*Official* Relationship Advice Thread Strikes Back

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

Can I see a movie for free!?!

 

[Erzengel]

I work at the movie theater.

Are there women who work there with you?

Have you ever gotten a vibe from them?

 

[S.A.A.D.]

Are there women who work there with you?

Have you ever gotten a vibe from them ?

Yup,What kind of vibe are we talking about here?

 

[Anubis]

The "I think I wanna do him in the bathroom" vibe.

 

[Erzengel]

A vibe of interest?

Okay, instead of going on a back and forth here essentially pulling teeth, here goes.

You work in a movie theater, with members of the opposite sex whom I'm assuming you have to engage in small talk. Do you get along with any of these girls, in a sense that you can ask any of them out?

 

[Anita18]

The thing is that I'm basically not a people person,I just really can't get into it,I've never been able to. Being around too many people makes me feel very uncomfortable,I really dig my comfort zone. It makes me feel like such a tag along,and I hate it.

You sound exactly like my bf. The only people he can stand being around for long periods of time aside for me are his skateboarder and/or programmer friends who aren't into idle chitchat. He hates that stuff, which is why he hates being around his relatives while I think they're totally cool.

He went off by himself once when my family was hiking and my dad thought he would be in a crowd of people off in the distance. My mom was like, "No, he'll be where nobody else is!" They had only met him the day before and she already knew exactly what he would do.

I'm starting to think that the word hermit is one of your favorite words. Hehehe.

But it so aptly describes my personality! I'm not anti-social, I do like people, but I'm really awkward in most social situations and I prefer being alone most of the time. Or at least in situations where I'm not pressured to do or say anything, like spending time with my bf or my family. We are chill-central.

I hate people. But I can fake it.

There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. But you can't necessarily complain about the lack of interest because of it.

Definitely. That's what I did for a number of years and it finally turned around when I got off my ass to circumvent it. Meeting someone online doesn't mean we're losers, it just means we needed another way to find people like us.

I did have a coworker I was mildly attracted to, but dating at work (especially when we were such a small group) was the quickest road to awkwardville.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

A vibe of interest?

Okay, instead of going on a back and forth here essentially pulling teeth, here goes.

You work in a movie theater, with members of the opposite sex whom I'm assuming you have to engage in small talk. Do you get along with any of these girls, in a sense that you can ask any of them out?

Well recently,I think that there was a vibe of interest,although I am not sure. This girl who I never talked to before at work said hi to me,and I said hi to her back,and then later on she approached me. She asked me my name and acknowledged how she didn't talk to me before,and then told me her name?!,then she was like I'm leaving for school soon. Before going back to concession. The whole deal just seemed pretty unusual and fishy to me.

 

[Erzengel]

How old are you?

 

[Erzengel]

Definitely. That's what I did for a number of years and it finally turned around when I got off my ass to circumvent it. Meeting someone online doesn't mean we're losers, it just means we needed another way to find people like us.

I did have a coworker I was mildly attracted to, but dating at work (especially when we were such a small group) was the quickest road to awkwardville.

Yeah, Loser has a point.

 

[terry78]

How old are you?

If it doesn't end with a teen, I would just drop it altogether.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

How old are you?

26.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

A vibe of interest?

Okay, instead of going on a back and forth here essentially pulling teeth, here goes.

You work in a movie theater, with members of the opposite sex whom I'm assuming you have to engage in small talk. Do you get along with any of these girls, in a sense that you can ask any of them out?

I get along with them,even though there are a few that I despise. I would have to say no on that one.

 

[Erzengel]

If it doesn't end with a teen, I would just drop it altogether.

26.

One of my friend's got involved with a guy when he was around 28. In the course of a year and a half, I surmised that he lost his virginity to her, then got married and had a kid.

He was a little socially awkward and wouldn't be called a ladies man.

My point being there's always someone out there.

But at 26, you are starting to enter that age when women are expecting more than just looks, and what kind of car you drive.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah, Loser has a point.

Lil ol' know-it-all losery me always has a point.

26.

Geezer.

Spoiler

Me too. And you still have time, although it's about that age when you need to learn to chill out and not read anything into girls saying hi to you besides being friendly. Friendly is only the first step!

 

[Anita18]

One of my friend's got involved with a guy when he was around 28. In the course of a year and a half, I surmised that he lost his virginity to her, then got married and had a kid.

He was a little socially awkward and wouldn't be called a ladies man.

My point being there's always someone out there.

My cousin recently got married to who I believe is his first gf ever (of less than a year) and he's pretty socially awkward. Although he had a tight-knit group of equally socially-awkward friends at school and they met each other through this group.

My ex-bf also couldn't be counted as a ladies man (although he tried...and got his heart trampled on a few times ) but he finally found Miss Right last year and they got married earlier this year. But he's more of a social butterfly and decidedly a non-hermit.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

Lil ol' know-it-all losery me always has a point.


Geezer.

Spoiler

Me too. And you still have time, although it's about that age when you need to learn to chill out and not read anything into girls saying hi to you besides being friendly. Friendly is only the first step!

It wasn't just the hi part,but also what happened after that,when she came up to me. I was completely caught off guard,and it felt like a bit too strong for me.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

One of my friend's got involved with a guy when he was around 28. In the course of a year and a half, I surmised that he lost his virginity to her, then got married and had a kid.

He was a little socially awkward and wouldn't be called a ladies man.

My point being there's always someone out there.

But at 26, you are starting to enter that age when women are expecting more than just looks, and what kind of car you drive.

I'm not starting to enter that,I already knew that before I was 26.

 

[Erzengel]

Well from the other thread, I'm guessing you had an ex that you somehow broke up with and one of the sore spots was of your interests. How did you meet her?

 

[S.A.A.D.]

^Huh? I've never even had a gf before.

I'm one of the worst chick magnets around .

 

[Erzengel]

Oh, you just seemed really passionate about women who aren't into geeky interests. I assumed you were burned in the past.

So do you have friends, relatives who can set you up?

The more and more I hear, the clearer the solution is it's about you, you have to decide to want to change how you are or at least fake it.

 

[Ghostvirus]

I don't ever see you post anywhere else ERZ. Are you just like the Dr, Phil of the hype. You just hang out here, handing out the Love.?

 

[Erzengel]

Looking at my subscription it's this thread:

Mass Effect 2
NFL Thread
MLB Thread

But yeah, call me Dr. Love.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

Oh, you just seemed really passionate about women who aren't into geeky interests. I assumed you were burned in the past.

So do you have friends, relatives who can set you up?

The more and more I hear, the clearer the solution is it's about you, you have to decide to want to change how you are or at least fake it.

I don't intend on actually changing(for their benefit),I want to communicate to them that I am not that bad,it is their problem that I am not formulaic enough(lots of chicks love those guys imo). I like keeping it real,well for the most part that is. I don't have legit friends. The relatives thing is out of the question.

 

[Ghostvirus]

Looking at my subscription it's this thread:

Mass Effect 2
NFL Thread
MLB Thread

But yeah, call me Dr. Love.

Dude, I don't even know how to use my own subscriptions. LOL.

You should change your name to that. It would be cool.

 

[Erzengel]

Well this is going to come off as harsh, but you spent the last what 12 years of a dating age, doing what you are doing now and that's not working for you. So you are saying it's everyone else and not you? Talking to women is not that hard. Usually on a first date, I always keep the conversation on them and interject every so often. Call it formulaic or silly games. It's just how it is.