REALLY BAD break-ups

[jaymes_e06]

Have you ever had one. Thats what I'm going through right now. I find myself feeling the most defeated I've ever been.

Hence the sig. lol

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

Sorry about the bad break up. Just try to stay positive and know that life does not revolve around your relationship. Get out and have fun with friends and just enjoy life. Keep your head up Bro!

 

[jaymes_e06]

Thanks man the worst part about my break-up is it wasn't so much that we fought a lot or something like that it had to do with a long distance thing. We both tried very hard (especially me) to show it could work but we failed miserably. I keep trying to tell myself "eff it" but then something reminds me of them and I just get sucked right back into that feeling of defeat.

I don't usually post such personal things like this but I find it hard to talk to my family and friends about it.

 

[Webley]

Years ago I came home and with a big smile on her face
my wife told me that she got a three dollar raise at her job.
I said "Wow thats grate."
Then she said to me that she wants a divorce to get out of the house right now and that she was going to take everything.

So to make me fell better I went back to the place when she was at work and droped a dead rackcoon in her well and then crimped all the gas lines to the house.

She had to spend some time in the hospital becaus of the contaminated drinking water

were married for 5 years be for we split and be for we married we lived to gether for 5 years.
I think of her as the woman that took my 20s

 

[gn6196]

Love stinks, but we need it to survive. Sorry man . It will take time to be ok again.

 

[Kane52630]

huh, kinda weird I just watched (500) Days of Summer.

 

[jaymes_e06]

Years ago I came home and with a big smile on her face
my wife told me that she got a three dollar raise at her job.
I said "Wow thats grate."
Then she said to me that she wants a divorce to get out of the house right now and that she was going to take everything.

So to make me fell better I went back to the place when she was at work and droped a dead rackcoon in her well and then crimped all the gas lines to the house.

She had to spend some time in the hospital becaus of the contaminated drinking water

were married for 5 years be for we split and be for we married we lived to gether for 5 years.
I think of her as the woman that took my 20s

This makes me feel so much better! Thank you for sharing.

 

[Eggyman]

Yeh, it can be hard. Best advice: Go get drunk, have a sexy time, catch some germs. You won't have time to think about her when your member's crumbling into the toilet.

 

[Webley]

it had to do with a long distance thing.

This is to bad becaus I would have suggested you do what I did.
You know what you should do is poop in a box amd mail it to her.

For me I found it vere therapeutic to hate her. I do not believe in god but some times I find myself praying for her to die of ovarian cancer before her next birthday.

 

[jaymes_e06]

This thread is making me feel better and better. lol

 

[Spider-Who?]

I was with a girl for 6 years. We were best friends before that. We were together all through college and then some. Got engaged. We had our fights, but i was damned good to her. She had a lot of mental and emotional problems that plagued our relationship, but i stood by her and did everything i could to help her. 3 months before the wedding, her grandfather died. I dropped everything and drove 15 hours straight to be by her side. Almost lost my job over it. Then, a month before the wedding, my last living grandparent was in the hospital. After being in their for a week, the doctors told us that she'd be dead in just a few hours. I called my fiance to tell her, and say that I was coming home to pick her up to say goodbye (my grandma and her were close). I get home to find her with a moving truck and a guy from her work in my house. She said she was leaving and that was that. We argued for a while and she tried acting like it was the best thing for us and that she hoped we could remain friends. I threw both her and the guy she was cheating on me with out, locked the house (with the rest of her stuff in it). Told her if she tried to get in, I'd press charges (I didn't want her and the dude alone in my home) and went back to the hospital to hold my grandmother's hand as she died. The ex never came back to pick up her stuff and I've not heard or seen her since. It will have been two years ago in a few weeks.

Worst day of my entire life.

 

[AndThePickles]

Thanks man the worst part about my break-up is it wasn't so much that we fought a lot or something like that it had to do with a long distance thing. We both tried very hard (especially me) to show it could work but we failed miserably. I keep trying to tell myself "eff it" but then something reminds me of them and I just get sucked right back into that feeling of defeat.

I don't usually post such personal things like this but I find it hard to talk to my family and friends about it.

Putting things in perspective may help. Look at it this way- it is not as much of a "REALLY BAD" breakup when it's not like you both ended it hating each other (at least, that's not how you've made it appear so far). Nothing horrible happened, you just weren't at the right locations to be with each other. Every relationship is an opportunity to grow and learn more about yourself. Breakups don't have to end with people feeling defeated, or have to end in drama. Sometimes things just don't work out.

Now you know that things didn't work with your ex, and you can learn from the situation and therefore hopefully have a more successful relationship next time. This is an opportunity for you to date someone that you like even more, and that will be close by to you in location. Stay positive.

 

[Cuyan]

This is why making sure you go through the friendship process before the relationship process can be so beneficial.

 

[Spider-Who?]

This is why making sure you go through the friendship process before the relationship process can be so beneficial.

i would like to agree, but read my post above. There's no guarantee.

 

[Cuyan]

There are exceptions to every rule. I don't think I would classify your circumstance as a common one. In addition, death has a way of creating rifts where there might otherwise be none. I don't think you should continue living under the idea that what happened to you once could happen again. That seems like a decent recipe for unnecessary depression. Of course there is no way to guarantee that a relationship will go the distance, unknown variables being what they are. However, I operate under the assumption there is no point to my existence if I do not take risks every now and again. I guess I am adventurous in that way.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

This is why making sure you go through the friendship process before the relationship process can be so beneficial.

I don't know about that, obviously it's important to be friends with your significant other, but I usually don't befriend a girl before asking her out, that's just a recipe to end up in the friend's zone.

 

[Cuyan]

The "friend zone" is just a catch-all term for people caught in a situation where their affection or attractions aren't reciprocated.

 

[ChickenScratch]

I was with the same girl all through college and 2 years after. We lived together here and even spent a year living and working in Japan together and 7 months doing the same in Italy. We always talked about the future, marriage, kids, all that but we wanted to get our lives settled and our traveling done. Last thing we wanted was to be those people who had kids without having careers, home, car, all the good stuff settled, people like that struggle through life.

I lost my job and lost my grandmother within a month of each other, at my lowest I got a phone call from her saying it's just not working and she wanted to end it. Never saw her again, dumped me over the phone after more than 5 years when I was at my lowest point.

 

[Scourge2099]

You could always spread rumors about her all over town. I did that to this one chick and she had to move out of town because of the humiliation.

 

[ChickenScratch]

I'm not a malicious person. Making someone suffer is in no way moral.

 

[Scourge2099]

It was a really bad break up though. I could've tossed a dead opossum on her porch , but I figured spreading rumors about her would be better.

 

[Cuyan]

Those were the two most reasonable options?

 

[LegendaryCaleb]

You could always spread rumors about her all over town. I did that to this one chick and she had to move out of town because of the humiliation.

thats messed up man...i broke up with a girl because we werent clicking...i was absolutely sweet to her and she spread rumors that i tried to rape her...only a couple redneck **** believed her but rumors suck

 

[ChickenScratch]

It was a really bad break up though. I could've tossed a dead opossum on her porch , but I figured spreading rumors about her would be better.

That's very small of you. You were hurt so you hurt back, really? Spreading rumors that are no doubt lies, what does that do but make a bad situation worse and make you seem all the less civilized. As a man you should behave like a gentleman, with dignity, dragging someone's name through the gutter is not that.

 

[Mace Dolex]

I broke up with my girlfriend but we didn't have any personal attachments so the break up wasn't as bad.