Precisely. Ultimately, it's a question of whether the character is someone with agency and is able to actively choose to do things or someone who people do things to - of which, the former is always better than the latter, regardless of gender.
For instance, consider how Uncle Ben consciously chose to confront the thief who ultimately killed him; as opposed to the thief deciding to take him hostage and later kill him. In both situations, the point is the same; which is to teach Peter about responsibility. However, the former would be a better execution (pun unintended) as far as the complexity/depth of the character of Uncle Ben is concerned.