Best Friend of the Opposite Sex: Can It Be 100% Platonic?

[Erzengel]

I'm in a committed relationship and if you want to do the "if's and and's" scenario, I have several friends of the opposite sex that I would hit with extreme prejudice.

 

[knowsbleed]

I say thee nay... any and every friend I've had that has been attractive would have been tapped in a heartbeat if the chance were to... *ahem*... come up.

 

[CrashNburn]

Yes it can. One of my best friends is female and we have ALOT in common, in terms of loving movies, comics and all that stuff.

Couldnt hook up with her huh? Sorry bro!...atleast you're just friends

 

[Mike_D202]

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Eh, no, with some qualifiers. I have some close friends who are girls, but usually the circumstances when we met were such that any romance between us simply wasn't possible. If they're already married, and happen to be friends with the husband as well, it makes it easier. I'm usually fairly blunt with my intentions, but if I know someone is married or some similar situation I'm more likely to simply be friendly with them. Also, if they were to split, I'd more likely stay friends with the guy, not the girl.

Ultimately I would hazard to guess if you're close friends with a girl you're probably settling for that friendship, and not by choice. I've seen this work both ways. I know for a fact many girls who are "friends" with me are only in that position because I'm honestly not that sexually attracted to them.

I'm not going to try to define what I mean by "best friends", but I would say if they're is a girl with whom I am close with enough to consider them a "best friend" it most definitely involves sex.

Also, I kind of tire of this question because I always wonder "who would ask this"? If one has a completely platonic opposite sex friend I suppose they've already answered this question for themselves. No, no, the only motivation one would have to ask this question is if they were in a situation where they had sexual feelings that were not reciprocated and wanted to know if a friendship was possible, right? I don't understand what guy or girl would want to look for such a thing. I mean to what end are they trying to reach? Why settle for platonic when you can have a non-platonic best friend of the opposite sex?