Serious Sexual Question!

[The Amazing Lee]

My erection came back.

 

[hippy fascist]

i new there was more to that picture of you in a dress than you were letting on...

 

[The Amazing Lee]

Crap. my secret is out.

 

[hippy fascist]

Crap. my secret is out.

 

[The Amazing Lee]

Oh...I kept one secret in.

























No one will realise that I am really a woman.

 

[jaguarr]

well, last night, it was my uncles bday, he's over from england, so we had a party for him... well my girl had to work, she waitressing part time... I called her a few times, cause I know her leaving time is eratic... she never picked up once or messaged me back when i messaged her... she's ussualy done around 10 on normal nights... well I got home at 11 and she wasn't home... I fell asleep waiting up for her, she didn't get home till after midnight, I asked her why she got out so late, she said they were busy... i talked to the bartender there today (were friends) and I was like "heard you were busy last night" he said they weren't and that Katie go off at 10.... I tried calling her to ask her about this, and she didn't pick up... I left a message about the sitituation and then tried calling her a few times before her shift tonight, she never picked up once.... I don't know what to think.... her cell was on, and I got pushed to the voice mail every time I called...

You just got engaged not too long ago, right? She might be freaking out about that, now that it's had time to sink in. It's not uncommon. Sounds like it's time for a heart to heart to see what's really going on.

jag

 

[Fred_Fury]

maybe shes tired of your ass calling her so much you damn stalker

 

[jaguarr]

maybe shes tired of your ass calling her so much you damn stalker

Have you ever been in a long-term, committed relationship with a woman that you wanted to marry, Fred? If not, then sit down and be quiet.

jag

 

[Crooklyn]

You just got engaged not too long ago, right? She might be freaking out about that, now that it's had time to sink in.

Freaking out by lying to your husband when you got off work, and going off somewhere for an hour or so doing god knows what?

 

[The Amazing Lee]

At least the attention is off me now.

 

[jaguarr]

Freaking out by lying to your husband when you got off work, and going off somewhere for an hour or so doing god knows what?

They're engaged, not married. I also gather that they live together. She arranged time for herself to be alone and not deal with Nick, which means she either ran off to bone somebody else or she wanted time to think. If she wanted time to think...without Nick around...it means she may be freaking out about the concept of being married to him and is having some second thoughts. It's not uncommon for that to occur after people get engaged. Or, maybe she's working on a kewl surprise for him that he'll love, who knows. But if she's been distant with him, my money is on her getting cold feet and not knowing whether she wants to continue on with him or break it off.

jag

 

[Lackey]

Oh for f**k sake.

what? I know that picture works for me everytime I have problems

 

[The Amazing Lee]

My crotch is not for other people's amusement.

 

[Crooklyn]

They're engaged, not married. I also gather that they live together. She arranged time for herself to be alone and not deal with Nick, which means she either ran off to bone somebody else or she wanted time to think. If she wanted time to think...without Nick around...it means she may be freaking out about the concept of being married to him and is having some second thoughts. It's not uncommon for that to occur after people get engaged. Or, maybe she's working on a kewl surprise for him that he'll love, who knows. But if she's been distant with him, my money is on her getting cold feet and not knowing whether she wants to continue on with him or break it off.

jag

I know what you're saying, but it's just an odd situation. Usually when the girl is hesitant on things, she'll more than likely be just distant in conversations and not act like "herself".

Plus it was the guy's Uncle's b-day party, seems like an odd time to be with yourself for an hour. Just seems fishy that she lied about working late, that's all.

 

[hippy fascist]

My crotch is not for other people's amusement.

it's certainly not doing much for your mrs...oooh t:

 

[The Amazing Lee]

it's certainly not doing much for your mrs...oooh t:

I knew this joke was coming up.

And I do please her...I just seem to lose it after a while.

 

[The Question]

Now I weigh nearly 200

200's hardly what I'd consider fat. Hell, I weight more than than and I wouldn't call myself fat (although I do have a gut). 'Course, I'm pretty damn tall and naturally built big, so that may be it.

 

[The Amazing Lee]

I am incredibly unfit though.

I mean UNCREDIBLY.

 

[The Shape]

well, last night, it was my uncles bday, he's over from england, so we had a party for him... well my girl had to work, she waitressing part time... I called her a few times, cause I know her leaving time is eratic... she never picked up once or messaged me back when i messaged her... she's ussualy done around 10 on normal nights... well I got home at 11 and she wasn't home... I fell asleep waiting up for her, she didn't get home till after midnight, I asked her why she got out so late, she said they were busy... i talked to the bartender there today (were friends) and I was like "heard you were busy last night" he said they weren't and that Katie go off at 10.... I tried calling her to ask her about this, and she didn't pick up... I left a message about the sitituation and then tried calling her a few times before her shift tonight, she never picked up once.... I don't know what to think.... her cell was on, and I got pushed to the voice mail every time I called...

This could be a serious problem. If I were you, I wouldn't let this blow over easily.

Not only is she avoiding you, but she lied to you. And I don't know how you feel about it, but I would hate it if my girl lied to me about something, especially if it was about where she was late at night. God knows what she did or did not do, and I'm sure she's killing you.

Maybe she didn't do anything wrong, but she should at least have the courtesy to answer one of your calls and let you know what the deal was.

Sounds fishy to me. If she explains herself and apologizes or whatever, you gotta hold this over her head for as long as possible to pay her back, cause this is probably killing you right now.

 

[jaguarr]

you gotta hold this over her head for as long as possible to pay her back, cause this is probably killing you right now.

Sorry, but that's terrible advice. Find out what the deal is. If she lied and has no good excuse about it, then it may be time to cut bait. If she had a good reason, he needs to let her know how he feels about her not communicating with him in a firm but benevolent manner and then let it go. If he just uses it to drive a wedge between he and her as your suggesting, it'll almost definitely help contribute to the end of the relationship.

jag

 

[XwolverineX]

I love you Lee, but I laughed at your post.

 

[Erzengel]

I have trouble meaning anything I say after sex.

 

[The Shape]

Sorry, but that's terrible advice. Find out what the deal is. If she lied and has no good excuse about it, then it may be time to cut bait. If she had a good reason, he needs to let her know how he feels about her not communicating with him in a firm but benevolent manner and then let it go. If he just uses it to drive a wedge between he and her as your suggesting, it'll almost definitely help contribute to the end of the relationship.

jag

This situation he's in can potentially be a relationship-ending one. I meant that if they worked this out somehow, he's gotta make her understand that she can't pull **** like that. Even is she has some sort of wild excuse, how hard is it to answer (or use) the phone and let Nick know what's going on? I mean, it's probably eating him up inside right now, and if it's over something stupid, then it's not acceptable. He can't just let this go and be like, "Well, you drove me insane for a few nights, but I forgive you. Maybe he can't drop it, but he can't forget about it right away.

If she did do something wrong, then that's a whole other animal.

 

[JLBats]

I have trouble meaning anything I say after sex.

What about "Get the **** out of my apartment"?

 

[jaguarr]

This situation he's in can potentially be a relationship-ending one. I meant that if they worked this out somehow, he's gotta make her understand that she can't pull **** like that. Even is she has some sort of wild excuse, how hard is it to answer (or use) the phone and let Nick know what's going on? I mean, it's probably eating him up inside right now, and if it's over something stupid, then it's not acceptable. He can't just let this go and be like, "Well, you drove me insane for a few nights, but I forgive you. Maybe he can't drop it, but he can't forget about it right away.

If she did do something wrong, then that's a whole other animal.

This is where open and honest communication comes to play, which is the foundation of any lasting relationship IMHO. Holding something over someone's head and making them pay for an extended period of time by holding a grudge over it gets in the way of that. In those situations, letting your partner know you were very upset by their actions and letting them know it's not acceptable and then moving on from it and using it as an experience that you both grow your relationship from is the constructive way to handle it.

jag