*Official* Relationship Advice Thread Strikes Back

[Aesop Rocks]

So, you just want the thrill of it without any emotional complications/effort, huh?

Idunno, lol.

I know I want a relationship but something just turns me off every time.

Even with my ex, when she tries to bring it up.

 

[ComicChick]

I think I never went in the old relationship advice thread cuz relationships have been nonexistent for so long.

Glad to see I'm not the only one who works a ton billy, now spoons can pick on someone else.

I have two jobs, one in sales and the other working for the bands during their concerts here.
I know for a fact a guy I work with likes me, but I don't want to date people I work with, and at the concert gig, the vuys who talk you up are trying to get discounts or free stuff or are so drunk that they're flirting with everyone

I'm not against dating at all, I guess I've just been 'lazy' for lack of a better phrase.

 

[Aesop Rocks]

So, you just want the thrill of it without any emotional complications/effort, huh?

I dunno. She tries to bring it up (my ex) and every time she does I lose all interest in her.

Why didn't you sleep with her while she was your gf? How long were you going out for before you broke up?

She was wanting to wait until marriage which was and is fine with me. We dated 4 years.

 

[enterthemadness]

Dude, if you can't pick that up, we don't want you coming to talk to us. o.o

And given experience, I'd say roughly 75% of guys with half a spine would make the approach. XD

However, there are plenty of girls who up and let guys know they like them. The girls you are referring to are the ones who like to dress up sexy and play the game.

Yeah, I agree with Surley, or Shully, or Suremaster, that women need to grow a spine and approach men. Why do us men always have to do it? Let's say if I did have confidence and ****...and I see a hot woman in public...doesn't mean I should make the first move.

 

[Erzengel]

I think I never went in the old relationship advice thread cuz relationships have been nonexistent for so long.

Glad to see I'm not the only one who works a ton billy, now spoons can pick on someone else.

I have two jobs, one in sales and the other working for the bands during their concerts here.
I know for a fact a guy I work with likes me, but I don't want to date people I work with, and at the concert gig, the vuys who talk you up are trying to get discounts or free stuff or are so drunk that they're flirting with everyone

I'm not against dating at all, I guess I've just been 'lazy' for lack of a better phrase.

But these aren't careers right CC? That's my only rule for "office" romances. If you don't see yourself there for a few years, why not?

 

[Anita18]

thanks, you made my day... I don't consider myself that attractive...

I said "you guys" were cute. As in, "together." That's cute.

Don't give yourself any ideas.

Spoiler

But yeah, you're not an ogre or anything. Psh.

Why didn't you sleep with her while she was your gf? How long were you going out for before you broke up?

I was with my first bf for 1.5 years and we didn't have sex. It befuddled me, because I knew he complained to friends (mutual friends) how he was going to graduate college still a virgin, and I honestly would have slept with him had he asked. Apparently he didn't see our relationship "going that way." Guys are weird.

OTOH, he's getting married next year to the first girl he did sleep with so...that's something!

 

[Erzengel]

I dunno. She tries to bring it up (my ex) and every time she does I lose all interest in her.



She was wanting to wait until marriage which was and is fine with me. We dated 4 years.

So if my math is right and I'm Asian so I know it's right. You dated her your whole entire high school year? So you're like 18-19 now?

 

[Aesop Rocks]

Yeah. Well, I'm 21 but, yeah.

 

[BillyZaned]

I said "you guys" were cute. As in, "together." That's cute.

Don't give yourself any ideas.

Spoiler

But yeah, you're not an ogre or anything. Psh.

great... there goes my self esteem for the day... t:

I always seem to have trouble taking pics... closing my eyes, or cought in a wierd pose... lol...

 

[Anita18]

Idunno, lol.

I know I want a relationship but something just turns me off every time.

Even with my ex, when she tries to bring it up.

Hmm, sounds like commitment phobia to me. Not really about being together, but making that leap into relationshipland. Heck, even I avoided referring to my bf as "my bf" for a long time because I didn't want to label it.

 

[Anita18]

great... there goes my self esteem for the day... t:

I always seem to have trouble taking pics... closing my eyes, or cought in a wierd pose... lol...

Tell me about it. My bf takes the worst pictures. He always looks drunk or constipated in them. I don't really have any photos of him for that reason.

 

[Aesop Rocks]

Hmm, sounds like commitment phobia to me. Not really about being together, but making that leap into relationshipland. Heck, even I avoided referring to my bf as "my bf" for a long time because I didn't want to label it.

I think it's something like that, yeah.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

Yeah, I agree with Surley, or Shully, or Suremaster, that women need to grow a spine and approach men. Why do us men always have to do it? Let's say if I did have confidence and ****...and I see a hot woman in public...doesn't mean I should make the first move.

We do, that's why we throw the vibe out. o.o

If we didn't have that confidence, we wouldn't. XD

I, personally, like men with initiative. If they're not gonna work to even come up and muster a "Hi" to me, chances are he'll be underwhelming throughout.

 

[Erzengel]

Yeah. Well, I'm 21 but, yeah.

The only thing I can think of unless there isn't something you're telling us, is it might be one if not all of the following:
A) You are still hung up on the ex, making moving on impossible.
B) You just haven't found the right one yet.
C) You sure you don't like guys?

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Okay, in the previous thread you said she stood you up, how exactly did she stand you up if you never asked her out? Yes, you asked her to lunch, but she had other plans already, that's not standing you up, that's having things to do. You're stood up when you have definite plans and she doesn't show up. She gave you a golden opportunity to make a date and you completely blew it, you should have said sure, why don't you give me your number and I'll call you this weekend to set something up. All hope isn't lost though, on your next walk after class just follow up, ask when's she available to go out this week, have a definite plan for what to do, like just going out for drinks. You haven't totally screwed up yet, but your very close to doing it.

I did ask her out.

We were both done with classes (her for the day, me for a couple hours), she mentioned that she was going to go get lunch, and I asked her if she'd like to grab lunch together, her and I.

She said that she didn't really have too much time to grab lunch together that day. So I resigned myself to the fact that she was just saying that because she wasn't interested. But as we continued our conversation, she told me that she was going to be free on Monday or Tuesday, and that we should get together for lunch on one of those 2 days instead. But I couldn't get ahold of her when I needed to find out just what time and where to meet, basically set it all up.

 

[Erzengel]

I did ask her out.

We were both done with classes (her for the day, me for a couple hours), she mentioned that she was going to go get lunch, and I asked her if she'd like to grab lunch together, her and I.

She said that she didn't really have too much time to grab lunch together that day. So I resigned myself to the fact that she was just saying that because she wasn't interested. But as we continued our conversation, she told me that she was going to be free on Monday or Tuesday, and that we should get together for lunch on one of those 2 days instead. But I couldn't get ahold of her when I needed to find out just what time and where to meet, basically set it all up.

Which leads me to two possible solutions. Either she just forgot which if you left more of an impact with her, you would think that wouldn't OR she felt bad and just led you on about a prospective meeting.

Granted something really important could have come up with her...but I'm playing the odds here.

 

[ComicChick]

Yeah, I agree with Surley, or Shully, or Suremaster, that women need to grow a spine and approach men. Why do us men always have to do it? Let's say if I did have confidence and ****...and I see a hot woman in public...doesn't mean I should make the first move.

Just because you notice someone you find attractive doesn't mean that person notices you. If you want her attention, go get it. Likewise for women, if you want the guy to notice you, make yourself noticeable

 

[enterthemadness]

We do, that's why we throw the vibe out. o.o

If we didn't have that confidence, we wouldn't. XD

I, personally, like men with initiative. If they're not gonna work to even come up and muster a "Hi" to me, chances are he'll be underwhelming throughout.

I can't catch the vibes. If I could, i probably be in the NFL as a wide receiver.

The only thing I can think of unless there isn't something you're telling us, is it might be one if not all of the following:
A) You are still hung up on the ex, making moving on impossible.
B) You just haven't found the right one yet.
C) You sure you don't like guys?

Oh, Oh, Erz, I wanna answer C.

Well, according to people on another board, I have bi-curious thoughts.

Stephen Dorff and Justin (Green Arrow from Smallville) Hartley. One word: Dreamy.

 

[ComicChick]

But these aren't careers right CC? That's my only rule for "office" romances. If you don't see yourself there for a few years, why not?

I've been here 6 yrs and it could potentially be a career for me. I've had 6 raises and I've got the job security now that I can't even be fired without formal paperwork and such performed.

If I find a guy I'm interested in who I work with, I'm not 100% against the idea. As for the one interested in me, I'm just not attracted to him in any way but a friend sense. And I know we are not relationship compatible

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

Just because you notice someone you find attractive doesn't mean that person notices you. If you want her attention, go get it. Likewise for women, if you want the guy to notice you, make yourself noticeable

Hence, vibes.

 

[Erzengel]

Just be careful on not leading him on.

 

[Aesop Rocks]

The only thing I can think of unless there isn't something you're telling us, is it might be one if not all of the following:
A) You are still hung up on the ex, making moving on impossible.
B) You just haven't found the right one yet.
C) You sure you don't like guys?

A). Not hung up on her.
B). Never will.
C). Not anymore.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

I can't catch the vibes. If I could, i probably be in the NFL as a wide receiver.



Oh, Oh, Erz, I wanna answer C.

Well, according to people on another board, I have bi-curious thoughts.

Stephen Dorff and Justin (Green Arrow from Smallville) Hartley. One word: Dreamy.

Well, I mean, if the girl is hot let's say, chances are she doesn't have just you on her mind. So if you want said hot girl, she's going to want a little proof you're worth the time.

However, about not catching vibes? You gotta work at it. Or look up from your drink. o.o

Sometimes you gotta put them out yourself.

 

[BillyZaned]

Tell me about it. My bf takes the worst pictures. He always looks drunk or constipated in them. I don't really have any photos of him for that reason.

ha, my girl is the same way... she say's i just take a really bad picture... and when I even have one drink, I get that shiny face thing going because even one beer makes me sweet for some reason... lol...

 

[Erzengel]

A). Not hung up on her.
B). Never will.
C). Not anymore.

I don't know what I can tell ya. Although, the whole "never will" is a bit on the dramatic side.