Well I finally watched the movie on Spidey's birthday. It kind made the experience memorable

I remember coming out of the first Raimi movie determined to write fanfictions on it because "holy it's spidey in real life guys!" Granted, I was a wee lad back then so the impulse and the excitement was a lot more than it was this time around. Here's my initial reaction to it:
But in all honesty, I think both films have its share of ups and downs. For me the first
Spider-Man will always be the best and most memorable one personally, and I don't really believe that we can objectively deduct a movie. But apart from that ASM was pretty well shot. The best bits were, as some have already said, the personal human dramas involved. I don't think the Uncle Ben/Pete exchanges were ever so well done than it was in ASM, same goes for Pete's scenes with Connors in the lab, his interaction with Gwen, etc. Garfield did a better job at being a teenager, you felt like this was a kid who was exploring his own body the minute he transforms himself, that's something Maguire didn't have going for him despite all the white stuff coming out of his body. :P However, it didn't do a convincing job for Peter's relationship with Aunt May. Half way through the film it seemed almost criminal that everyone else knew about Peter's secret but the one person who'd probably get a heart-attack for not knowing didn't. Granted, it shed a new dimension to their relationship where Aunt May trusts Peter and knows he needs to have his own secrets and that he's doing that to protect her, she gets that and that's a beautiful dynamic that wasn't present in past; however, in all those scenes of Pete bursting into the house, it seemed like this kid was on drugs or really hanging out with the wrong crowd. He gets the munchies, he comes home late all beaten up and preoccupied, Aunt May would've been doing more than just be worried about him and just trust him on that even after seeing him like that. That was a flaw, in my opinion, a nitpick but since his movie seems to stand on its human relationships instead of the larger-than-life aspects, I think it was worth a clarification.
I also wasn't too big on the idea that it repeated some of the same emotional beats as the first movie. A lot of people say that it's done a better job at convincing us why Pete became Spidey, but I think the first movie did it better. For one thing, this movie moves like a revenge plot: he becomes Spider-Man because it kinda happens to him, because he's trying to track down Uncle Ben's killer, because he feels "responsible" for Doc Connors. Sorry Pete, no. Connors became the Lizard for his own obsessions that wasn't your responsibility. Okay so you still be the hero, that's great, but while the first one convinces us in two short scenes that Spider-Man has to save the day because he's got all these powers, AMS doesn't clarify that. Why's he fighting criminals all of the sudden? WHy the hell would Pete, a science-whiz-come-skateboarding-punk give a **** about protecting innocent people? Uncle Ben's death in the first film was a catharsis - the point where everything changed for Pete. Here it just made him more bitter about everything. The ideal film would've given us this destructive angst-ridden Parker from AMS in the minutes before Ben's death (which is a scene I believe was beautifully made here -- the lecture on responsibility was solid and more convincing than what we had back in 2002) and then mix it up with the 2002 Peter acknowledging his responsibility as a superhero. With Ben's death, he'd change. Honestly, AMS could just remove the superhero aspects and just focus on the science-fictional element of inter-species integration and end it there. It was
not a crime drama or a crime film to support the fact that Pete became a vigilante, something that both
Spider-Man and
Batman Begins managed to explore.
Regarding the repeated narrative beats: you have Ben's death, the origin story, and near the end a father pulling a "Don't tell harry" moment for Gwen. A lot of similar things were repeated that the filmmakers were trying to throw away as clever allusions ("the greatest philosophical question is 'who am I' " ; the NYC cranes helping him do the Spidey-thing; the clerk being a jerk to Pete before Ben's death; the wrestling mask; the transformation montage; Lizard pulling an inner-devil-voice like Goblin and Doc Ock; Pete pushing Gwen away), but just seemed like poorly done. What was good, on the other hand, was what mattered: Garfield as Spidey was not only convincing but a truer translation of the Pete from the books. Just not when he's trying to be a punk. As Spidey he's got the whole thing down. The most memorable scene would be when he springs the trap like a real spider in the sewers. New York felt like New York; it wasn't the 60s wholesome village from the Raimi movies but a real urban locale.
But what felt like a rip-off was that it didn't deliver what it promised to: the truth about Richard Parker's disappearance. That was supposed to be the major focal point of the entire story; the other "unresolved" thing that bugged me (no pun intended). If Peter's entire vigilantism is based on trying to get the guy who killed Ben, why isn't that resolved immediately? It makes me wonder if he'd consider his mission fulfilled once he does capture the thug with the tattoo. It's like the "untold story" remains... er... "untold."
I'll just reiterate a point I made in another thread: Spidey's rogues gallery is distinct enough to stand on their own. Connors was more similar to Octavius than he was to Osborn. But pitting a half-man half-lizard against a half-boy half-spider protagonist gave this film the sort of symbolic depth that they had going in dark knight. I loved that.
I think that overall the film was well-made and was a good adaptation of Spider-Man and rivals the first. But that's just it; it feels like a revised origin story, which even if you get over the initial skepticism of it, makes all the "good bits" of the movie like the more emotionally-engaging cast, feel like the sort of progress that you would expect since it does have the advantage of a previous film telling the same story -- it's
supposed to learn from the mistakes and strengths of the original and be what it is, and that unfortunately reduces the good qualities of this film and is, i'd say, unfair to it. The Peter-to-Spidey montage wasn't well made because it tried to be different just for the sake of being different. And those unresolved issues, and the nod to Norman Osborn came because of a strong restraint on part of the film-makers. You felt that the actors, like Garfield, Stone and the rest, gave out their best, but the director, writers and editor seemed confused as to whether or not they want to go all out and override the original or be a sort of "X-Men First Class" where it's telling a Spider-Man story in that narrative gap in the original where Pete dons the costume but before he meets Goblin (it's not. It can't be. The continuities don't allow it, but it seems to be something at the back of everyone's minds while watching this). Someone compared it with
Superman Returns rather than
Batman Begins, and that's unfair because
Superman Returns was essentially a remake of the Donner-films down to a visual cue. It wasn't as vast and exploratory as
Batman Begins, but it's neither. It's the first
Spider-Man movie made in a post-
Dark Knight context where everything is more realistic. The film's greatest strength comes from its emotional core that I believe is missing in the other superhero films to date, and in doing so it remains something memorable. But it fails at its plot. There were too many father-figures to make any of their deaths seem significant to the audience. It just... got shaky at the end. If you have to compare it with
Batman Begins, then it's the middle-act, with a middle-act villain and ending with the Scarecrow captured. What I'm saying is that it could've been much more than that if the filmmakers just considered their own responsibility in completing the story that they started instead of saving up for sequels.
I won't give it a rating, movies deserve better than damned numerical grades that tries to assess quality. It had its strengths and weaknesses, and it seems that they sort of match each other off for me, just like the first movie. In regards to characterisation it was well executed. It feels like a revised script combining the successful beats of Spideys 1 & 2, and with Gwen involved, you know that's true. It could've been better if they just focused on one aspect and stuck with it.
I still feel sorry for Aunt May and Gwen

So, I guess Pete doesn't keep his promise to one dying father (Stacy) but keeps the other (Ben) while having forgotten the first ("Be good" he said, distancing himself from his son the way he always did). Gwen & Pete were much better than MJ & Peter any day. A sequel could redeem all that, but like others have said, it should've had to.
A few questions I have to everyone here: what ever happened to Irrfan Khan's character? Did he die there on the bridge? And was that tattoo of Ben's killer that of a spider's? I'll be watching it again this weekend, but yeah, those two points went past me in the first view.