so it'd be wrong for clark to get with lois without her knowing he's superman? or it'd be wrong for superman to get with wonder woman without her knowing he's clark? would it be wrong for superman to get with a chick who doesnt even know who clark kent is, without supes telling her he has a secret identity?
its superman lois trusts and loves and wants to be with, and she willingly gave herself to him, that was her business and decision. true, it might be a bit decieving on supes' behalf...but since clark is a fictional personality, its not who he is, its not what defines him...i can understand it. besides, imagine how much that'd have killed the moment! right before he's about to get some pu$$y he's gotta be like, "before we do this, theres something i gotta tell you..." lois woulda bolted for the door! ha.
but, i dont think it's so much wrong as it would just be a real awkward situation when lois finds out the truth...
SUPERMAN: okay, so heres the thing, now your gonna get a real kick out of this...maybe not right away, but in a few years your gonna laugh real hard over this...and i figure i should tell you now, what with us having a child and all....
but thats a take on the character that didnt originate in the donner/singer films, nor is it exclusive to them. just saying, singer and donner cant be blamed for that existing. some people dig that, some people dont...any supes film is gonna lose with certian people no matter which way they go with that.
but bruce always knew catwoman was selina. her secret identity wasnt a secret to him. but selina never knew bats was bruce. so its not an entirely even playing field. they're just in the same profession of kicking ass.