This is a lot to read, so I'm going to ask...what's the age of the offenders?
Also, I think it's the lose of a close friend that could be bothering zanos more than anything. I had a close friend, known each other since the 6th grade, she met her husband on line and I was completely phased out while she began making babies for him and meshing with his family and friends.
May not be the case but it happens.
Possibly.
I'm going through a somewhat similar ordeal.
I have a friend who's been like my best friend since high school. He's had this girlfriend now for the past... well over a year, but I don't know how long exactly. She's a good girl, I personally don't have any problems or complaints with her, but at the same time, I also know that my friend is very easily manipulated, and really allows people around him to control him. Since they've been together, I hardly ever see him or talk to him anymore, he constantly flakes on plans with myself and other friends for her, and has basically pushed away anyone and everyone in his life that's not her.
I have concerns, because I know how he is, and I feel he's committing so much to her just because she is there right now, not neccesarily because she is the girl that he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
If he were to make that decision, then I'd be happy for him, because I honestly don't think she is bad for him, or anything like that. I just want him to make that decision because that's how he truly feels, not because she's the girl that's paying attention to him right now.
It can be hard when you don't agree with the choices that someone close to you is making. But at the same time, it's their life, and they have to make those decisions for themselves. I do know that my friend is happy. And so for that, I am happy for him. I might not be 100% convinced that he is in the best of situations, and I have discussed my concerns with him, but he is also happy, and I have to accept that. And I have also told him that as well.
I know that my current relationship status is not something that many people would approve of. I have heard the concerns from many different people, and I admit it is a pretty ugly situation. But, it is a decision that I have to make for myself. I know what I want, and I know what will make me happy, and if other people don't accept it, then that is their own problem that they need to deal with.