Okay, I need some advice (for mature people).

[Mee]

What if you're clautstrophobic in public settings, don't have any friends and you're too paranoid to think that anyone on the net is anyone other than a 50 year old gay obese man?

Welcome to mommy's basement.

 

[jaguarr]

What if you're clautstrophobic in public settings, don't have any friends and you're too paranoid to think that anyone on the net is anyone other than a 50 year old gay obese man?

Then this guy is your Obi-Wan.

jag

 

[Ronny Shade]

I love interdisciplinary threads

 

[Erzengel]

What if you're clautstrophobic in public settings, don't have any friends and you're too paranoid to think that anyone on the net is anyone other than a 50 year old gay obese man?

Dating is all about numbers. Could a "girl" you are talking possible be a bored or horny male, possibly, but I'm sure if you ever meet them in a public place, I think the gig would be up.

 

[Ronny Shade]

Dating is all about numbers. Could a "girl" you are talking possible be a bored or horny male, possibly, but I'm sure if you ever meet them in a public place, I think the gig would be up.

Probably.

 

[Immortalfire]

I'd rather be around a girl who is a good person, who maybe won't put out until marriage, than a ****ty girl who is annoying as all hell.

That does have a certain logic to it.

 

[November Rain]

Okay, I'm really confused now, and frankly, frustrated.

There is this girl I like. She is a very pretty and smart girl. I've gotten to know her over the past 3 months. We have become really good friends, and talk all the time. The problem is...

...I work with her (at Dunham's Sports).

I'd like to say something, just to get it off my chest.

Any advice or suggestions you could give me?

I'm looking for mature comments, not stupid ones.

find another lady to occupy your time with...

at its current pace, this isn't going to go anywhere decent.

so either find another person and go down that route, and create controversy by going out with someone else and see how she takes it. At this stage it should be as plain as day whether she has feelings for you or not. (at this stage).

or you could always grow a moustache. :heart:

 

[Erzengel]

Probably.

You don't have really that much to lose.

 

[Ronny Shade]

You don't have really that much to lose.

Who said we were talking about me?

 

[Erzengel]

Who said we were talking about me?

Sorry I was speaking in general(you) and not you specifically.

 

[Fran]

Uh oh, she's a church girl. Is she heavily religious? Because if you're looking for a girl to date and eventually make sweet love to...girls who are religious aren't the way to go because you'll be waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting, and waiting for quite some time.

But it sounds to me like you've already got everything in hand. You went out with her, not necessarily on dates before, but outside of work you've been out. That's more than enough as a sign that you're not repulsive or that you suck. Take a chance, and considering that you know her, know the right time and place to make your move.

I don't know the girl so I can't help you any further than to tell you, good luck, and hopefully she's a relgious girl who is liberal about giving play.

She's not horribly religious. She has deep beliefs, but is not one of those churchy-type girls.

I'll know when it's time. I've just gotta figure it out.

Great advice, dude. Thank you.

 

[November Rain]

My own father and several older mentors in my life used to always tell me "never date where you work", because if it goes south you'll still have to work with that person (or worse). I didn't listen to them and in one of my first professional jobs when I was around 25, I started pursuing this 20 year old girl who worked in our onsite cafeteria. We hit it off at first, and she used to bring me little love notes and flowers to my desk and my co-workers were all very familiar with her because she came around to see me so much. Unfortunately, I wasn't paying attention to the warning signs that this girl was complete nutjob. She disappeared for about a week from work and I couldn't find her, either. Then one Saturday afternoon she calls me, talks for about three minutes about absolutely nothing while avoiding answering my quetions about what had happened to her. Then says, "can you call me back in five minutes?" with an excuse that her roommate's baby was sick. Like an idiot, I did. She had me call her back two more times after that. She then showed up at my door about an hour later with her roommate, saying that it was over and that she wanted some of the things she'd left at my apartment. I thought it was incredibly bizarre. Then I went to work that Monday morning and was promptly greeted by three security guards about two minutes after I'd sat down in my office to begin work. They took me down to a room where my boss was waiting for me along with his boss and some HR people. She'd accused me of stalking her! MAN did that freak me the hell out. She'd filed a telephone harassment complaint with the local magistrate court, too, just to try and corroborate her story. So THAT was what all the "call me back business" had been about (they have to have an operator trace three calls in order to be able to "confirm" there was actually harassment). Even though I still had all the little love letters and things that she'd left for me and said so, and my co-workers stepped up and testified that this girl had been dating me, they still sent me home for a few days. I produced copies of all the love letters in my statement that I wrote for the magistrate judge, including the most recent one which was about a week before she disappeared, and noted in my statement that she disappeared for a week (which could be confirmed by her work records) with no phone call to me (which could be confirmed by my phone records) and then all of a sudden called me on a Saturday afternoon (also confirmed by my phone records) and then asked me to call her back three times due to having to "deal with her roommate's baby". If I was really harassing her, would she have called me first after disappearing for a week like that? Not likely, and the judge agreed and dismissed the case. I presented that dismissal, along with my statement and all that evidence to our security people at work as well as my boss, along with written statements from my coworkers. They allowed me back to work and fired her ass for filing false accusations. I later found out she'd gone back to her ex-boyfriend and just didn't want to tell me, so she tried to ruin my life instead. F**ked up. Never again did I date at the places I've worked since then, which was for the best anyway because I'd never have met my wife if I had. It's not worth it.

jag

[doc ock]Ha![/doc ock]

 

[Fran]

Oh, are you sadly mistaken. Nearly all of the girls I engaged in deviant behavior with in high school and college were very religious. Two of 'em were preacher's daughters, actually. Religious girls can be A LOT of fun, my friend.

jag

Yeah, my buddy has a girlfriend that is a pastor's daughter. She doesn't act like one, though.

She acts closer to Reverend Lovejoy's daughter, but not a bad-a$$ like her.

 

[Ronny Shade]

Sorry I was speaking in general(you) and not you specifically.

good, my reputation is safe

 

[Erzengel]

She's not horribly religious. She has deep beliefs, but is not one of those churchy-type girls.

I'll know when it's time. I've just gotta figure it out.

Great advice, dude. Thank you.

Don't overthink this.

 

[Fran]

Wait for your balls to drop, then ask her out.

Read the thread's title. Especially the part in parenthesis.

 

[Fran]

Don't overthink this.

I'm not overthinking it at all, trust me.

It IS on my mind, no doubt, but I've got school, and work and stuff.

 

[Fran]

find another lady to occupy your time with...

at its current pace, this isn't going to go anywhere decent.

so either find another person and go down that route, and create controversy by going out with someone else and see how she takes it. At this stage it should be as plain as day whether she has feelings for you or not. (at this stage).

or you could always grow a moustache. :heart:

Well, I asked her to a football game (Michigan State vs. Ohio State), and she said yes, with no hesitation.

I'll grow a mustache as cool as Hades'...

 

[Ronny Shade]

pretty sure Hades doesn't actually have a mustache.


PS. Are you a MSU or OSU fan?

PPS Both are the wrong answer

 

[Erzengel]

Well, I asked her to a football game (Michigan State vs. Ohio State), and she said yes, with no hesitation.

I'll grow a mustache as cool as Hades'...

And then when she least expects it.

 

[Fran]

pretty sure Hades doesn't actually have a mustache.


PS. Are you a MSU or OSU fan?

PPS Both are the wrong answer

MSU all the way, even though I attend school at Western Michigan...

My title states "Bleeding Green and White".

 

[Fran]

And then when she least expects it.

NO!

I mean... maybe.

 

[Ronny Shade]

MSU all the way, even though I attend school at Western Michigan...

My title states "Bleeding Green and White".

It does doesn't it.

Well as a U of M student, you are my mortal enemy, but not as much as you would be if you were and OSU fan.

 

[Fran]

It does doesn't it.

Well as a U of M student, you are my mortal enemy, but not as much as you would be if you were and OSU fan.

U-M's goin' down October 7th.

I know some people that are goin to U-M.

 

[Ronny Shade]

Maybe I know them.


But probably not.