girl vs. friend but it's not that simple.

[Colossal Spoons]

Well Erz, I felt each post said something a little different.

Sorry CS.

It's ok try again. :bimad:

 

[Tangled Web]

He and I are talking right now. I asked him what he did wrong with her and he's like "Oh look at you trying to get advice."

 

[Crooklyn]

Your friend sounds like a jealous little ****e. Get with the girl asap and see if he tries to play any more of that "oh you look good together, i'll remind you of this every day, while i seemingly don't care" bullsh1t.

 

[Erzengel]

He's lashing out at TW because he is jealous and hurt. Honestly, he doesn't sound okay with it.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

I'm making exceptions since they are probably both 17. I doubt either are the pinacle of human maturity at that age. And I already said before, TW should know one of his best friends, even he hasn't verbialized it, he should know whether or not it actually bothers him.

Tough sh**. You don't, rather you shouldn't go around bending over backwards for everyone else's desires, especially in this case. The girl obviously doesn't like his friend and quiet possibly likes TW. It's not TW job to get his friend the girl of his dreams at the expense of himself.

TW's friend needs to learn that attraction is mutual and it's not his place to tell his friends who they should and should not date. There is this chick in my history class for example my roommates don't want me inviting over our apartment party because they are afraid "my friends" will make too much noise. Tough sh**. They can blow me and get over it because I don't date people for their benefit, I date them for mine (and the person whom I am dating).

TW if you like this chick, ask her out, hang with her, whatever. Friends don't rule the lives of other friends. If he truly is your friend, and is loyal to YOU, then who you want to date is none of his business...no matter how he feels about the girl.

 

[Tangled Web]

He's lashing out at TW because he is jealous and hurt. Honestly, he doesn't sound okay with it.

Hence my dilema.

 

[Master Chief]

He and I are talking right now. I asked him what he did wrong with her and he's like "Oh look at you trying to get advice."

lol. I had no problem with yer friend reading what was in this thread until that quote. Hahah, if it's exact, I want to kick him in the face. HOOORAH!!

 

[Addendum]

The only time that friends rule other friends is when one of them is doing purely self-destructive activities, such as doing heroin, drinking alcohol like it's water, eating until they burst and balloon up to 600 pounds- that's when a good friend steps up and says "Dude, seriously you need to get your **** together".

But when a guy has a crush on a chick and does nothing to make that crush and the dreams that accompany it into reality by simply asking her out because it's purely a 50/50 chance, and his friend steps up and asks that same chick out, that dude with the crush can only blame himself for not acting on his thoughts.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

TW, your friend isn't much of a friend. This girl will treat you better it sounds. He can just learn to live with it and get over himself.

 

[Erzengel]

I've never been in a situation where there was a woman who I was interested, who turned down one of my best friends.

Ideally, yeah I like to think if it bothered my best friend that much that I wouldn't go through the relationship.

Is it easy to say that cause I've never beein in that situation? Probably. But I'd like to think that's what I'd do.

 

[Master Chief]

TW, your friend isn't much of a friend. This girl will treat you better it sounds. He can just learn to live with it and get over himself.

Word.

Who the f**k would want a pouty paranoid little b**ch as a friend anyway?

 

[Calvin]

I've never been in a situation where there was a woman who I was interested, who turned down one of my best friends.

I certainly have, and it went down in the same day that he met her (three hours before I did). He didn't talk to me for 2 weeks, still doesn't trust me, and she went on to break my heart months later. Since that time, we've become best pals as far as she knows, but I still harbor resentment and frustration and feelings, and now my newer ex (she had to move for her career) is helping me fake my death to get out of the friendship.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Word.

Who the f**k would want a pouty paranoid little b**ch as a friend anyway?

If you are indeed talking to him right now tell him to "go f*** himself". His inability to win over the girl of his dreams is not YOUR problem.

The irony is your friend doesn't even really like this girl, he liked the "idea" of this girl. The only way you can like someone, truly, is if they like you back...if they date you or if you have a very personal relationship with them.

 

[Calvin]

Yeah, your friend really is being a whiny b**ch. If he's worth a damn, he'll resent you for a little while, which is natural, but then he'll realize how dumb he was and be fine with it later on. I say don't sweat it, he'll turn around eventually. Bros before hos, but hos before bros if your bro acts like a ho.

 

[Tangled Web]

He's lashing out at TW because he is jealous and hurt. Honestly, he doesn't sound okay with it.

Hence the dilema.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Hence the dilema.

Really there isn't much of a dilemma here....you're friend is being an ass over his own petty problems which he trying to pass off onto you as your fault. They aren't.

 

[Tangled Web]

Yeah, your friend really is being a whiny b**ch. If he's worth a damn, he'll resent you for a little while, which is natural, but then he'll realize how dumb he was and be fine with it later on. I say don't sweat it, he'll turn around eventually. Bros before hos, but hos before bros if your bro acts like a ho.

Thanks Calvin and Boxing for putting this in perspective. This quote is actually pretty profound, I love it.

 

[AndThePickles]

I'm making exceptions since they are probably both 17. I doubt either are the pinacle of human maturity at that age. And I already said before, TW should know one of his best friends, even he hasn't verbialized it, he should know whether or not it actually bothers him.

Isn't TW only 15? That makes it even worse

My whole issue with this still hasn't been addressed:

TW only expressed interest in this girl AFTER his friend started making jealous comments. Do you even truly like this girl as more than a friend TW, or are you just going after her because "Hey, she's a good friend, maybe since my jealous friend said we look good together she'll wanna go out with me and I can feel her boobies!"??

 

[kane9321]

if they werent together bro...you make a move.The earlybird...well he gets the poon

 

[Alpha and Omega]

I actually wondered where alpha and omega had gone....

Work, school, extremely minute segments where I get to catch up with friends and . . . actually live a little, but other than that, how are you doing?

Hey, nice to see you.

likewise, I guess.

Oh, and TW. Stop worrying about this broad and quit with the dramatics. They will come and go out of your life. You're in high school.

To be PC, if you have feelings for her, let her know, and see where the two of you can mutually take it.

Brutal Honesty: Chances are, you'll never talk to this girl when you both leave high school, so just live a little, enjoy some random pleasure with her, and have a few great stories for the fellas, your friends, workmates, drinking buddies, or whoever you hang out with in your naive, little enigma of an existence.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

It's hard for me to take any of this seriously.

 

[Tangled Web]

Well, I'm going to see her in a play on Friday. He bought the ticket next to mine. He said it won't be awkward unless I make it awkward. So we'll see how it goes.

 

[kytrigger]

Well, I'm going to see her in a play on Friday. He bought the ticket next to mine. He said it won't be awkward unless I make it awkward. So we'll see how it goes.

That last part's a dick move on his part. I won't make it awkward...blah. He's saying that so that if it becomes awkward he can blame you.

Although, if during the middle of the play you start blowing yourself, then he's right. YOU made it awkward.

 

[Calvin]

Well, I'm going to see her in a play on Friday. He bought the ticket next to mine. He said it won't be awkward unless I make it awkward. So we'll see how it goes.

Jesus, that's a cock-block move if I've ever heard one. Well, after the play, try saying "hey, I'm gonna go talk to her, I'll see you later, alright?" If he has any qualms, he's making it awkward, not you. Just tell him to quit cock-blocking and be a man.

 

[Addendum]

Ask your friend "Hey, where did you want to go now?"

After he responds say "Well, we're going to go (insert another place here), so see you tomorrow"

Though it's dependent on him actually saying something other than "Well, where did you want to go" like a dick