*Official* Relationship Advice Thread Strikes Back

[Erzengel]

I'm with someone and there's enough trust there that I have been able to meet up with an ex. And me being me, there are thoughts there, there just has to be restraint and recognition when it comes to trying to avoid temptation.

If one can still hang out with an ex and it be innocent that's fine but if you are hanging out and doing things you typically only do with a gf that's when you start having issues. You shouldn't also be hanging out as much with an ex as with your current.

Also does the current know that the ex is still around?

 

[knowsbleed]

The actual hanging out is innocent, but the girlfriend has said that she might kiss her. She has stated that the kiss would be nothing more than them being friends and that there is nothing sexual. But... couldn't that be construed as worse than just a physical/sexual kiss?

The girlfriend has never been in a relationship with another woman other than this one... and states that she doesn't normally feel attracted to women. The ex-girlfriend is the one who initiated the ex-relationship and is more of the traditional lesbian... so the guy doesn't really know if the girlfriend was just experimenting with the ex-girlfriend or if there might be future bi-sexual tendencies lurking within.

The guy is torn whether he should be concerned about old sparks flying or just letting the whole thing go and having interesting thoughts as a pleasant side-effect.

 

[Erzengel]

Well in this case, it all comes down to honesty and trust. Trust in the gf that she won't do anything however, I don't make it a point of kissing an ex hello on the lips. A hug suffices, lesbian or not, it should apply as well.

However, if she leans leaning more towards women than men, it's kinda out the guy's hands.

 

[Anita18]

However, if she leans leaning more towards women than men, it's kinda out the guy's hands.

Very true. I'm of the belief that if my bf turns out to be gay, the only thing I could do about that is if I had a penis. And I don't, so why worry?

 

[War Party]

Solved

 

[uchiha_itachi]

Go visit and make a move.

 

[Rain Dog]

I'd say go for it.

 

[Anubis]

Why the f**k are you posting this s**t on the Hype when you could be rounding second base as we speak?

 

[War Party]

Why the f**k are you posting this s**t on the Hype when you could be rounding second base as we speak?

Because I'm on the other side of the country right now for work.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

Dude just go for it,tell her how you feel.

 

[Erzengel]

How are you going to make a go of it if she's on the other side of the country?

 

[War Party]

How are you going to make a go of it if she's on the other side of the country?

Only for the next three days. I'll be back in Philly permanently after that.

 

[ComicChick]

ok tell her your feelings now, if she doesn't reciprocate, tell her you're staying to work there forever. if she reciprocates, then hurry back to Philly

 

[Anubis]

Play it cool. Tell her you really missed her too. Just don't go declaring your undying luff for her.

 

[terry78]

Everything turns into the last 10 minutes of a romantic comedy on this thread.

 

[Anubis]

[Romantic Comedy Guy]I know you're gonna marry that big handsome guy with the 20 Million dollars and the 10 inch penis, but......I looooooovvvvveeeeee yoooooouuuu!!!

[Romantic Comedy Girl]..................I love you tooooooo!!!

[Stereotypical minority friend] (insert Ethnic response for This is a wonderful development!)

 

[Dark Phantom]

Everything turns into the last 10 minutes of a romantic comedy on this thread.

Probably a better story than drew barrymore's "Going the Distance"

 

[Erzengel]

Alright here's the deal. I worked with this girl a year ago and we worked together five days a week. We always talked and got a long so well. We have so much in common, she has a twisted sense of humor like me, and basically we got along amazingly. We hung out a few times outside of work, most just meeting up at a bar and hanging out. I developed feelings for her but I never said anything, mainly because she had a boyfriend at the time and I wasn't going to be a creep.

Well her boyfriend broke up with her, and she went back home to Maryland instantly. So I basically lost touch with her. About four months ago we found each other on Facebook and we always talk. Obviously my feelings have reemerged for her during this time. Well I got this message from her last week, and I quote "Hi! I miss you! And I'm NOT drunk." So do you think this is my window to go and tell her I've had this huge crush on her and that we should give it a try?

And yes, she still lives in Maryland but we can easily make that work if things were to go further.

How are you going to make a go of it if she's on the other side of the country?

Only for the next three days. I'll be back in Philly permanently after that.

Why don't you just ask her out? I mean yeah you could tell her you had a crush on her for a while, but if she just recently broke up with her boyfriend, she might not be necessarily ready for a new relationship? Ask her to hang out, feel her out, then ask her out and make sure she's aware it's a date.

 

[War Party]

Sorry, I should have been more clear. She's been broken up with her boyfriend for awhile, so she's totally single. But she is bi and had a thing going on with this girl but that's over and done with. So I'm trying to figure out if she's more into guys or girls right now. I don't think she prefers one over the other.

 

[Erzengel]

Like I said, hang out, see what type of vibe you get, go from there.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Dear Hypehouse Letters Forum,

I sat across from this girl in Economics class, and I really think she's the one. Her dark hair, her beautiful eyes, her pale skin and those glasses that let me know she's smart and wouldn't hang around the *****ebags at the Frat house just scream to me that she's the one.

Today we locked eyes, caught in a whirlwind of passion and madness. I awkwardly smiled. She smiled back, I think, or maybe she winsed, and might of had something in her eye. The professor did just tell a joke, so maybe it had nothing to do with me. She wouldn't look at me, that's just silly. Anyways, where was I? Oh yes, the passion and madness. I can just picture her and I on a quiet beach, and she looks up at me and says "hold me burt". Yes, my name is Burt, don't make fun. The guy who played Robin was named Burt and he got laid all the time. I saw, they said so in that made for TV movie about them.

Anyways, today I really worked my game. I waited for the right moment, waited for a good ten minutes. Okay, it was twenty. Then I approached. I shashshayed over, channelling John Wayne, Harrison Ford and Mace Windu, because all the women love Mace Windu, I mean God, he's such a hot Jedi. No, get away bad thoughts. I saw her look up, and her eyes met mine. That's good, because it probably means she didn't notice my psoriasis. In my mind I had it all planned out. I'd walk up, take out my guitar and give my best rendition of "Love Song For No One" by John Mayer. It would be perfect.

Except I don't play guitar.

Instead I went with the safe choice, and awkward murmured "can I borrow your pencil". She looked up at me with her radiant gaze and said "...what? what did you just say".

"Oh, nevermind ha ha ha...I just found one it's cool".

It was cool, I was cool and I did find my pencil, so it worked out great. I don't want to get my hopes up but I went ahead and cancelled all potential plans because we're definitely going out this Friday. Oh yeah.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Sorry, I should have been more clear. She's been broken up with her boyfriend for awhile, so she's totally single. But she is bi and had a thing going on with this girl but that's over and done with. So I'm trying to figure out if she's more into guys or girls right now. I don't think she prefers one over the other.

Well, you're friends on Facebook, so that obviously means she likes you and wants you.

 

[War Party]

Well, you're friends on Facebook, so that obviously means she likes you and wants you.

You lie!

 

[Frodo]

Dear Hypehouse Letters Forum,

I sat across from this girl in Economics class, and I really think she's the one. Her dark hair, her beautiful eyes, her pale skin and those glasses that let me know she's smart and wouldn't hang around the *****ebags at the Frat house just scream to me that she's the one.

Today we locked eyes, caught in a whirlwind of passion and madness. I awkwardly smiled. She smiled back, I think, or maybe she winsed, and might of had something in her eye. The professor did just tell a joke, so maybe it had nothing to do with me. She wouldn't look at me, that's just silly. Anyways, where was I? Oh yes, the passion and madness. I can just picture her and I on a quiet beach, and she looks up at me and says "hold me burt". Yes, my name is Burt, don't make fun. The guy who played Robin was named Burt and he got laid all the time. I saw, they said so in that made for TV movie about them.

Anyways, today I really worked my game. I waited for the right moment, waited for a good ten minutes. Okay, it was twenty. Then I approached. I shashshayed over, channelling John Wayne, Harrison Ford and Mace Windu, because all the women love Mace Windu, I mean God, he's such a hot Jedi. No, get away bad thoughts. I saw her look up, and her eyes met mine. That's good, because it probably means she didn't notice my psoriasis. In my mind I had it all planned out. I'd walk up, take out my guitar and give my best rendition of "Love Song For No One" by John Mayer. It would be perfect.

Except I don't play guitar.

Instead I went with the safe choice, and awkward murmured "can I borrow your pencil". She looked up at me with her radiant gaze and said "...what? what did you just say".

"Oh, nevermind ha ha ha...I just found one it's cool".

It was cool, I was cool and I did find my pencil, so it worked out great. I don't want to get my hopes up but I went ahead and cancelled all potential plans because we're definitely going out this Friday. Oh yeah.

Sounds like Love.Lol.

 

[War Party]

Update: We're going to give it a try and see what happens.