Why Stay Single?

[ComicChick]

I grew up the same way, and I managed to get into a long-lasting relationship, so there is hope! I used to always look down on myself and never thought of myself as attractive. That sort of confidence can be built up over time, as well as the way that you look at yourself.

The harder part is getting over the lack of affection and compliments growing up....I still crave affection constantly, and when I receive a compliment, it probably means a lot more to me than it would to the average person. I don't have any advice on that one

yeah when people compliment me I am not very good at accepting them because im not used to it. i'm afraid i come of more like a jerk than anything

 

[Grievous]

That's another thing, there's just no one I'm attracted to. The only women I see on a daily basis are the women I work with and they do nothing for me.

To me it would be better to stay single than to date someone that you don't have physical attraction for. I know looks are not everything but before I will consider having a serious lifestyle w/you, you need to atleast be hot and respect my hobbies and ideals.

 

[SyntheticHeart]

After gettin kicked out,and her abusing my love.I have to say that being single,sucks

 

[amazingfantasy15]

To me it would be better to stay single than to date someone that you don't have physical attraction for. I know looks are not everything but before I will consider having a serious lifestyle w/you, you need to atleast be hot and respect my hobbies and ideals.

Obviously there needs to be physical attraction, however, the more important thing is personality, guys always joke about personality not being important, but it really is the most important thing. Looks open the door, personality is what gets you invited inside.

 

[Poeman]

I was single for so long, until I found the right woman. Now it will be 3 years since I have been with her.

Sometimes, if you are single and are waiting to find the right person...well that is a bad idea.

Don't think and worry about being single and do what makes you happy as a person and if a man/woman comes along that just feels right (by this i mean, conversation, attraction, attitude) then take a chance.

Never really hurts if you try, all insecurities should tried to put aside and give it a go.

I wasn't exactly the most secure guy in high school, but i forced my mentality to change in college because of the new environment I was going into.

That is all.

 

[terry78]

The only downside is if you stay single too long, you start to, when you get older, start getting desperate about not dying alone and **** and latch on to whatever loser you can.

 

[Hellion]

Single by choice (I think), really at the moment have no desire to be in a relationship or interest in anyone in particular at the moment, the few relationships I have had (a good few years ago) I have fond memories of, but at the moment, again, no desire or interest...

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Obviously there needs to be physical attraction, however, the more important thing is personality, guys always joke about personality not being important, but it really is the most important thing. Looks open the door, personality is what gets you invited inside.

For me, it's both.

I don't care how great of a personality you have, if there's no physical attraction, I can't do anything with you.

And on the same token, I don't care how hot you are, if your personality is garbage, you can't do nothing for me.

 

[PyroChamber]

For me, it's both.

I don't care how great of a personality you have, if there's no physical attraction, I can't do anything with you.

And on the same token, I don't care how hot you are, if your personality is garbage, you can't do nothing for me.

Unfortunately, sometimes it's hard to find someone who's got both; at least for me it has.

 

[Backstreets]

why am I single?

hmmm... I don't hate being single, I have no problem being single right now but if something came along I wanted to pursue I wouldn't necessarily turn away from it.

In all actuality and honesty i may talk a big game but I have low self esteem and don't really find myself attractive. I'm very insecure physically and self conscious most of the time. Most of that comes from the environment I grew up in and coming from an unaffectionate family.

First of all, Who cares what people think of you. Unaffectionate family? Join the club CC.! You don't attract what you want, you attract who you are. If your insecure, then your going to attract a guy who is insecure,it the way it works. Sure put some effort into your apperance if it needs it, Wear slimmer clothes if you aren't. Alot of guys don't mind if a girl is heavy or 2 lbs overweight, they don't see that, they will feel your positive energy and will wanna be with you since a great dynamic personality is sexy.

 

[Backstreets]

You can't sit around and think "He/She will come around when I least expect it" Nothing is farer from the truth! You wanna date/married/play the field Then you must put the work in!! It's called "Finding" a date for a reason. Guys these days are too nice, most women don't find that attractive. Tell her what you want/do...talk to her like your in the bedroom...command,don't ask. Never say "Can I call you"? (she'll say no 95% of the time) Say "What's your number? or "give me your number and we'll meet up for coffee" instead. Be a leader.She'll follow.

 

[Aesop Rocks]

I used to have this mindset that being single was the best thing ever, that you wouldn't have to burden someone with your problems and I wouldn't have to deal with the problems of someone else.

I was in denial. Right now, I'd love to have someone there for me on that kind of deep and emotional level.

I only think staying single works for those that need to figure themselves out and get a complete understanding of who they are in life, where they are in life, and what they exactly want in a partner. After that, I think everyone should go after getting said partner.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

For me, it's both.

I don't care how great of a personality you have, if there's no physical attraction, I can't do anything with you.

And on the same token, I don't care how hot you are, if your personality is garbage, you can't do nothing for me.

This might sound weird, but sometimes physical attraction can come from personality crushes for me.

I dated a guy for 2 years who had a bit of a gut and wasn't at all conventionally attractive. In fact some pics are really hideous! But I find him attractive to this day... He's just one of thos people who's charm, charisma, cheeky smile, flirting tactics, teasing etc make the appearance actually seem better if that makes sense.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

This might sound weird, but sometimes physical attraction can come from personality crushes for me.

I dated a guy for 2 years who had a bit of a gut and wasn't at all conventionally attractive. In fact some pics are really hideous! But I find him attractive to this day... He's just one of thos people who's charm, charisma, cheeky smile, flirting tactics, teasing etc make the appearance actually seem better if that makes sense.

I have experienced that as well.

 

[SpideyVille]

This might sound weird, but sometimes physical attraction can come from personality crushes for me.

I dated a guy for 2 years who had a bit of a gut and wasn't at all conventionally attractive. In fact some pics are really hideous! But I find him attractive to this day... He's just one of thos people who's charm, charisma, cheeky smile, flirting tactics, teasing etc make the appearance actually seem better if that makes sense.

Yeah, last year I started talking to this girl who sat right across from me in one of my classes, and I honestly never would have noticed her very much if we didn't start talking towards the end of the semester. I didn't even know she had a big crush on me. She found out I was good at math and asked me for help, so I said I would just to be nice, and we ended up spending the next two days just talking instead of studying, and after that, I started to like her and she suddenly became attractive.

Of course, she ended up breaking my heart worse than any other girl and now I don't see her attractive like I did before.

 

[Metamorpho1977]

DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince said it best.

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[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Yeah, last year I started talking to this girl who sat right across from me in one of my classes, and I honestly never would have noticed her very much if we didn't start talking towards the end of the semester. I didn't even know she had a big crush on me. She found out I was good at math and asked me for help, so I said I would just to be nice, and we ended up spending the next two days just talking instead of studying, and after that, I started to like her and she suddenly became attractive.

Of course, she ended up breaking my heart worse than any other girl and now I don't see her attractive like I did before.

Ha, sounds like me.

This girl in my class last year was just the little plain country girl that sat in the corner, and I barely noticed her. But she noticed me. And we started talking. And spending time together. And we started clicking and getting really close, and all of a sudden I found her to be beautiful.

Then she broke my heart. Unfortunately, I still find her attractive, but yea.

 

[SpideyVille]

Ha, sounds like me.

This girl in my class last year was just the little plain country girl that sat in the corner, and I barely noticed her. But she noticed me. And we started talking. And spending time together. And we started clicking and getting really close, and all of a sudden I found her to be beautiful.

Then she broke my heart. Unfortunately, I still find her attractive, but yea.

I think in my case, I fell for her strictly because of her personality, but after things ended we went out separate ways until recently when we started to reconnect. But then I started to see that who she said she was wasn't exactly who she really was inside and I started to not even like her personality, so whatever attraction was there instantly went away.

But it did show me that personality matters a great deal and can be a game changer on both counts, whether its my personality or hers.

 

[Avengers-Report]

Cus I'm 20, go to USC and like to party

 

[SPider-T0rch]

I think I need to be happy in all aspects in my life before having to worry about someone else's happiness. I wouldn't be happy having a girlfriend if I wasn't happy with myself. I guess that's my positive look on being single.

It gives me time to figure myself out before jumping into another relationship and I think I've figured out a lot about myself, like what I'm really looking for in a girl or my moral stances on random hook-ups. The more time I spent by myself, the more I figured out that my ex made perfect sense when she reasoned to break up with me. We were two different people that had different things in mind, I wanted to keep being in a serious, committed relationship but she didn't want to feel tied down. At first, I felt like I was being stupid for wanting something serious at such a young age but now I don't see what's wrong with it. It's my preference and if someone has a problem with that, then they must not be right for me.

 

[ComicChick]

This might sound weird, but sometimes physical attraction can come from personality crushes for me.

totally true

personality can make any guy much more attractive and on the other end of the spectrum a lousy personality can make the hottest guys unattractive to me

 

[Scarlet spidey]

Not my choice.
I've tried not to for years, have gotten nowhere.

 

[Silvermoth]

I adore being single. I could not bear to spend my days plumping up the ego of the person next to me. I love the freedom to think and feel and to travel and there's so many things I have to do in life.

I'm a bit like Bertie Wooster from Jeeves and Wooster really. Being a bachelor is just too much fun

 

[Erzengel]

I don't get most of you. Female companionship is great. They look good and smell nice.

 

[Poeman]

I don't get most of you. Female companionship is great. They look good and smell nice.

Agreed...smelling nice is a bonafide plus to not being single