But wether you agree or not, there has been more than one person at Marvel who has felt that the marriage was, maybe no a problem, but perhaps an obstacle. Maybe the better word would be annoyance.
They have tried to put strain on their relationship, they have tried to kill her, they got her to move away, they also tried to have them live happily. But no one seems to be happy with these resolutions.
We don't know for a fact that MJ will die. All we know is that people at marvel, even "some" fans are not happy with the marriage, or think that it could be better if Pete was single.
How does this seem forced at all? To me, all the other Marvel events seem forced, and this is something that maybe the fans don't agree with, but Marvel wants to deal with. And they are doing it. Just because it is a blockbuster event doesn't mean it's forced.
Oh of course, there are lots of people at Marvel that dislike the marriage as well as fans that dislike the marriage. As per your point though, it seems every time they try to end the marriage that's when the fans really speak up and demand MJ back. The majority, at least the way it appears to me, is that the fans like MJ and want the two to be married. Why people at Marvel keep complaining about MJ when the fans seem to like her is beyond me.
Now as far as the forced thing goes, if you don't feel a lot of these Spidey events feel forced, than that's cool. To each his or her own.
They come off very contrived and forced to me, the stories don't seem to flow naturally IMO. Morlun comes to mind as an example of this. They wanted this villain to really be a bad ass, to be the one that Spider-Man couldn't beat and who would kill him. There was no deep back story though only this totem stuff and it was a very new character. There was no, wow this is a long time foe of Spider-Man who really has this pent up rage and he's finally figured out a way to beat him. To me, the whole, he hits harder than the Hulk and the totem stuff and the eating of the eye, etc. etc. etc. IT just came across as forced, at least IMO. There forcing it down my throat that Morlun is the toughest villain Spider-Man ever faced (which I don't buy) and he's going to die at his hands, he got lucky to beat him the 1st time, blah, blah, blah.
Maybe it's just me but I feel like these writers are trying to tell me how to feel about a story instead of letting me read about it and make up my own mind or come to my own conclusion. If I go to a horror movie, don't tell me I should be scared... scare me!

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