The Virginity Question

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

I don't judge anyone for the choices they make. If they wanna wait, more power to them! I commend you! In my case, I was just a horn dog and lost mine at 16. I was taught to hold out until marriage and I think that's a great idea. I just couldn't do it.

 

[B.A. Baracus]

I don't think being a virgin is nearly as much of a big deal as it used to be. I also think not being a virgin is that big of a deal anymore really, either. Maybe that's because I've grown up and it's been years since high school. Maybe those pressures are the same, I wouldn't know, but it shouldn't surprise me. But they shouldn't exist. Virginity's really only a problem if you make it one.

Have sex when you're ready. And that's never sixteen.

Do you say this as a virgin or a person who's lost it?

I mean i felt the pressure to lose it as a virgin, but i still see the pressure now on teenagers. The stigma is still very much there, as is the pressure to lose it.

Very sad and it worries me as a father of 3.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

You're 27?!

I know. I'm not normal enough for a grown up. Even on here,huh? Did I just put a target on myself by saying that?

 

[Alex The Great]

I'm 16 so of course i'm a virgin. Though the girlfriend and I have discussed it. I mean, we both know what to do to avoid any disasters. But you know, in time.

 

[B.A. Baracus]

I still kind of think of the first time as like Christmas, you know? It's a special and meaningful event... or else it it's supposed to be. I find it difficult to talk about my story because it involves a ***** who was cheating on me with my best friend at the time. So, while sex is fun, the memories of my first times aren't so pleasant.

I thik alot of people feel that about the first time, though not the same reason as yours, Sex is built up to be this big thing and for many its such a let down, the first time is often crap.

Bit like seeing the Phanto Menace really.

 

[Angry Monkey]

Ahh so you don't want to do him because he's black. That's pretty messed up. I never pegged you as one of those types. I don't feel safe around you anymore. I'm calling Black Dynamite to handle this.

What the heck?

Where did you get that conclusion?

I never made one racial comment about Will...

swinger: somebody who lives an unconventional and hedonistic life, especially somebody who exchanges sexual partners with others

I have no problem with black people, one of my closet friends is black...

 

[B.A. Baracus]

Will smith's a swinger now?

Where did you hear he's a wife swopper?

 

[Erzengel]

Um, sweetie, do you understand sarcasm?

 

[Angry Monkey]

Will smith's a swinger now?

Where did you hear he's a wife swopper?

Google: Will smith open marraige


Alex The Great: I love your avatar...it truely is great

 

[The Original Bamfer]

That was a pretty inappropriate and uncalled for thing to say, especially for a Mod...

Being a moderator is irrelevant. If something's "inappropriate" or "uncalled" for, it's not extra bad because it was said by a moderator. Also, I'm fairly sure you're not familiar with my relationship with JStorm, so you may not have interpreted my post correctly. But, hey, I appreciate the input.

 

[JStorm]

That was a pretty inappropriate and uncalled for thing to say, especially for a Mod...

We have a good enough relationship that he can say those things to me. Don't think Bamf runs around talking **** like that to everyone.


On point, I am REALLY immature. I mean. . the intrawebz is real life.

 

[S.A.A.D.]

I thought that you were a dude JStorm. Oops.

 

[The Original Bamfer]

He's more of a man than you'll ever be, and more of a woman than you'll ever get.

 

[JStorm]

I thought that you were a dude JStorm. Oops.

I am a "dude."

The only thread that REALLY shows who I am is the Relationship thread. Other than that, it's fanboy arguments and random ass posts.

 

[JStorm]

He's more of a man than you'll ever be, and more of a woman than you'll ever get.

Quoted and SIG'ED!!!!

 

[The Original Bamfer]

Quoted and SIG'ED!!!!

 

[Marx]

I think a person's virginity is their own business. I am not about to judge someone who decides to wait until the person is right. Too often in today's society people just give it up for the sake of giving it up.

 

[SpideyVille]

I'm 22 and still haven't lost it, and its mostly due to choice. I sometimes consider myself old-fashioned based on the few morals that I was raised with and stuck by. And because of that, I've never fully been able to adapt to the popular living ideals of today, because I always feel like I'm doing something to fit in with the crowd.

But I certainly remember some of the pressure that came with it in high school. During the last few weeks of my senior year, my friends tried to pay some girl to kiss me, and she said she'd have sex with me for free. I declined and ended up being called gay just because I didn't want to kiss a girl that spent most of her time doing drugs and drinking during school hours with lots of other guys. It was even worse since it was two of my friends pressuring to do so, when they had yet to have girlfriends themselves.

 

[Marx]

I'm 22 and still haven't lost it, and its mostly due to choice. I sometimes consider myself old-fashioned based on the few morals that I was raised with and stuck by. And because of that, I've never fully been able to adapt to the popular living ideals of today, because I always feel like I'm doing something to fit in with the crowd.

But I certainly remember some of the pressure that came with it in high school. During the last few weeks of my senior year, my friends tried to pay some girl to kiss me, and she said she'd have sex with me for free. I declined and ended up being called gay just because I didn't want to kiss a girl that spent most of her time doing drugs and drinking during school hours with lots of other guys. It was even worse since it was two of my friends pressuring to do so, when they had yet to have girlfriends themselves.

Gotta love the childish mentality of high school guys.

 

[AndThePickles]

"People confuse sex with love making. Sex is what you do to be good at love making. You can't just magically give some an orgasm. It takes time and practice. So, before you get married and experience the honeymoon, make sure to have as much sex as possible."

- Colossal Spoons

Hahahaha, wtf?!

I'm 16 so of course i'm a virgin. Though the girlfriend and I have discussed it. I mean, we both know what to do avoid any disasters. But you know, in time.

"Of course" nothin, the kids are goin at it very young these days

I thought that you were a dude JStorm. Oops.

He is a man.



To answer the OP myself:

In high school, I was very religious. I decided that I wanted to go along with the whole "save myself for marriage" bit and attended one of those conferences where you hear the whole "your body is a gift for only your husband to unwrap, etc." I received a purity ring, which I later misplaced by accident but I guess that ultimately, it was foreshadowing

My senior year of high school I began to question my beliefs and the church. After graduation, I chose to give up organized religion entirely.

I hate using the phrase "I lost" my virginity, because I willingly made the decision to have sex at 17 when I was in college. It was not meaningful, and I did not love the person, nor was I that individual's girlfriend. Looking back, would I have done things differently? Probably so, but it was one of life's learning experiences.

 

[Spider-Fan83]

on the topic in general...
I wouldn't say I had any type of stigma about it... nor was saving my self, or felt the need to.o... I didn't really date in hs (always thought hs relationship were kinda pointless, and didn't need the extra drama in my life) after hs, an as I got older an it still never happened, I did find myself becoming a little subconscious about it (more about the lack of experience then anything else really...) but, after awhile I just kinda forgot about it, and just focused on other areas of my life

I'm 27 and I haven't lost my v card. I hate it!!

I too am 27.... an I have no problem admitting that I only just lost my last year... tho, at the time it was a good experience, an I believed my feels for her were real, things did not work out well between us, so, I do kinda regret it

I still kind of think of the first time as like Christmas, you know? It's a special and meaningful event... or else it it's supposed to be. I find it difficult to talk about my story because it involves a ***** who was cheating on me with my best friend at the time. So, while sex is fun, the memories of my first times aren't so pleasant.

I can certainly relate to that

I know. I'm not normal enough for a grown up. Even on here,huh? Did I just put a target on myself by saying that?

not at all.....
(though, I can only speak for my self, I guess...)

 

[Alex The Great]

"Of course" nothin, the kids are goin at it very young these days

Heh, indeed

Anyways, as long as the teenagers take the proper measures (Condoms, Birth Control, etc.) I see no issue. I know a lot of girls that are on the pill.

 

[Mace Dolex]

When i was in high school in the 90's and with teen shows like Beverly Hills 90210 and MTV's The Real World it felt like everybody in HS was having sex and at that age the pressure is on big time, if you aren't doing it you're a loser.

I was pretty shy in HS so I had zero chance of hooking up but luckily my dad who is king of the gigolos set me up with one of his girlfriends to do the "deed".

And so at 19 I had sex with this chick who I hardly knew and after it was over I didn't feel any more manly.

But if I hadn't lost my virginity then I would've lost it when I was 20 and picked up a one night stand.

 

[Alex The Great]

Your dad is very nice

 

[Erzengel]

So you and your Dad probably had sex with the same girl?