Should I take the offer?

[GoldenAgeHero]

If I want to take the offer, you guys are making a pretty good job at instilling guilt at the prospect of my being an uncaring father who's never at the dinner table.

read my post. go for it man.determine the amount of hours your going to work and work the rest from home.

 

[Abaddon]

If I want to take the offer, you guys are making a pretty good job at instilling guilt at the prospect of my being an uncaring father who's never at the dinner table.

You would feel that anyway.

 

[InsaneMembrane]

I'm saying you should go for it, it seems to balance out your priorites well.

 

[Abaddon]

or once you become a partner you can open up a daycare in your lawfirm. then youll be able too see your daughter during your lunch breaks and what not. you can leave your practice and once you gain recognition through your partnership you can leave and start your own, you'll probbaly end up getting bigger business then you are now.

It sounds like a good idea,but it would be a bit presumptuous(though I think I'm using the word wrong,but its late so I dont care) of him to start-up something when he just joined the team

 

[jaguarr]

If I want to take the offer, you guys are making a pretty good job at instilling guilt at the prospect of my being an uncaring father who's never at the dinner table.

Seriously, man, it's good that you're really evaluating all sides before you make your decision. It's not the kind of thing you just jump right into without careful consideration. But don't let any of us give you guilt over any of it. It's your life and your circumstances, and really, none of us has the complete picture in this except for yourself.

jag

 

[Human Shield]

You can't get a good parent-child relationship at a fancy college. It should always be first.

That said a good relationship isn't always about amount of time spent. At a young age you probably need more time but quality time in smaller amounts can be just as good.

If you can't get a consistent schedule at the new job (which not being a full owner I would think is more consistent) then pass. Not knowing when a parent can do something grows into lack of trust.

Consistency in schedule can be more helpful then more random hours. Kids can follow patterns and like to be able to plan things out, not knowing if a parent has to work late means the kid won't bother preparing anything and will stop looking forward to dinner together if they get let down enough. Also coming up with "I'm off today lets do something" out of the blue could be awkward and go flat when the kid isn't prepared and wanted to do something else.

Time everyday around the same schedule to talk about the day, before it is old news, is important. Also weekends off to do stuff, again being consistent, is valuable.

Work at home can also become inconsistent when a kid planned something for 8 when you are usually free and suddenly "I have work", it is a downer for the rest of the day. Explain ahead of time if something has changed and manage work to be at consistent intervals.

My Dad was always woken up at like 4 AM, came home at 4:30-5 PM and went to bed at 8 PM. But consistent dinner together that he made every effort to make meant a lot to talk about, also going to lunches on weekends together created more conversations. Both me and my sibling have a great relationship with him.

 

[Lackey]

Goodbye...

Hello...

 

[Leto Atrides]

You're a bastard Lackey.

Well, you're not, but still.

 

[Abaddon]

I wanna **** on Lackeys face and then give him a hug

 

[Danger Mouse]

I wanna **** on Lackeys face and then give him a hug

You have a thing for hugging people after defecating on their faces?

 

[Lackey]

defecating? is that what was censored... I was hoping it was something sexy

 

[Abaddon]

You have a thing for hugging people after defecating on their faces?

He'd be wearing a black garbage bag.

 

[Danger Mouse]

defecating? is that what was censored... I was hoping it was something sexy

Surely you can't expect him to mean that he'd fornicate on your face.... uhm... right?

 

[Leto Atrides]

There are alot of four letter words. I thought he was emitting other bodily fluids. (Though I'm not sure if that is actually censored or not. I'd imagine it is).

 

[Abaddon]

piss is acceptable.

 

[Danger Mouse]

There are alot of four letter words. I thought he was emitting other bodily fluids. (Though I'm not sure if that is actually censored or not. I'd imagine it is).

No matter what the four-asterisks represent, it's an indication of Aby's unusual fetish.

 

[Leto Atrides]

Edit: NVM it was dirty.

 

[Abaddon]

No matter what the four-asterisks represent, it's an indication of Aby's unusual fetish.

Its not a fetish.Just something I'd like to try,on Lackey especially.

 

[Ronny Shade]

What would James Spader do?

 

[redmarvel]

One minus point: if I take the offer, I'm gonna have to say goodbye to SHH. Won't have the luxury of time.

Not that any of you will miss me, anyway!

I think you may be mistaken on that final point.

 

[Daisy]

If I want to take the offer, you guys are making a pretty good job at instilling guilt at the prospect of my being an uncaring father who's never at the dinner table.

I would take into consideration that your daughter is at the age where she'll be going to school most of the day as well, and that as she grows older, if she's like most girls, she'll have less time to spend with you (all that talking on the phone to girlfriends and boyfriends ... don't worry that's still a few years off ). Your schedules may coincide more and more. And there's nothing that says that the overwhelming majority of the time you can't spend a little while at home with her in the evenings and then do more work once she's in bed. As you say, you will still be able for the most part to set your own hours.

Truthfully, I have little doubt that you will do well by her no matter which way you choose.

To me, it would seem the bigger question is one you need to ask of yourself...would be okay being beholden to others in your work? While they are not your bosses, you do have responsibility to your partners, something you don't have now. You are only responsible to you and your clients.

As for your current clients and the panels your currently sitting on... is there no way to take them with you? Why must you give them up if you join the firm? It would be win-win for both the corporations and the partnership if you remained on the panels, wouldn't it? The corporations wouldn't have to find a replacement for you and you would be brining new business/connections to the law firm. Perhaps there is something I'm not understanding about it though that would preclude you from doing so.

Provided you are okay with being responsible to others to a greater degree than you are currently, I think the partnership sounds like a great opportunity.

 

[Kessel Day]

hullo DM -

it certainly is flattering to have such an offer tendered to you. it also would be attractive to have some of the busy work taken over by "underlings" not to mention having greater resources for your clients' defense.

on the other hand, even if you will be a partner, it won't be the same as being a sole practitioner and having your own firm. a lawyer friend of mine said that taking on a partner is kind of like getting married - if personalities clash, it might make it unpleasant to work there no matter what the salary and other perks are.

as for your daughter, DM, quality time is a total myth. it's being there doing chores together, at bedtime for prayers, showing her by your example how to be a caring person - that is what is important.

no one ever wished that they had spent more time at their job on their deathbed, my friend. if you aren't raising your daughter, who will be?

Kess

p.s. you know you would be missed, dear DM.

 

[Gamma Ray]

Decline it. Being your own boss is important. To me at least.

 

[Danger Mouse]

As for your current clients and the panels your currently sitting on... is there no way to take them with you? Why must you give them up if you join the firm? It would be win-win for both the corporations and the partnership if you remained on the panels, wouldn't it? The corporations wouldn't have to find a replacement for you and you would be brining new business/connections to the law firm. Perhaps there is something I'm not understanding about it though that would preclude you from doing so.

Oh, bringing them over to the new firm is not a problem. Lets take banks, for instance. I'm on the panel of banks A and B. Fortunate for me, so is the new firm. So, it's just a matter of paperwork transferring the files from my current firm to the new firm. No biggie.

What I meant was that if I close my current firm, then my current firm will be deregistered from their list of panel of solicitors by reason of the closure. Therefore, if, say, in 10 years time I decide to quit the new firm and reopen my own firm, I'm gonna have to have that firm registered again. They're not gonna look at their record and give me automatic reinstatement coz that's not how it works. It'll be a fresh application. By that time, the policies on new firms may have changed, the people in there approving the panelship may have changed. Hence, I'll have to start from scratch.

And by that time, I can't simply move the files from the big firm to my own firm because:

a) My previous (current) firm has been deregistered; and
b) The big firm will definitely put up one hell of a fight to prevent me from doing so.

 

[Abaddon]

I don't know.I'm gonna unsubscribe now,so good luck in whatever you decide.The fact that you were even offered partnership must be a testament to you're capable of.

Laterz


-Abaddon