*Official* Relationship Advice Thread Strikes Back

[BlackLantern]

good luck

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

^Thanks, dont think it looks good at the moment though!

 

[BlackLantern]

and if it doesnt work, tomorrow is another day

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

^True, but at the same time beggars cant be choosers!

 

[amazingfantasy15]

^Thanks, dont think it looks good at the moment though!

^True, but at the same time beggars cant be choosers!

These two things are big red flags, the first quote shows little confidence, the second, that you're settling for this girl. Just call, don't text and try to define what's going on. Everything you've said about this girl and you says you want more, but are too afriad to talk about it with her. Communication is very important and at this stage, you need to talk about it, not text. Texting works for a little message, not for actual conversations.

 

[Anubis]

In other words, QUIT BEING A WUSSY!

 

[terry78]

In other words, QUIT BEING A WUSSY!

LOL, the irony of the Hulk avvy is all up in your face.


Do what Green Scar would do, man. Take what you want.

 

[NotAHenchwench]

These two things are big red flags, the first quote shows little confidence, the second, that you're settling for this girl. Just call, don't text and try to define what's going on. Everything you've said about this girl and you says you want more, but are too afriad to talk about it with her. Communication is very important and at this stage, you need to talk about it, not text. Texting works for a little message, not for actual conversations.

I completely agree. This is exactly what I was going to type, but amazingfantasy15 got to it first.

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

These two things are big red flags, the first quote shows little confidence, the second, that you're settling for this girl. Just call, don't text and try to define what's going on. Everything you've said about this girl and you says you want more, but are too afriad to talk about it with her. Communication is very important and at this stage, you need to talk about it, not text. Texting works for a little message, not for actual conversations.

I know what you mean, and I would prefer to talk to her, but circumstances dictate that I just done get the chance, especially in private which I would prefer, because of my work and her work its also difficult to call her, its just one of those situations.

And in general I am a low confidence person, its my party trick to make fun of my low self esteem! And its not that I am settling for this girl, I do genuinly like her, and 2 weeks ago it was like we were a couple already before even going on a date, so the situation now is just confusing the hell out of me. I havent been thinking about it too much, but it is puzzling.

 

[AndThePickles]

And in general I am a low confidence person, its my party trick to make fun of my low self esteem!

I will be perfectly honest with you right now in hopes that you will stop doing what you just described:

There is no bigger turn off in the world. For most people, hearing a guy talk down on himself will turn people off to even being your friend.

 

[Erzengel]

I've said this throughout these threads and messageboards.

ACT confident, you don't necessarily have to BE confident.

 

[Erzengel]

I've said this throughout these threads and messageboards.

ACT confident, you don't necessarily have to BE confident.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I will be perfectly honest with you right now in hopes that you will stop doing what you just described:

There is no bigger turn off in the world. For most people, hearing a guy talk down on himself will turn people off to even being your friend.

What about having a sense of humor about yourself?

I talk down on myself all the time, though I typically do it in a joking way.

Or are you solely referring to the woe is me, I'm so emo type of self degradation?

 

[terry78]

The trick is to basically be self-deprecating but still come off confident, like....maybe Conan O' Brien. He insults himself almost every other sentence, but you know he's not miserable.

 

[AndThePickles]

What about having a sense of humor about yourself?

I talk down on myself all the time, though I typically do it in a joking way.

Or are you solely referring to the woe is me, I'm so emo type of self degradation?

A sense of humor about yourself and not being arrogant is one thing, but it is usually very blatant if the person genuinely believes about themselves what they are joking about. (And I'm talking more than something like joking about how tall you are or something light-hearted) Then the "joke" comes off as sad rather than funny, and shows that the person has so little self esteem that they even drag themselves down in public. There are also said "jokesters" who clearly say something bad about themselves in order to hear, "What are you talking about? You're so good looking/funny/awesome/etc."

 

[Anubis]

Or you could make fun of other people. Or beat a man to death in front of her. A lot of girls will immediately go into heat after seeing her man kill a guy.....or is that Lionesses......?

 

[Scourge2099]

I've said this throughout these threads and messageboards.

ACT confident, you don't necessarily have to BE confident.

Or act like an a****** because chicks seem to dig that for some reason.

 

[Frodo]

You basically just have to be yourself , and once you are, you'll be confident because you've got nothing to prove.

As for ,humor is a very important imo. I feel that if the woman can't make you smile or laugh, or visa versa, then there's no point in going forward. But even the humor part depends on your personality.


Those are my two cents anyway.

 

[Erzengel]

Or act like an a****** because chicks seem to dig that for some reason.

In all honesty, "some" women go for the bad boy types but they eventually grow out of it.

 

[Anubis]

Yeah, but by the time that happens, they've already gotten knocked up by the bad boy, and you wouldn't wanna be with em anyway. So your best bet is to go for the chicks that don't know any better yet.

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

I will be perfectly honest with you right now in hopes that you will stop doing what you just described:

There is no bigger turn off in the world. For most people, hearing a guy talk down on himself will turn people off to even being your friend.

Well thats weird because I have TONS of friends and everyone i know thinks i'm hilarious! I guess I do it in the right way.

What about having a sense of humor about yourself?

I talk down on myself all the time, though I typically do it in a joking way.

Or are you solely referring to the woe is me, I'm so emo type of self degradation?

Thats like me Nell, I like to make fun of myself as well as others, i'm the type of person to make fun out of someone and then turn around say "Dunno what i'm on about look at the state of me......." I'm a good time man, I love having a joke and a good time its just my personality, making people laugh is what i'm good at, if thats wrong then i'm screwed!

Yeah, but by the time that happens, they've already gotten knocked up by the bad boy, and you wouldn't wanna be with em anyway. So your best bet is to go for the chicks that don't know any better yet.

That could just be the best advice ever!

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

Anyway, back to my situation, i'm doubley confused now, I text her yesterday asking how she was, she text back asking how I was, I text her again asking what she was upto at the weekend, and no reply since, this was yesterday, i'm getting to the point now were I dont know if its worth it as clearly something is going on.

Its likely i'll see her out and about some time this weekend, I may just go back to being a friend type with her.

 

[Eggyman]

She could be seeing someone and doesn't know how to break it to you so chooses silence over leading you on or letting you down. Happened to me once.

 

[AVEITWITHJAMON]

She could be seeing someone and doesn't know how to break it to you so chooses silence over leading you on or letting you down. Happened to me once.

Well i'd rather she just told me if that was the case and i'd back off, i'm a grown man I can take it if she is, I told this to her best friend last week and she said she'd pass the message on so god knows whats happening.

 

[Eggyman]

Well i'd rather she just told me if that was the case and i'd back off, i'm a grown man I can take it if she is, I told this to her best friend last week and she said she'd pass the message on so god knows whats happening.

Sounds simple, right? Some people don't communicate as well as others. I have a big mouth and normally people know I have a problem even before I do. My missus on the other hand... I need KY Jelly and a crowbar to get it out of her.