Have You Ever Been in Love?

[E-Man]

Truer words have never been spoken. If I had let my idea of what love should be take over my actions almost 3 years ago, I would never be with my adorably sweet bf today.

When I was infatuated with my first bf, I asked my mom what love was after 20+ years of marriage. And she replied that after a while you don't really feel the lovely-dovey stuff anymore, that the other person is just part of your family. It sounded pretty dire back then, but now I understand what she means. Although my current bf is much more adept at showing his emotions/support than my dad.

Love means wanting the best for the other person no matter what. When I was with my first bf, I thought I loved him but I didn't. I was a jealous beeyotch who had him on a super-tight leash because being wanted by someone was a huge part of my self-esteem at that time. I think everyone goes through that phase.


Well, how does family come about in the first place?

You always seem to have the coolest relationship hen you talk about you and your bf, so for that I say...HIGH FIVE

My parents never gave me much love advice because I either didn't ask or their relationships were terrible. My mother still has problems with relationships, and my daddy has been married to the same evil and annoying ***** for about 17 years now so I consider him failing. I just learned on the flow, and for me it all comes down to the fun instead of being all depressed and in the dark because things didn't end like the movies said they would.

Yes I have...and the experience has left me incredibly cynical.

I feel you, but I'm by nature a cynical person. You can still have fun and be cynical too. Don't let that one bad experience ruin you. You gotta be like Hulk Hogan. You're getting beat up, but you're starting to hear the crowd chant, "MARX! MARX! MARX! MARX!" Sure they're only doing that because you're in Soviet Russia and they really like your name, but that small factor shouldn't let you keep that big Hulk out all to yourself. So start Hulking out on love, point your finger at it, then kick its ass! You are a real American, bro. Fight your rights!

I've reallyreally liked people. But have I been in love? No. I think people throw the word "love" around too much.

Isn't love just really really liking someone anyway? That's what I meant in my post about rules ruining things. Love just means you have a strong affection for someone. Adding all the levels to it just takes the fun away from what you have. I think you're scared of commitment...

Commitment to fun!

 

[SPider-T0rch]

I used to ask myself if I ever was in love and now I realize that, yes I have been in love before. In the months after she broke up with me, I doubted every feeling I had with her in the past. But now I realize that you can't just deny what you have felt before.

However, I still can't see myself falling for someone so hard again, at least not anytime soon. Most of the girls I've had crushes on after my ex either got boyfriends or my feelings for them subsided for whatever reason. I'm just scared to leave myself that vulnerable to the chance of heartbreak again.

 

[Frodo]

Yeah. Once you get your heart broken its kinda hard to get back in the saddle. Time does help though.

 

[SpideyVille]

There was this girl that I was friends with last summer, and even though we weren't dating, I knew there was some kind of attraction between us and even though I didn't like her at first, I started to fall for her once I knew (or at least thought) that she had strong feelings for me, which is weird for me because I always fall for a girl even though I don't think I have a chance. Needless to say, things took a bad turn soon after and it made me see her in a different light, and ever since, I haven't really felt as strongly for another girl.

It's not because I still have feelings for her, but more because I thought she was special but she turned out to hurt me worse than any other girl has in the past. Its weird now though because sometimes I see her and she looks like she still has feelings for me, but now I'm just dead to the emotion and I just try to get away from her as quickly as I can. But it's made me wonder if I'm even capable of loving someone.

 

[Victarion]

Yes! The first didn't know she was in love with me at first though.

Now I have a waifu and we're very happy. I'll ask her if its cool that I post her picture for you guys.

 

[rodhulk]

Yes. A few times.

 

[Logan's Lady]

Yes... twice.

First time ended up ending because it was built on lies and responsibility not love on his end.

Second time has been the most loving/accepting relationship I have ever been in.

 

[FilmNerdJamie]

Yes I've been in love. Once.

 

[gn6196]

i find it kinda sad that a person can fall in love several times. we're all replaceable.

 

[Erzengel]

I was in love once but it turns out all I really wanted was a sandwich.

 

[childeroland]

I was, until I got the restraining order. Like it's my fault she misinterpreted someone lurking in her bushes every night.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

You know what I think the perfect relationship needs? A combination of initial feelings of being 'in love' with someone AND 'loving' someone, which I believe are essential, and true love cannot exist without both.

There are plenty of people in your life that you love. Family and friends. The people that do things that make you smile and go 'i really love you'.

But in love is something else. It is like a drug that can be over powering. You can get addicted, you can spend so much time indulging in it that the effects run out or you get sick with it. It can drive perfectly sane people mad, can lead you to make decisions that could screw up your life, and can make a smart person into a fool.

Sounds scary doesn't it?

Well it is, but if you 'love' them too, then being 'in love' is at least worth it. Your less likely to be hurt if they actually deserve your emotions.

I've been 'in love' before, when I didn't really love the person. It was horrible, and an experience I will never put myself through again.

I hope one day I find a man I 'love' and that I fall madly in love with him, and he with me.

 

[gn6196]

I believe love is a miracle. What are the chances that a person could meet another and sustain love, respect and desire through all the challenges of life. I applaud any couple that Survive over the long haul.

 

[Marx]

I feel you, but I'm by nature a cynical person. You can still have fun and be cynical too. Don't let that one bad experience ruin you. You gotta be like Hulk Hogan. You're getting beat up, but you're starting to hear the crowd chant, "MARX! MARX! MARX! MARX!" Sure they're only doing that because you're in Soviet Russia and they really like your name, but that small factor shouldn't let you keep that big Hulk out all to yourself. So start Hulking out on love, point your finger at it, then kick its ass! You are a real American, bro. Fight your rights!

That's very...inspiring.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

I've had more than one crush, never fell in love