It's realistic but it's a movie. If they wanted people to know he had an Uncle Ben they would've said so. As for evidece there's no Uncle Ben, I'll say what I said to Flint--
Ummm, that could've easily just been Marvel's way of respecting/referencing Ben without actually including him. "Because we've already seeeeennn it " What is your 100%. confirmation he was talking about Uncle Ben? There honestly is none. You're suppose to assume because he says something similar to "With Great Power' he MUST be talking about Ben. But that's exactly that, an ASSUMPTION.
Occam's razor, dude. In EVERY Major Spider-man media adaptation that's referenced his origin, they've never gone the curvball route with Ben's ties to Peter. Either he's referenced, or it's implied, but it's never changed. I'd give you this point if it were the first and only Spidey appearance in cinema, but it's the THIRD movie franchise in less than a decade dealing with Spider-man intimately and the past two go for a combined 5 movies.
Spider-man is internationally known and beloved by people who don't even read comics. Uncle Ben is a corner stone of popculture references. There's a reason why that one gif of Spidey in the supermarket crying over a box of Uncle Ben's rice is an iconic meme -- Everyone knows it.
Okay. Uncle Ben exists. But why is Peter obsessed with Tony then? He should know responsibilty because of what happened to Uncle Ben. And May was totally into Stark. Look at the history between MT and RDJ.
He's one of the most popular and successful geniuses of the modern age, a billionaire, and in their world the first modern super hero. The tech connection alone would get a fellow inventor excited, but then throw in that Tony knows Spidey's deepest and pivotal secret, but isn't going to expose it, he's going to nurture it and encourage him to be able to do more.
You're telling me if a celebrity, writer, person you greatly admired from a far took a personal interest in you, you wouldn't be over the moon? It's a dream come true for a young teenager to be that recognized. It's a dream for anyone to be recognized in that way.
He never shows that he learns responsibility from Tony. He's already got it, and being excited by Tony isn't him replacing Ben. He's happy and excited, not turning over picture frames and worshiping at his tech altar.
She was charmed sure. It's similar to what I said above for Pete. A meteor of charm is in her living room and showing interest in her, she's happy and excited. She's not screaming that she wants a date, she's not making coy references that she's available.