wow...I'm sorry Manic. Is your mother aware that she can still become a grandmother? There are alternatives to natural conception.

 

[Manic]

I could probably talk to her about that.

Thing is, she goes on the verge of tears whenever she talks about becoming a grandmother. She similarly cried the last time I talked about wanting to move away. She's really good at guilting me out of doing stuff, but not being gay is the first thing she's ever tried to guilt me into, and she needs to realize it's just not gonna happen. That, and I'm not the one who wants a baby in the family; she is. I'm not going out of my way to find alternative methods to have a child that I'd ultimately be responsible for just because my mother cries a lot.

Basically, I'm getting ready to give my mother a gigantic heartbreak of a conversation, and I have a feeling it's going to drive a huge wedge between us.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

communication is key, if able. She's obviously got alot of things she hasn't been caught up on or doesn't understand. It's easier said then done, but it's worth really trying.

 

[newwaveboy87]

She seemed okay with it when I told her a while back, but she's been going to church a lot for the last couple of months, and I think someone's been putting ideas in her head. That, and she's been obsessed with becoming a grandmother for a few years, and my brother buys condoms in bulk.

It's not your responsibility to give your mom some grandkids. My mom was upset when I told her I have ZERO desire to ever have children in way, shape or form other than four-legged and furry. But now she loves my two pugs and calls them her grandkids.

Just because your brother buys condoms doesn't mean he can't become a father.

 

[Marx]

I could probably talk to her about that.

Thing is, she goes on the verge of tears whenever she talks about becoming a grandmother. She similarly cried the last time I talked about wanting to move away. She's really good at guilting me out of doing stuff, but not being gay is the first thing she's ever tried to guilt me into, and she needs to realize it's just not gonna happen. That, and I'm not the one who wants a baby in the family; she is. I'm not going out of my way to find alternative methods to have a child that I'd ultimately be responsible for just because my mother cries a lot.

Basically, I'm getting ready to give my mother a gigantic heartbreak of a conversation, and I have a feeling it's going to drive a huge wedge between us.

You definitely shouldn't have kids because your mother wants to be a grandmother. As far as a huge wedge between the two of you goes, time heals.

 

[Pink Ranger]

My mom suggested I "pray to change" so she can be a grandmother.

That's it. I'm moving. To another state.

She seemed okay with it when I told her a while back, but she's been going to church a lot for the last couple of months, and I think someone's been putting ideas in her head. That, and she's been obsessed with becoming a grandmother for a few years, and my brother buys condoms in bulk.

Such is the lack of common sense in religion. She prays to change your ingrained sexual orientation, when in fact it would be a simpler task for her false god to merely make a condom break.