Honest,.. Year end Regrets of a general Nature - What R Yours?

[oakzap425]

No, I do regret the effects of my Christianity, but I believe, from the title, this thread is about stuff from the past year, and I've been well free of Christianity for quite a while now.


In fact, it's sad because just by chance, my Mom is an alcoholic too, and she finally got so bad that she went into a program, on her own, shortly after I did, without even hearing that I was in one.

Mine was based on facts, science, and they never brought God into it, and I depended on my own strength to overcome the early cravings and get sane again.

My Mom went with an A.A. style approach, where you depend on God's strength, and anything good in your life is because of God, while all bad things in your life are your fault...constant prayer, and service, etc.

And she relapsed 3 weeks after she got out of her program, and went back in...she's blown $40,000 and endless hours of prayer and study of the Bible and the Big Book and A.A. meetings and she's had no success, while I've been sober for almost a year, she couldn't even make it one month.

... :heart:

 

[Varient]

Well, it's nothing as lofty as the space program being squelched and not being able to live on the moon. More like going out with a girl I liked and her "wanting to just be friends instead", can't really call it a regret because I don't regret going out with her or anything and I'm not the one who made the decision, but it would've been cool if things went differently though.

That still qualifies as a regret with me simply because you wanted a different outcome.

V.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

That still qualifies as a regret with me simply because you wanted a different outcome.

V.

I don't consider it a regret though, I would've regreted it if I never asked her out, I'd be full of regrets if I regretted everything that didn't go exactly how I wanted.

 

[Varient]

No, I do regret the effects of my Christianity, but I believe, from the title, this thread is about stuff from the past year, and I've been well free of Christianity for quite a while now.


In fact, it's sad because just by chance, my Mom is an alcoholic too, and she finally got so bad that she went into a program, on her own, shortly after I did, without even hearing that I was in one.

Mine was based on facts, science, and they never brought God into it, and I depended on my own strength to overcome the early cravings and get sane again.

My Mom went with an A.A. style approach, where you depend on God's strength, and anything good in your life is because of God, while all bad things in your life are your fault...constant prayer, and service, etc.

And she relapsed 3 weeks after she got out of her program, and went back in...she's blown $40,000 and endless hours of prayer and study of the Bible and the Big Book and A.A. meetings and she's had no success, while I've been sober for almost a year, she couldn't even make it one month.

well,.. I did say "short and long" term in my orginal post - then used my dreams of being a moon colonist as an example of long term regret.

So they Talked you straight? Interesting.

I thought AA was a 12 step program,... didn't know they brought God into it.

V.

 

[Varient]

I don't consider it a regret though, I would've regreted it if I never asked her out, I'd be full of regrets if I regretted everything that didn't go exactly how I wanted.

Nah,.. because regrets have a shelf life depending on probability and resolution.

You'll regret something until something else negates it.
better to know and be at peace for asking her out,... then always having a corner of your mind wondering "What If".

V.

 

[bullets]

a few months ago a friend from the army who i hadnt seen since invited me to a party at his place up north . another army buddy was there and it was a great party , there must of been 200 people there . i was really impressed with the place . as the party went on i met his sister and we wound up hooking up , it was incredible to say the least . this all went down when my buddy who invited me up was passed out drunk in another room . anyway the other friend found out by hearing and told me this was unacceptable. meanwhile she was telling em they were close and it was ok .. so out of respect i let her know it could go no further while she told me i was hiding my feelings (which was true.) the next morning we helped clean up and we wound up kissing . i wanted to get her number but we wound up leaving (my other friend and i left at the same time but different locations) i couldnt wait for her to get back from her place , she went to clean up , and i couldnt mention this to my friend , her brother.
Anyway he invited me up for new years . i dont know if he knows but his g/f does and i might see this girl again . I dont regret the night but i feel like i betrayed him and used his sister in a way . also i have a g/f here . so i should have regrets and i do but then again im not so sure..

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

well,.. I did say "short and long" term in my orginal post - then used my dreams of being a moon colonist as an example of long term regret.

Oh, I didn't read back.
Yeah, I wouldn't want to list the long term regrets or the internet would explode.
But I share regrets about lack of Lunar Colonization.

I thought AA was a 12 step program,... didn't know they brought God into it.

V.

Yeah, It's not Pro-Christianity, but you have to believe in some kind of personal relationship with a "communicative" God that is involved in our personal lives.

Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

Step 5 - Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Step 6 - Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Step 7 - Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

Step 11 - Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

They're really disingenuous about it so I'm not surprised when people aren't aware of the God aspect of it.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I thought Step 11 was making ammends for past wrongs, a friend of mine is going through AA and I keep waiting for that step, since he knocked a hole in my wall while he was f'ed up. That's a portion of my security deposit gone and I just want a damn apology if he's trying to get his life together.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

That's step 9.
If he tells you he's on step 10, and hasn't apologized, set that ****** straight.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

well,.. I did say "short and long" term in my orginal post - then used my dreams of being a moon colonist as an example of long term regret.

So they Talked you straight? Interesting.

I thought AA was a 12 step program,... didn't know they brought God into it.

V.

That's step 9.
If he tells you he's on step 10, and hasn't apologized, set that ****** straight.

Oh yeah, I'm planning to go all George Costanza on his @$$!

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Are you able to fit your giant head in the hole in your wall?

 

[Themanofbat]

Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

Step 5 - Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Step 6 - Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Step 7 - Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

Step 11 - Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

My f^%#$&^#ing god... that's just pure and utter bullsh&^$*&t...



It's bad enough that people have to battle alcoholism, but to replace it with yet another demon is too much...

And by demon, I'm not referring to a god persay, but to narrow-minded tunnel-visioned conservative christianity as a whole.

I'm glad you were able to fight it Willy...

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Yep, I was forced to attend 2 meetings a week for 8 months and I am here to tell you, if it helps keep you sober, great...but it's ****ing bull****, and I add Anti-A.A. to my list (Anti-Procreation, Anti-Christianity, Anti-Crappy Music, etc.).


Really amusing thing, my first meeting, don't know what to expect, and it was a bunch of old American Indians.

And this guy is going over his whole life story...and he's detailing how he's been in A.A. since 1976.

And I'm thinking, "Whoa! That's almost as long as I've been aLIVE! "

And after all this talk-talk-talk.....he finally gets to the point, that he's so ashamed, because he gave in and got wasted LAST WEDNESDAY.

He's been in the program for 30 freaking years, and he just relapsed this year.
So the meeting goes on for an hour, and 5 other people, same thing, "been a member for decades...just got wasted last night."


While I have two friends who were alcoholics, decided one day, "This is lame." and stopped drinking all together FOR 28 years, and 11 years.

"GOD" has nothing to do with it.

 

[Arc-Light]

I should have drank more..............

 

[jaguarr]

ah.
You are set except for a personal project? Yes,.. You are doing good.

Props.

V.

Yeah, that's pretty well where I'm at. I've had a couple different novels gestating for a few years. This year was just too hectic for me to really sit down and work on the one I'm currently favoring and I do regret that.

And, Wil, you get much respect from me for pulling yourself together and getting sober. Battling addiction is a very difficult thing for many, many people and some are never able to overcome their demons. That you have is a testament to your personal strength and willpower. Keep it up.

jag

 

[Alex The Great]

i regret watching the cloverfield teaser with transformers......had me hooked!

i never was hooked for a another movie more than that. wasted half of a year of a life!!

 

[Varient]

i regret watching the cloverfield teaser with transformers......had me hooked!

i never was hooked for a another movie more than that. wasted half of a year of a life!!

(smile) Wasted?
Anticipation,..... Hopping on foot to foot WAITING for something you want is the pleasure/pain of life,....

Was the movie worth it?

 

[knowsbleed]

Great thread filled with some really good regrets. My regrets would seem petty to some of the stories in here so I'll just say that maybe I regret spending so much time on the Hype...but in a way I don't.






edit: I regret smoking so damn much this year. I haven't smoked since 1998 then this year I started again...what a waste.

 

[Ghostvirus]

My regret is the same as it has been for a few years now. I regret letting fear control my life. Over this last year however. I have have gotten better at pushing threw the fear, & moving forward, so I expect 2008 to be a bit better in this category.

 

[Super Kal]

I regret not going to church

 

[SoulManX]

I have 2 one for sleeping with my ex when that is not a good idea.

Number 2 not doing more for people who have less.

But I see 2008 as my year to get better and keep 07 in the past.

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

No, I do regret the effects of my Christianity, but I believe, from the title, this thread is about stuff from the past year, and I've been well free of Christianity for quite a while now.


In fact, it's sad because just by chance, my Mom is an alcoholic too, and she finally got so bad that she went into a program, on her own, shortly after I did, without even hearing that I was in one.

Mine was based on facts, science, and they never brought God into it, and I depended on my own strength to overcome the early cravings and get sane again.

My Mom went with an A.A. style approach, where you depend on God's strength, and anything good in your life is because of God, while all bad things in your life are your fault...constant prayer, and service, etc.

And she relapsed 3 weeks after she got out of her program, and went back in...she's blown $40,000 and endless hours of prayer and study of the Bible and the Big Book and A.A. meetings and she's had no success, while I've been sober for almost a year, she couldn't even make it one month.

pfft, apparently your mom doesn't have faith in god. there was a woman who had cancer,she would pray everyday along with getting her chemo treatment,she had a strong positive outlook on everything,she had hope and faith on her side and the wonders of chemotherapy. the doctors even had to remove her breasts. a year later shes cancer free and is now traveling, giving speeches about her experience and how god helped her get through everything.

 

[deemar325]

I regret not calling my big bro in two months.

The bastard will be alright

 

[Eggyman]

I have no regrets.
A year ago I was an alcoholic, drinking about a pint of whiskey and a bottle or two of wine every other day.

I went into an Intensive Outpatient Alcohol Addiction Treatment Program that was perfectly suited to me...and now, on January 22nd, it'll be a year without drinking, and I have no desire to ever drink again.

As a result, my whole life has improved in ways I never could've imagined only a year ago. I'm the same person, but a totally different person, excited to be alive and sober every day, so far.
It's easy not to drink, because my life is so much better.
But I was stuck in that compulsive cyclical drinking for like, over ten years, and I don't even regret that time on that dark, dangerous path.

Serious congrats on that, mate. I hope you stay strong and happy

 

[turtlefocker]

My only regret is that I wasn't born someone else