Why is the sex so important?

[Tangled Web]

Thanks.

I mean, obviously I'm attracted to her. I like her and she's a very pretty girl. So it's not like I'm not attracted it's just that she's not the kind of girl that I just view as someone to sex, but the kind of girl I'd want to have a nice dinner with.

 

[GunBlade]

Oh Hahahahahaha.

 

[Babs Gordon]

Well most guys are either a guy who wants to take a girl out to dinner multiple times as obstacles on your way to the sex, or a guy who want sto take a girl out for dinner because he likes her and wants to get to know her and spend time with her. Then there are the guys that won't do either.

 

[GunBlade]

Yeh, the ghey ones.

 

[Babs Gordon]

Or the ones that are too jaded or assholio to work for their sex.

 

[Machx72]

What about the ones who are offered and don't take it anyway? I've been told that gets a lot of "points" in women's books... But it hasn't done me a damn bit of good so far.

 

[WorthyStevens]

Obviously, sex is a big part of a young man's motivation. We all want it. But does it always have to be the motivation for all of our actions?

Yeah, pretty much.

 

[terry78]

^Haha, that whole thing is way too unpredictable. I know the consensus is that you turn down a female's offer for sex it makes her even hotter for you, but I've seen that **** backfire before. We all want sex, it's naive to not think so. The pinnacle of any romantic relationship is getting to the sexual encounter, even though we may claim we want to just spend time with them and feel a connection. Personally, I fall for the whole "if she makes me wait, it's that much more valuable" thing hook line and sinker all the time, as getting some ass on the first date would actually turn me off from wanting something deeper. I respect those that choose to not do so, as I'm familiar with abstaining from things for personal reasons and growth, but for the rest of us...no, just no.

 

[Machx72]

^^^One of the bigger reasons I'm waiting is because I don't want to do that with someone, get attached, and then have everything blow up in my face. I realize this can happen with marriage as well, but I'd hope that those who are married would be more likely to think things about their relationship through in order to solve it, rather than just leaving the person.

 

[Tangled Web]

Yeah, pretty much.

Why?

Why can't a young guy just appreciate a girl for who she is rather than what she can give him?

 

[Kevin]

Honestly, David, why does it even matter what people (here and your friends) think? All that matters is what you think. If you think you've grown up because you don't have a one track mind, good for you. Ect..

And don't feel ashamed for thinking more outside of the box for actually wanting to have something more with a girl than sex. You should be proud of yourself and not let anyone tell you otherwise.

 

[Kevin]

Bloody Edit.

 

[chaseter]

I think people are idiotic that flaunt sex around. I am still a virgin and it doesn't matter to me one bit...just waiting on the right woman to accept my seed.

 

[Tangled Web]

Honestly, David, why does it even matter what people (here and your friends) think? All that matters is what you think. If you think you've grown up because you don't have a one track mind, good for you. Ect..

And don't feel ashamed for thinking more outside of the box for actually wanting to have something more with a girl than sex. You should be proud of yourself and not let anyone tell you otherwise.

You're right.

How would I put it out there that I'm not just all about the sex?

Some chick at school is making it sound like I'm a dog. I guess when I was younger I came across as a horny bastard. But I don't want people to get the idea that I still am.

But after talking to this girl that I like has got me thinking that sex isn't so important. Like I said, I'd much rather have dinner with her than have sex with a **** that I don't care about.

So basically I want it to be known that I'm not a horny bastard.

 

[jimmy]

Too bad. It's high-school and stuff like "horny bastard" sticks; go with it, little bro.

 

[Tangled Web]

**** it, I'll just post a bulletin.

 

[jimmy]

About free cell phone ring tones?

 

[Kevin]

You're right.

How would I put it out there that I'm not just all about the sex?

Some chick at school is making it sound like I'm a dog. I guess when I was younger I came across as a horny bastard. But I don't want people to get the idea that I still am.

But after talking to this girl that I like has got me thinking that sex isn't so important. Like I said, I'd much rather have dinner with her than have sex with a **** that I don't care about.

So basically I want it to be known that I'm not a horny bastard.

If you don't act like a horny bastard on a regular basis nowadayss, then continue being yourself. Just let it be known, if brought up, what your current views about sex are.

I'm not gonna lie, when I was younger (it's sad how I'm only 19) I used to use sex to get attention, or brag or whatever. Most of my friends knew about my adventures, but are shocked to no end how much I rather sex mean something than something to just do, nowadays.

If people make fun of you for it, or don't believe it from you, shrug your shoulders. Brush it off.

 

[Tangled Web]

This is sort of related.

As you know I lack confidence. So check this out.

After midnight, I'll ask out this girl that I like and if she says no I'll just say "April fools."

heh?

 

[Machx72]

If you do that, you'll probably have a worse reputation in real-life than you do on these boards.

 

[Abaddon]

Sex is just a physical urge. None of this expression of love nonsense. However, like any human urge, it can be quelled and controlled without having to do the deed. It's as important as you make it.

 

[nosebleed.]

*********ion clears your mind...do it before doing anything important.

 

[Tangled Web]

Ok, I've decided not to do it.

 

[kytrigger]

^agreed.

My question for you TW is whether you really are being honest with yourself. Is it that "yes, you'd love to hit it with the time comes but for now you'd just rather not think about that and focus on getting to know her" or is it genuinely that you have no sexual interest in her at all. Because like people above have said if you're not interested in some sexual way (kissing, touching, hand holding, spooning, dry humping or the sex....) then you probably aren't attracted to her right now.

This is funny to talk about because I'm teaching sex ed to my sixth graders. Oh my.

Be careful. With TW's track record, the girl in question might be one of your students.

As for the actualy topic, it doesn't matter if you aren't really interested in having sex with her, right now. But, if you want to date her, and you still aren't attracted to her sexually, then it is a bad sign.


Also, askign a girl out and telling her it was a joke if she rejects you is awful. You are obviously putting way too much pressure on yourself especially with somethgin as trivial as asking someone out on a date. If she says no, big deal. The worst thing that happens is that you continue to not date her and just move on.

 

[heypapajinx]

*********ion clears your mind...do it before doing anything important.

haha!!
no WAY!!
me too!!
if i have a test i'll wake up early in the morning, work my "kinks" out, go over my notes again, and i'm ready.
usually works.
sometimes i just get hungry for a sammich and tired though.