The Virginity Question

[Angry Monkey]

To give the lady something to hang onto...

LOL

 

[CashforStash]

Going to be honest. I am turning 17 in September and here is my "sex record".

Lost it in November of 2009, so I was 15.

I have done it about 8 times in total, with about five different girls

I guess I take advantage of high school?

 

[Anita18]

If you aren't a virgin, more often than not you do not want to be somebody else's first. You're going to be the one they remember, whether it was good or bad.

Really? I barely remember my actual first time. I think the goal would be to do it with "your first" often, so their memory gets hazy as to what the first time was like.

Going to be honest. I am turning 17 in September and here is my "sex record".

Lost it in November of 2009, so I was 15.

I have done it about 8 times in total, with about five different girls

I guess I take advantage of high school?

Yech I don't regret not losing my virginity in high school. Not attracted to anyone there AT ALL.

 

[Mrs. Sawyer]

He's more of a man than you'll ever be, and more of a woman than you'll ever get.

So true even though with S.A.A.D. the first part's not hard to do.

 

[Timstuff]

Oh yes you will.

"I've put a bomb on your penis. The only thing that will deactivate it is a female vagina. Good luck."

 

[Chris Wallace]

If you aren't a virgin, more often than not you do not want to be somebody else's first. You're going to be the one they remember, whether it was good or bad.

True. I remember being thrown off when a woman told me I was her 2nd.

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

When I had sex with my first gf, it was her first time too, after we broke up, we didn't talk in more than 2-3 years. She contacted me through email and then chatted on msn. After talking to her again, my only thought was ''Why did I put it in her?''.

 

[Chris Wallace]

I can think of several women who I look back on & wish I'd never touched.

 

[Darthphere]

When I had sex with my first gf, it was her first time too, after we broke up, we didn't talk in more than 2-3 years. She contacted me through email and then chatted on msn. After talking to her again, my only thought was ''Why did I put it in her?''.

Because every thug needs a lady.

 

[E-Man]

"I've put a bomb on your penis. The only thing that will deactivate it is a female vagina. Good luck."

I knew Saw 3D wasn't the final chapter. I'm glad they're finally going into porn now.

 

[B.A. Baracus]

I bet theres saw porn out there, i know theres 3d porn this year with a avatar spoof, really theres some things that should never be 3d and a 'male arrival' is one of them.

 

[Harls]

"I've put a bomb on your penis. The only thing that will deactivate it is a female vagina. Good luck."

 

[SpideyVille]

I think for me, it's been a split between not feeling ready for sex, and not having the opportunity for it. I mean, for most of my life, I never did because the opportunity never really presented itself, aside from that one time in high school where my friends were going to pay some girl to do it with me.And I've always felt that when it does happen, it will be with someone I have a connection and a commitment to. Yet, because I've been really shy and never had a girlfriend, that opportunity has yet to come.

But I've noticed something strange in recent years, and that's that I don't talk to many people, but for some reason, the ones I do talk to, and feel more comfortable talking to are girls. Like it would almost be 85-90% girls that make up my friends. So it's almost like it hasn't happened because I'm too shy, but more because I haven't allowed it to. Granted, I don't have girls banging on my door to sleep with me, but I've also been known to push people away at times/ So in that sense, I haven't really allowed myself to let that opportunity arise, possibly because subconsciously I'm waiting for a certain person who I want to be the one, and I feel like I just haven't met her yet, so with anyone else, it wouldn't feel right.

 

[Justkidding]

I've only had sex when in a committed relationship. I really think some parents and most religious groups mess up sex, making it into something dirty, when it's not at all. You definitely need to be safe about it and be comfortable with who you're having it with. I definitely don't believe in no sex before marriage, I value marriage too much to roll the dice and find out afterwards if we're compatable in bed together. It's definitely not just "insert tab A into slot B", you can be great together, but horrible for each other in bed. Dating is all about making sure you're right for each other in every way, why wait until after getting married to find out if you're right for each other in bed?

This is a big reason I haven't had sex. I went to a christan school for several years, and because of it I feel bad just making out.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Virgin out of principle. My question is: Why does someone not having sex piss off other people? I tell people about my choice and they suddenly are starting a fund to get me a hooker.

 

[Marx]

Virgin out of principle. My question is: Why does someone not having sex piss off other people? I tell people about my choice and they suddenly are starting a fund to get me a hooker.

I think that is very commendable man.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Thank you Sir. The older people dont seem to care (I havent told my father but I'm sure he can guess) its the younger people that are like . Damn kids...

Then again, I gotta admit its pretty uncommon to be my age and virginal.

 

[Anita18]

Virgin out of principle. My question is: Why does someone not having sex piss off other people? I tell people about my choice and they suddenly are starting a fund to get me a hooker.

Probably the same reason why a kid who gets straight A's and never gets into trouble is interpreted as threatening - it's assumed that you're judging other people since you're resisting the temptations that others were too weak to resist. So they judge you first!

 

[Marx]

Thank you Sir. The older people dont seem to care (I havent told my father but I'm sure he can guess) its the younger people that are like . Damn kids...

Then again, I gotta admit its pretty uncommon to be my age and virginal.

That's because alot of younger people think 'giving it away' is the new cool thing to do. It's actually sad. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age. It means that your virginity actually means something to you.

 

[Anita18]

That's because alot of younger people think 'giving it away' is the new cool thing to do. It's actually sad. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age. It means that your virginity actually means something to you.

I actually disagree that virginity should mean something to you. It goes back to the days where virginity determined a woman's worth. (Feminist here, can you tell?) Still gets me when I think about it, especially those purity pledges and whatnot. As long as people are responsible and don't hurt others, doesn't matter to me what they do together in bed. Or don't do in bed. Whichever is the case.

Even when I was a virgin, it just meant I hadn't had intercourse yet. It didn't mean I was saving myself for that extra-special person to unwrap. That's like saying I'm only worth something to my partner because I haven't been touched by another man. (Again, the feminism thing.) I just didn't want to jump into things before I was ready. That was my principle.

I don't know, I don't want to offend anybody, but to me, being a virgin holds just about the same importance as being gay. It's something ABOUT you, but it's such a small part of what makes you who you are, I don't understand how many people make it the big deal that it seems to be.

 

[SpideyVille]

Virgin out of principle. My question is: Why does someone not having sex piss off other people? I tell people about my choice and they suddenly are starting a fund to get me a hooker.

I really hate that. It's almost like people, whether they are friends or family or whatever feel the need to get you laid. But in reality, what is it their business? It's almost like they try to force it upon people.

 

[Darthphere]

That's because alot of younger people think 'giving it away' is the new cool thing to do. It's actually sad. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age. It means that your virginity actually means something to you.

That's great and all but I have to ask, why should your virginity mean anything to anyone? How does being a virgin make your life better? How are you a better person for being a virgin?

 

[Darthphere]

I really hate that. It's almost like people, whether they are friends or family or whatever feel the need to get you laid. But in reality, what is it their business? It's almost like they try to force it upon people.

Maybe you shouldn't tell them you're a virgin then. By telling them you're making it their business.

 

[Marx]

I actually disagree that virginity should mean something to you. It goes back to the days where virginity determined a woman's worth. (Feminist here, can you tell?) Still gets me when I think about it, especially those purity pledges and whatnot. As long as people are responsible and don't hurt others, doesn't matter to me what they do together in bed. Or don't do in bed. Whichever is the case.

Even when I was a virgin, it just meant I hadn't had intercourse yet. It didn't mean I was saving myself for that extra-special person to unwrap. That's like saying I'm only worth something to my partner because I haven't been touched by another man. (Again, the feminism thing.) I just didn't want to jump into things before I was ready. That was my principle.

I don't know, I don't want to offend anybody, but to me, being a virgin holds just about the same importance as being gay. It's something ABOUT you, but it's such a small part of what makes you who you are, I don't understand how many people make it the big deal that it seems to be.

This isn't a feminism issue though. My saying that virginity should actually mean something to you has nothing to do with making it out to be this huge defining issue.

 

[Hobgoblin]

That's because alot of younger people think 'giving it away' is the new cool thing to do. It's actually sad. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age. It means that your virginity actually means something to you.

It makes me laugh sometimes. My parents made me go to Catholic classes after school as a kid, no matter how much I told them I hated it. After a while I just accepted that what they were trying to teach me was important and I accepted the lessons, more or less. Now that I'm in the real world, they're surprised that I never did the horizontal polka.

Yes, I said before that Dad doesnt know but Mom did kind of ask a few times what my romantic life was like at school. I was like "The women are beating my door down."