The FACEBOOK Thread

[CrashNburn]

i'd love to have people from this board on my friends list. anyone interested just pm me your link to your page or just add me and include your shh username. pm me if you would rather have me give you my link. hope to get alot of people from here. i really like you guys!

 

[Majin Boo]

I got a question, if I review a movie with the Flixster thing, how do you make that movie review appears on your profile, I have done it before, but cant remember how I did it.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Well - not screwed my life up, my life is good. But they screwed me hard.

Without getting into details, because nobody wants a wall of text - over the course of about 3 years, probably about 2004 - 2007, I became really good friends with a couple of people; a guy I knew through a mutual friend, and his girlfriend, who's now his wife. During the last couple years of that time, I became particularly close with the girl - she became one of my best friends, and I looked at her like the sister that I never had.

Fast forward, her aunt gives them a house to rent at a major discout (nice house, nice area, nice deal), but it's a little pricey for them still, so they ask me, along with another of her friends, to all move in. So we all move in there (5 adults, a six year old, and another baby on the way), one thing leads to another, and after about a month, I'm not friends with them anymore, I'm kicked out, and they physically screw me out of $400 cash (along with another $2000 or so that I had spent getting settled into the house).

So they screwed me over emotionally and financially. I end up having to move clear across the country due to the situation, because it's either move across the country, or move back in with my parents at 24. So I'm in a part of the world that I don't want to be in, away from home, with no money in my pocket.

Year and a half goes by, and what do I see when I come home and log into Facebook? A message from them, saying our "spat" was long enough ago and now they want to know how I'm doing.

Shocked, to say the least, as well as torn. On one hand, these people were a huge part of my life for about 3 years, they were some of my best friends. It really took me awhile to get over the fact that I wasn't friends with them anymore. On the other hand, I still haven't forgotten what they did to me, and how they treated me there at the end. A part of me wants to say "Hey man! Been awhile, how's the family!!" and the other part of me wants to say "Go lay your head in a garbage disposal and **** off".

 

[enterthemadness]

Well - not screwed my life up, my life is good. But they screwed me hard.

Without getting into details, because nobody wants a wall of text - over the course of about 3 years, probably about 2004 - 2007, I became really good friends with a couple of people; a guy I knew through a mutual friend, and his girlfriend, who's now his wife. During the last couple years of that time, I became particularly close with the girl - she became one of my best friends, and I looked at her like the sister that I never had.

Fast forward, her aunt gives them a house to rent at a major discout (nice house, nice area, nice deal), but it's a little pricey for them still, so they ask me, along with another of her friends, to all move in. So we all move in there (5 adults, a six year old, and another baby on the way), one thing leads to another, and after about a month, I'm not friends with them anymore, I'm kicked out, and they physically screw me out of $400 cash (along with another $2000 or so that I had spent getting settled into the house).

So they screwed me over emotionally and financially. I end up having to move clear across the country due to the situation, because it's either move across the country, or move back in with my parents at 24. So I'm in a part of the world that I don't want to be in, away from home, with no money in my pocket.

Year and a half goes by, and what do I see when I come home and log into Facebook? A message from them, saying our "spat" was long enough ago and now they want to know how I'm doing.

Shocked, to say the least, as well as torn. On one hand, these people were a huge part of my life for about 3 years, they were some of my best friends. It really took me awhile to get over the fact that I wasn't friends with them anymore. On the other hand, I still haven't forgotten what they did to me, and how they treated me there at the end. A part of me wants to say "Hey man! Been awhile, how's the family!!" and the other part of me wants to say "Go lay your head in a garbage disposal and **** off".

Um.....follow your hurt? You can take the high road or the low road really. To me it's kinda close to call.

 

[muertevilla]

you decision will show the kind of person you are. its funny.. i just spoke on the phone with a friend who i told to go to hell (in a more rated R sort of way) and we just started talking about adult swim and stuff like nothing happened. friends are hard to come by. tell them you still think what they did is efft up and you would like some compensation. if i were in your shoes a simple apology would suffice. situations arise to make or break someone. it didnt break you... you are still here. you are stronger because of them.

 

[ross2287]

Forgive, but never forget. That's my advice.

You can believe that people can or cannot change and maybe they've changed. They contacted you so they either want to mend the bridge or they need something from you.

Can I ask what happened during the month you lived with them that made you not be friends with them anymore?

 

[Matt.S99]

I think you can still be friends, but probably never as close as you were. And I probably wouldn't put much trust into them.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Can I ask what happened during the month you lived with them that made you not be friends with them anymore?

The girl was about 7 or 8 months pregnant when we all moved into the house. Throughout her pregnancy, because she didn't have a car, and her boyfriend was always away from home for work and stuff, I'd always drive her to and from work, to doctor's appointments, to pick up her daughter from school, and stuff like that. Her and I would always end up hanging out, either going to lunch, or just hanging out at her place. Whatever. She'd offer to buy me lunch a lot of times, and she'd offer gas money, but I'd always decline, because I did it because she was my friend, not because I wanted anything in return.

For some reason that I'm not too sure of, when we moved into the house, she just really stopped talking to me. The only time she'd really talk to me is if there was some problem in the house - a mess, dirty dishes, whatever.

When she found the due date of her baby, she had posted it on her myspace page, which is where I found out. She had never told me, but she started calling me to ask me to get her a pair of shoes from my work. I was a bit upset, and so I told her something like "You can get at me when you need some shoes, but you can't tell me when your baby is going to be born?" She'd talk to me in the house if she needed a ride, or she kept asking me to get her the shoes, but she wouldn't talk to me for any other reasons. So, I started feeling like she was beginning to use me, that all the things I'd do for her were now expected, and not appreciated. I confronted her about it, and she didn't really like it, and when things continued on the same path, I would continue to confront her about it, until everything just reached it's boiling point one night where she told me it'd be best to find a new place to live, and that maybe she didn't want to be my friend anymore.

Part of what really made me angry was when I confronted her about it, she snidely talked about how I could just take the shoes back if it meant that much to me. I tried to tell her I didn't give a crap about the shoes. When she asked what then the problem was, I told her that all I wanted was a little appreciation and respect. When I told her that, her response is "I don't have to show you any appreciation, you're not my boyfriend." I told her it wasn't about being her boyfriend or not, it was about being her friend. She didn't take too kindly to that.

The ending of it all entailed them stealing $400 from me. I had JUST paid them for the month's rent in advance when they decided to kick me out of the house. When I asked for my money back, they refused to give it to me, and refused to acknowledge me when I tried to contact them to get it. They also shut me out of the house, and didn't allow me to say goodbye to the daughter. In anger, I attempted to do some things back to them that made the situation even worse.

 

[dark_b]

The girl was about 7 or 8 months pregnant when we all moved into the house. Throughout her pregnancy, because she didn't have a car, and her boyfriend was always away from home for work and stuff, I'd always drive her to and from work, to doctor's appointments, to pick up her daughter from school, and stuff like that. Her and I would always end up hanging out, either going to lunch, or just hanging out at her place. Whatever. She'd offer to buy me lunch a lot of times, and she'd offer gas money, but I'd always decline, because I did it because she was my friend, not because I wanted anything in return.

For some reason that I'm not too sure of, when we moved into the house, she just really stopped talking to me. The only time she'd really talk to me is if there was some problem in the house - a mess, dirty dishes, whatever.

When she found the due date of her baby, she had posted it on her myspace page, which is where I found out. She had never told me, but she started calling me to ask me to get her a pair of shoes from my work. I was a bit upset, and so I told her something like "You can get at me when you need some shoes, but you can't tell me when your baby is going to be born?" She'd talk to me in the house if she needed a ride, or she kept asking me to get her the shoes, but she wouldn't talk to me for any other reasons. So, I started feeling like she was beginning to use me, that all the things I'd do for her were now expected, and not appreciated. I confronted her about it, and she didn't really like it, and when things continued on the same path, I would continue to confront her about it, until everything just reached it's boiling point one night where she told me it'd be best to find a new place to live, and that maybe she didn't want to be my friend anymore.

Part of what really made me angry was when I confronted her about it, she snidely talked about how I could just take the shoes back if it meant that much to me. I tried to tell her I didn't give a crap about the shoes. When she asked what then the problem was, I told her that all I wanted was a little appreciation and respect. When I told her that, her response is "I don't have to show you any appreciation, you're not my boyfriend." I told her it wasn't about being her boyfriend or not, it was about being her friend. She didn't take too kindly to that.

The ending of it all entailed them stealing $400 from me. I had JUST paid them for the month's rent in advance when they decided to kick me out of the house. When I asked for my money back, they refused to give it to me, and refused to acknowledge me when I tried to contact them to get it. They also shut me out of the house, and didn't allow me to say goodbye to the daughter. In anger, I attempted to do some things back to them that made the situation even worse.

after this story are you serious? show them them the finger.

she was obviously using you. its that simple. how many peopel are on earth? enough to ignore those mutherf....

 

[Eggyman]

You should totally throw a sheep at them or super poke them. Seriously though, life's too short. If you want to be friends with them then do so, but like Ross said, don't forget what they did. Just incorporate it into the funky soup that is you. Live and learn.

 

[Silvermoth]

I think you should cut them some slack. She was pregnant and probably emotional. There was probably alot of stuff going on and it was hard to keep track of it all.

I think it's quite friendly of them to want to contact you after these years and if you're not ready to forgive and forget you should just send them a message saying you're okay, thank you very much for the kind words and that you're not ready to meet up again (if they want to do that)

 

[ih8nyy]

You should tell em to GFY.

 

[dark_b]

I think you should cut them some slack. She was pregnant and probably emotional. There was probably alot of stuff going on and it was hard to keep track of it all.

I think it's quite friendly of them to want to contact you after these years and if you're not ready to forgive and forget you should just send them a message saying you're okay, thank you very much for the kind words and that you're not ready to meet up again (if they want to do that)

but

''I'm kicked out, and they physically screw me out of $400 cash (along with another $2000 or so that I had spent getting settled into the house).''

 

[xisaacx]

What it comes down to, is would you really want those kind of people in your life now? I would not. Who knows how much people have changed, but I wouldn't put myself in that situation.

 

[squeekness]

This is a perfect example of why you should never move in with your friends. It always seems to end up badly. Something similar happened to me.

 

[Blindfighter]

you should try to make them feel bad for kicking you out. If that happened to me I would just tell them to **** off but that is me.

 

[Eggyman]

This is a perfect example of why you should never move in with your friends. It always seems to end up badly. Something similar happened to me.

They sell your wheel for crack?

 

[Ace of Knaves]

Ahh man, **** these guys. They ain't friends. I would rob $2400 worth of goods off of them.

 

[Eggyman]

Ahh man, **** these guys. They ain't friends. I would rob $2400 worth of goods off of them.

Knaves!

He could easily earn it back though. Make up with them so he can get close enough to steal their child. Ransom! If they don't have the money, sell it to Madonna.

 

[Kelly]

I would tell them thanks for the message, but no thanks for friendship....

 

[VampElvis]

Seems to me there's plenty of blame to go around. The kind of talk you describe having with this pregnant lady, well, you don't have those kind of talks with a pregnant lady and expect it to go well. At 24 I wouldn't have known either, but having been through it twice with VampPriscilla and watched several friends and family members go through it - they just ain't themselves because their body is placing a LOT of stress on them physically and emotionally. I recall very clearly being called in to mediate a dispute between a couple. She, being very pregnant, decided it was a great idea to redecorate their entire house in zebra stripes. He, being deployed, was having a hard time breaking through to tell her he did not concur. After some conversations where I was a called some very vicious names, we were successful in stopping this horrible decorative feaux pas and later, when her son was about a year old and her body had returned to normal chemical balance, she was very grateful we'd done so and thanked us several times for it!
Now, does that excuse the money thing? No, I don't think it does. BUT at some point in your life you're going to have to learn to forgive or you'll have a tough row to hoe. That doesn't mean everything has to go back to the way it was or anywhere close. It doesn't mean it can't either. That part is up to you and them. I say forgive them, clear the grudge, you'll sleep better at night. Then take it from there. It sounds like you're all pretty young and in the grand scheme of things I've seen far worse damage in these situations. They may be able to earn back your trust but I wouldn't give it freely and I wouldn't recommend going halfsies on a time share with them

 

[C. Lee]

They probably need some more money.

 

[Wiseman]

You should ruffie both of them and make good use of cucumbers

 

[ross2287]

I think you should cut them some slack. She was pregnant and probably emotional. There was probably alot of stuff going on and it was hard to keep track of it all.

Sorry, I don't mean to diss you or pregnant women everywhere, but this is a lame excuse. There's a difference between being pregnant and being a *****.

I'd return the message but keep it very light and superficial. Then see what happens. And don't be afraid to ask for your $2400 back.

 

[Addendum]

Tell them to f*** off.