ill give a little bit of history before i begin
my brother has always had problems within our family. be it on the outside with friends, the family members which include aunts uncles etc and especially with my mother father and myself.
we arent a completely happy family at the same time, because my actions and my brothers, we have forced my parents to get into spats as well (im aware that it isnt really our fault as its a communication problem between the two of them)
my brother cannot be talked to as everything.. from how was your day to did you have a good time leads into the person posing the question to get yelled at or be disrespected. the first thought is that my parents mut have done something wrong with him. but no. that isnt the case. in fact they are likely some of the best parents out there always giving and never recieving. for example, bringing us to our hockey practices, soccer practices, getting us cellphones, computers in rooms, vacations, our own tvs, sattlelite dishes for them, not paying rent, food on the table.. and all they ask is for us to clean our rooms. haha.. the easy life.. to some we might be spoiled..and to some degree we are but my brother is an extreme cause.
he works and goes to school which is all payed for by my parents, who also helped him with his car. a seperate more complicated issue so i wont even start talking about how that came about. now he pretty much goes to work, sometimes, if he chooses to, goes to school and then goes out to see friends and go clubbing etc etc.. hes never home other than to sleep and have the occasional meal. he cannot stand our presence as like i said earlier, jumps at the chance to roll his eyes, act exhasperated and so on and so forth.
its gotten to the point where hes crossed a very important line between parent and son. hes called my parents *******s, ****ers, told them to go **** themselves, told them how they are crazy, told them to jump out the window, or kill themselves (which is immediately followed by a justification why he would say such a thing as if its excusable). though of course.. after a day or hours straigght of back in forth yelling about the same topics. he apologizes and my parents reluctantly accept. not with open arms of course. imagine your son telling you these things as you try and reason with him about something thats so illogical. being a third party and caring about my brother, 95% of the time, trying to be the voice that brings him down to earth, he is always in the wrong. always. because he reacts so easily to everything.
now the situation at hand was this. my dad asks him at the dinner table (where everything always happens) are you coming home after school tomorrow (he has work late at night about 4 hours after hes done).. my brother responds, what?! what else would i be doing? my father responds i wanted to know if youd be home for dinner, while in the process my brother pulls this exhasperated look (more like a look of hatred), and continues eating not looking at my father. i say, he just wanted to know- and im cut off by my brother who tells me to shut the **** up. of course, my father is opposed to this and says don't talk that way in a tone that means buisness. my brother says, tel lhim to shut up and thats that, i let go a breathe.. a sigh really just over the ridiculousness of the situation. and my brother threatens.. ill hit him if he doesnt shut up. my dad in the process of telling him hed do no such thing.. hits me.
we both get up from our chairs (i dont take being hit lightly as i put up with it from him for so many years of my childhood) and my dad gets up trying to control the situation.
my brother yells how i should shut up and howll hell kick my ass and i laugh and tell him to try it. .which he doesnt do.
during this time my brother runs away from my dad who is telling him to go to his room.my brother saying no. and this goes on for a bit. my dad says get the hel out of the house (final straw) and my brother refuses. after sometime he says fine. im leaving. gets his stuff. my dad says gimem back the key and again brother refuses. more back in forth around the sofa. think cartoon cat and mouse. my dad is trying to get him to leave. and me.. being disgusted and wanted him to leave.. try to continue lreasoning with him..telling him that all my dad asked was if your coming home.. how our mother (who he was saying hed tell the whole situation to) will not agree with him because whatever he thinks did happen doesnt justify what he is doing. he screams fo r me to shut up and then says it (i am only his brother), that i should go jump off a bridge (this mind you is all yelling..screaming at full power). i continure telling him to simply leave the keys and leave because hes crossed a line he thinks he has the right to cross. when he gives up the keys he walks to the door calmly..then turns his heels to me wanting to hit me. i dont hit him back as hes on top of me..and hes a coward (and i guess his body knows whats hes doing is wrong) and sorta is jut on top of me... my dad holds him back..as my brother..the ****ing animal is trying to still get at me while i stand there is disbeleif..screaming how hell kill me, hell kill me, watch my back tomorrow at work, hell kill me... saying how much hes done for me.. which includes giving me lifts to my girlfriends house (hes done that 3 times in 2 years) and numbers for my hockey jersey (a birthday and chritmas presnt).. i say that its al lmaterial.. thats not the most importnat thing thats given to someone.. then again..hell kill me
im afraid a bit i must say. hes threatened to do it before, but this looked heart felt. i know .. im so very sure that hell walk back into the house and in 2 weeks, everything be as it were. but i dont think i will ever talk to him again. i dont think i should. so i needed to get that off my chest.. i think a msg board will help me out.. even if none of you bother reading this. thanks
