I got a date!

[kainedamo]

Sort of.

SO!! Tonight I went to that munch thing again. I was talking to that girl. You know, the girl you all thought I had blown it with? And well, I felt awkward to tell you the truth. I'm going through a weird thing at the moment I don't really wanna get into. But basically I feel like I can't socialize with anybody lately. I've lost all ability to hold a decent conversation. I dunno. I did better than last time. I talked about when I was away, managed to tell an interesting story about that, make her laugh. But there were silences, yeah. I've been feeling like this alot lately with alot of people. Maybe it takes me awhile to get into my comfort zone with people, I don't know. But I don't think I was ever quite this bad. And during the silences, I'd think "ask her what movies she likes", then I thought "No, thats a really generic question".

I asked her what shes doing over the weekend, just to make conversation. She must have thought I was asking her out again, 'cause she said "well, how about Wednesday? We can do something on Wednesday". Score. Sort of. Because I mean, I had felt pretty awkward up to this point. Later on, I made the dumbest joke ever. I swear to God, this is gonna keep me up tonight. She said "I'm going to the toilet. Thats all I seem to be doing tonight, going to the toilet". And I said "are you a camel??". It sounded alot funnier in my head. As soon as I said it, I thought to myself "jesus... what did I just say".

So we'll see how things go on wednesday! What do you guys recommend? I said to her we could see a movie or eat somewhere. Maybe we could do both. She said she wants to see that Golden Flower film. Generally, I'm better with people one on one than I am with a group. Hopefully, I can find my comfort zone or whatever and just ****ing relax and be myself.

I actually don't know alot about her. I know she goes to Uni. She SEEMS to be a little shy, but I could be wrong. She seems to like "walks". She's been to Rome. She's tight with the admin team of the website. I need to think of conversation starters. And I need to be in a relaxed, comfortable frame of mind to keep up a good conversation.

 

[Kaboom]

good luck dude i hope ity works out....but no more toilet talk

 

[Cmill216]

I got a date!

*sniff, sniff*

Is that sulfur?

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Sort of.

SO!! Tonight I went to that munch thing again. I was talking to that girl. You know, the girl you all thought I had blown it with?

Tons in that thread said YOU were mad to think YOU'd blown it with her.
I remember one specifically that said, "You're drunk. When you wake up sober tomorrow you'll realize it was no big deal."

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Congratulations, you now have a new stage of the relationship process to screw up and tell us all about in a thread.

 

[kainedamo]

You're right Wilhelm. I did think I had blown it. And yet, she asked for my mobile number. And tonight, I thought I was being weird and awkward, and she said we should meet on Wednesday. I can't read people for ****.

 

[Noir]

Artists Rendering of Kainedamo Date:

 

[Orko Is King]

Put on a nice shirt and turn on the charm button. Good luck!t:

 

[ShadowBoxing]

You're right Wilhelm. I did think I had blown it. And yet, she asked for my mobile number. And tonight, I thought I was being weird and awkward, and she said we should meet on Wednesday. I can't read people for ****.

When you said "are you a camel", that actually probably worked for your favor. Girls like it when you tease them.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

You're right Wilhelm. I did think I had blown it. And yet, she asked for my mobile number. And tonight, I thought I was being weird and awkward, and she said we should meet on Wednesday. I can't read people for ****.

We've established that you're weird and awkward and a novice when it comes to socializing.

There are worse things to be.
I knew a lady in Utah that had to have her entire nose surgically removed.
She looked like a skull and I can't imagine she'll get laid anytime soon.

Weird, Awkward people get laid everyday, and the only way you can get better at something is to keep doing.
So, since "weird/awkward" is what you are, stop worrying about it at all.

Without bothering to second guess yourself, over-analyze and anxiously obsess over your imperfections, you may actually find them melting away.

I am speaking from experience as, when I was a kid I was weird and awkward with all but a handful who "got" me.
I relaxed and am no longer....awkward or weird in an unintentionally obvious or off-putting way.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Artists Rendering of Kainedamo Date:

LOL

 

[kainedamo]

Artists Rendering of Kainedamo Date:

She's actually very attractive. Which is all the more reason for me to feel awkward and feel like I'm gonna stuff it up and overthink it.

 

[kainedamo]

I said to her I would look up the movie times and send them to her.

I'm deviously going to wait until Sunday to do that. Make it seem like I'm not desperately waiting for the first chance to contact her. Hah.

 

[kainedamo]

We've established that you're weird and awkward and a novice when it comes to socializing.

There are worse things to be.
I knew a lady in Utah that had to have her entire nose surgically removed.
She looked like a skull and I can't imagine she'll get laid anytime soon.

Weird, Awkward people get laid everyday, and the only way you can get better at something is to keep doing.
So, since "weird/awkward" is what you are, stop worrying about it at all.

Without bothering to second guess yourself, over-analyze and anxiously obsess over your imperfections, you may actually find them melting away.


I am speaking from experience as, when I was a kid I was weird and awkward with all but a handful who "got" me.
I relaxed and am no longer....awkward or weird in an unintentionally obvious or off-putting way.

This is what I do. If I don't say something, I regret it later. If I do say something, either immediately or later I'll think to myself that was a stupid thing to say.

My best friend Seamus once told me that when we're talking to strangers, sometimes I have a look of embarresment on my face when I say something.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

This is what I do. If I don't say something, I regret it later. If I do say something, either immediately or later I'll think to myself that was a stupid thing to say.

My best friend Seamus once told me that when we're talking to strangers, sometimes I have a look of embarresment on my face when I say something.

It's a difficult self-perpetuating cyclical thing, but you can get practice arresting it while it's happening and it gets easier and easier until one day you don't do it anymore and look back on your silly insecurity and over-thinking with a laugh.

There's a lot more I could say on it, but I'm bored of being nice and have to go. But instead of dreading the idea that you're going to say something dumb and f*** up, I'd decide to take COMFORT in the FACT that you're going to say something dumb and f*** up.

We're all stupid, weak, pathetic hairless monkeys, leaping around the giant rock trying to get food, shelter and sex.
It's all silly when viewed from above and so laughing at ourselves is liberating, and, ironically, a key to accessing that which is most impressively clever, strong and noble about our hairless monkey selves.

 

[Babs Gordon]

Good luck kaine!!!! i'll send you positive vibes next wednesday...


...if I remember

 

[tzarinna]

Can't wait to hear all about it.

 

[Erzengel]

What do you want from us Kaine?

Want to put a little headset in your ear so we can tell you what to do or say?

You lucked out on a date with her, but you aren't even prepared for it. You don't know where to take her and you don't know what to talk about.

You should have asked for her number and called her.

But since this is where you are at. Why don't you just take her out for coffee and tea and since she likes walks, if coffee/tea goes well go to a park or something.

 

[Babs Gordon]

That last one is a top notch recommendation. Coffee/walks are good. That way you guys can talk and figure out if there's any chemistry.

 

[Noir]

Don't tie her up!
Don't beat her up!

...Don't treat her like a wonder twin.

 

[Mee]

Later on, I made the dumbest joke ever. I swear to God, this is gonna keep me up tonight. She said "I'm going to the toilet. Thats all I seem to be doing tonight, going to the toilet". And I said "are you a camel??". It sounded alot funnier in my head. As soon as I said it, I thought to myself "jesus... what did I just say".

Hahahahahahaha


Smooth.

 

[Showtime]

You know what would be awesome? If she was a member of these boards and read your thread and thought you were a freak for posting the comings and goings of your pre-date excitement. Yeah...that would be cool.

 

[WorthyStevens]

I got a date!

If I were an internet lingo kind of person, I'd be LMAO right now.

 

[Abaddon]

only on hype.

 

[CyberFaust]

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kaine, one request, when the next thread goes up PM me, i don't want to miss this