WTF did I do????????

[DorkyFresh]

Oh and to the OP, insecurity is not attractive to women. You saw "the jocks" and probably felt intimidated and retreated. Shrug it off and move on. Learn something from this experience.

Next time something like this happens, don't let new guys take over. Blend in, joke around like you're buds. Be calm and assertive. If that doesn't work, ask the girl you're supposed to be with if she wants to go someplace quieter, take her away from the competition. The rest is up to you

listen to this man.....he knows the ways of the force.

 

[Spider-Fan]

You don't just randomly leave without saying anything. That was the worst thing you could have done. If you were going to leave, you could at least have made up some kind of excuse for something and told her you were going (though I think that would have ended poorly for you also). What you SHOULD have done was either compete for her attention with the jocks or pulled her aside and talked to her 1 on 1 about it. I've felt like the 5th wheel many times in my life man, so I feel where you're coming from most certainly on this. However, you handled the situation poorly. She may have been a jerk for ignoring you for the jocks, but you came off as a jerk by just leaving.

The problem with eye for an eye is everyone leaves blind. Remember that when you make decisions.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

The girl probably ain't much worth your time if she's going to ignore you to your face for some other dudes, but like everyone else said, you handled it wrong.

Basically, what you gotta do is have an escape plan, that way you can leave without coming off poorly like that.

 

[Star]

She's a ***** who wants to make you jealous

wooo girls are ****es

 

[Ace of Knaves]

Yea man you shouldn't of just walked away. Were these jock guys older than you? If so I suppose you have a excuse to bottle it. But you gotta fight for your right, to PAAAARRTTYYY!!

But what that ***** said on msn is bang out of order, she was trying to rub it in. I bet she didn't actually make out with them, she was probably trying to wind you up. You should explain to her that you felt like she completely stitched you up. If she doesn't want to apologize, then **** her, she ain't worth it.

But you should hunt down them jock guys and take a metal pole to their heads

 

[knowsbleed]

The fact that she still contacted you after the fact means that she wanted you to know about it. If you still want to talk to her you have a chance... maybe not much of one... but it's there.


Though I wouldn't.

Next time... bring a couple of your own friends as well. Safety in numbers... she knew what was up.

 

[JaD]

I feel like such an idiot!

Part II.

 

[RKO]

I just don't see another pregnant twist happening.

This is game over.

 

[JaD]

After seeing what happened in that one. I say anything's possible.

 

[Scissors]

I'm only one year older and even I know that just walking away without telling is just one of the most stupid things you could do.

Girls might think stuff like "He didn't tell me, so he ignored me, he doesn't like me, so I don't like him."

No offence, but it's your own fault, mate.

 

[Hunter Rider]

The first thing you should do is be thankful you still have both kidney's, then realize that she is a rude and shallow broad who is attracted to the Chad and chip types, your big mistake here was not shooting a line before leaving, and it should have been a line that made it sound like you had better things to do, not "I'm off now to leave you to get DP'd by these two goons while I go and play War commander 9".

 

[SsM]

The first thing you should do is be thankful you still have both kidney's, then realize that she is a rude and shallow broad who is attracted to the Chad and chip types, your big mistake here was not shooting a line before leaving, and it should have been a line that made it sound like you had better things to do, not "I'm off now to leave you to get DP'd by these two goons while I go and play War commander 9".

Too awe struck for words :P

 

[November Rain]

Alright so what do you do now...

Probably apologise for leaving without saying goodbye

you should try to remove your emotional investment from this lady

 

[thedeadite]

I probably would have left too, most likely without saying anything as well, depending on the circumstances. If you guys were supposed to meet up with possible romantic implications (i'm not saying you were gonna score or anything, just trying to hook up or whatever) and she was legitimately ignoring you so she could flirt with some random dudes, then why stick around?
Key thing here is "legitimately ignoring". You're still pretty young, and younger people have a hard time distinguishing between talking and flirting sometimes. Plus, I don't know how much time you did invest in trying to talk to her while these guys where there.

The fact that she messaged you and tried to make you jealous though pretty much would confirm to me that you did the right thing. Girls who play games like that are not worth it. I wouldn't waste my time with them, and I wouldn't feel bad at all for just leaving without saying anything.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

First off, she's a liar anyway. Attractive women don't play XBox.

Second, it was your own bright idea to think you had a chance with a girl online in the first place. You know how many attractive girls/guys probably chat "romantically" with potential butt buddies online, only to find out that this potential butt buddy is a fuggo?

I'd say out of a million times, this probably happens about 999,996 times. Just an estimate though.

Not calling you a fuggo, but unless you exchanged pictures at some point, you probably turned out to be less than what she expected. We're all superficial. Next time, try meeting with girls in person rather than online. That alone shows your insecurity with women. The fact that you walked away without saying jack doesn't surprise me at all, and you got what was coming to you with that IM the next day, to be honest.

 

[Kaleb]

Ok, lately ive been intersted in a girl (we havent talked face to face, we met through MSN/friends etc...) and we decided to meet at the mall last night. She shows up with 3 of her friends, and we started to hang out and stuff, and we bonded really really quickly (come on, she's hyped for X-Men Orgins Wolverine and she loves xbox, and she's quite attractive) and yeah. Then her friend randomly started to talk to these 2 random jock guys. The girl im intersted in starts to hit on them. After about 10 minutes it felt like they didnt even knew I was there and I felt like I was following them for no reason what so ever. So I decided to just walk away without saying anything.

I sign onto msn today and I tell her "hey", and this is exactly what she said.

Maggie says: By the way, I made out with that guy last night
Maggie says: Guess who dickward

Am I missing something? Can somebody please explain this?
(im 14 soo...)

both of them

anyway , you should move on.

 

[pyromaniac]

First off, she's a liar anyway. Attractive women don't play XBox.

Yeah, my cousins will prove you wrong !

 

[Cunning Stunts]

Yeah, my cousins will prove you wrong !

I don't know what's worse, that you think pretty women play video games (NEVER), or that you're ogling your cousins.

 

[LegendaryCaleb]

at that age...you have to fight for the girl you want...you walked off which was thee worst idea...girls at that age are flirty with everyone...if you woulda stuck with um and got back into the convo you would have been set...

 

[GregComicFan]

I agree with some other posters. Girls like confident guys. That doesn't mean you have to act like a guy who is cocky as hell and you act like you're bigger and badder and better than everybody on the face of the planet. That's just annoying. Nobody likes a snob. What I mean is....it just means you act happy with yourself, meaning if a jock comes up and starts talking to your girl... you don't cower away and go hide in a corner. That gives the girl the impression that you look at this other guy (the jock) and you see him as superior to you and so you give up and quit in his presence. Girls hate that. Girls will see you as weak. It's just natural animal instincts. Girls, especially at age 14, are looking for "the leader of the pack"... so if you see jocks and you have the attitude around them that they are waaaaay cooler than you, girls will pick up on that and label you as "a dork" .... and then run off with studly jocks.

It's all about your attitude. You need to appear cool, calm, and happy with yourself... happy with your personality, happy with your looks, happy with your attractiveness... When you are confronted with a jock (or any guy a girl would normally find attractive)... look him in the eye, stand toe-to-toe with him, shake his hand firmly, and don't act like he's your lord and master. And if the girl still runs off with him... then screw her, she's lame.

And then other girls will see you didn't give a crap about the girl dumping you, cause you are too cool for her, and they will be impressed by that.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

I don't know what's worse, that you think pretty women play video games (NEVER), or that you're ogling your cousins.

My missus loves the Wii! She ain't fugly!

But yea, this ***** don't sound nice atall. You're better off without her. You did do the wrong thing though, but that's part of growing up, you learn by your mistakes.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Really man, there's a couple key things here:

1. Don't worry too much about it and just move on. You're 14 man, and anyone (especially round these parts) who says they didn't act awkward at that age is just lying. It's an awkward age. Just learn from your mistakes (and yea you did make a mistake) and react differently next time.

2. On a related note - move on. It really doesn't sound like this girl is worth your time anyways. And if you like this girl like you claim, I know it's easier said than done, but she ain't worth your time and you're better off. Trust me, I know that mindset can be hard - I've been trying to talk to the same girl for 5 months now. She always acts interested when she's around me (we work together), but when I try to call her to make something happen, I can't get ahold of her and never hear back. She always has her reasons why, and always has emphasis on saying that she's interested in hanging out, but it's obvious she's not. I know she really isn't worth my time, but I keep getting myself caught up anyways.

It's easier said than done, but this girl isn't worth your time if she's going to act like that towards you.

I guess I was even in a similar situation here the other day. I went out after work to grab a couple beers, and while I was out I ran into a girl that I work with at my other job. She's a bartender, and was out with one of her regulars. I saw her, we had a couple drinks, and then the 3 of us ended up going over to another place. Her friend left us on our own, and we were talking and such, and some dude came over to start hitting on her. We both thought this guy was sent by her friend, so we let him kick it for a bit, but when it became obvious she wasn't interested, I started backing him out of our space. Later on in the night, when we began to mingle with a bunch of other people, another dude started hitting on her, and while he was, one of the girls asked me "Is that your girlfriend?!", to which I said "Oh no we're not together".

We aren't together, and I've only hung out with her a couple times. I wasn't even really trying to hit on her, so I didn't really feel any threat, so I just let her have her fun talking to all the drunken bar guys. Didn't really bother me too much.

I wasn't sure if I was "supposed" to act out or not, but because I'm not particularly trying to whoo her, as well as not feeling any attraction from her, I just didn't particularly care and the situation wasn't awkward for me, so I just sat back and didn't really say anything.

 

[black_dust]

14?? **** it dont get tied down by the grasp of a woman just yet, tough it out and enjoy your teen years before you have to start spending your money on women!!!!

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

What's a dickward anyway? Never in my life have I heard that word!

 

[SWAT]

Maby she meant Burt Ward?

To some that might be an insult.