I havent read everything but out of the ones I've read:
Great
House of M: Great art, I love Magneto family drama, and the premise was fun. The story both messed up the X-books and made for some interesting stories
Messiah Complex: I started reading comics regularly when Messiah Complex started. The high stakes sell this event and it was fun seeing X-Factor and New X-men tie into a big event.
Second Coming: Utopia Cyclops during his prime, the best survival story, and multi-layered strategies on display.
Secret Wars: Really good high end Hickman sci-fi with lots of great Battleworld stories.
Meh:
Civil War: Characters were wonky but I can't deny its legacy
Battle of the Atom: I don't hate this as much as most. It was definitely meandering but had a good amount of intrigue along the ride.
Schism: This event put Wolverine in a ridiculously hypocritical role. I really liked the Mutant Museum, though.
Fear Itself: Fun and dumb. The Uncanny X-men tie-in is one of the most fun displays of teamwork ever. I hope movie writers take notes during these issues
Secret Empire: The controversy was exaggerated but the event kinda fizzled.
Terrible:
Axis: I couldnt even get through this. I would say this is the worst of the worst. Inversion remains entirely stupid, not to mention the Quicksilver/Scarlet Witch retcons
AvX: What a bizarre ending to a long era of X-men stories. I hate the Avengers for a while after this. Hope needed to be trained by Iron Fist and Spider-man...? Ok? Phoenix 5 designs were sweet though
Civil War II: I already don't like Captain Marvel and this event didn't help. Event fatigue at its worst.
I agree with every thing you said. but I have make one correction. I belive you mean "Sarlet witch" and iron fist. Spiderman had nothing do do with hopes teaching/ traing her to control the phoenix force which the orginal goal of the X-men from the jump. & captain american made the mistake of only asking wolverine. when Xaiver was phoenix force Avitar inthe pages of the Xbooks when he was with lilandra after leaving the new mutants inthe care of magneto andhe need to heal in shi' re hostpital felilitys
and captain britan who work with rachel summer in excaliber should have been asked aboutthe phoenix force. and if it was trully a danger to the world/ planet. it's not until you bugg it like some messing around with a bee hive. but nope he asked th wrong person when he should have asked people with better experince with it. yeah that included beast. AVX was terrible.
yes that story failed in alot of ways .
and on shism I never liked it for the reason both you board guy came to the conclustion after this post you made . I've always said that stupid fist fight Endanerged the student's in this thread and other's I remeber sithborg discussing with about what happend inthe wolverine books and I have the issue thanks to my youngest sister but truth be told schim is terrable for alot of reason as you said and the fact that after wards he is seen at times still going kids in fit of rage. no matther what that fist fight endangered student with a walking time bomb in whichthe writer treated like what goes down in both a sailor moon or power rangers show where moster/ villain is going go ahead take your time to transform into your hero costume I'm here watching til you destroy me.
I may make sound funny by saying that. but imagen if it was one of evoling sentinels that start to pick up speed or decisded to fly.
the point is therewas no other way to get off iland of utopia and wolverine was wast their time screeming cyclops and the student saw this but wolverine refused to come up with solotions. most ofthe senor X-men are knocked . all their transportation gear is broken howare they gonna run with somany people /student that won't make it off cause ofthe blast radius? nope I'll fist fight for a school yard fight of reason. now that have off my chest.
I'm gonna add to your already nearly perfect list here.
I was dicussion with my sister there was an even in avengers very siomilar to the stupid Shism. it was when steve was in his Geriactric mode and he got into itwith tony fist fight wise post Civil war one. this was the story arch time run's out.
But i'm go through stuff lead to all this .
ok first the story line Age of Ultorn which the MCU movie only took the name from but it was in the comic's Sue storm richard think up the plan to stop hank pimp from creating ultron but she makes the mistake of taking wolverine with her. after many year of storm telling wolverine not solve every thing with his claws. wolverine plan with out telling sue his solution was to claw pimp to death befor pimp can creat ultron. this happen ontehri time travel and sue was happy with it soe they had to make a second time travel trip to save pimp from being killed by wolverine.
sadly all that time trvel weakend the wall of reality and tis allowed for the ultime verse incursion.
and this is partal what lead doctor doom creating break world across the universe.
this also had tony's insain band the avengers Illumilanty to come up withthe plan to blow up every planet int the universe they live captain america joined them at this after beast joined (in Xaiver death) the Illumilanty decide to mind wipe cap using doctory strang's magic cause they notice he wasn't in agree with them and iron begrudling agreeed cause balck pather too control from him at the time .
This lead to orginal sin old man Steave roger's who's been with shield remembered and for some reasonhis focus was mostly on tony. the lesson that was lern in civil war for both was forgotten. the lesson was two fold tony should have protectedthe super hero comunity identy's insstead of letting gistration act be the was it was.
cap's lession was that during the fight wasthat the people of earth the normal people just wanted to feel safe&know they were safe.
again the lession was for gotten cause like what happened in shism the world was end in this story arch and Cap decideed to have fist fight on a hill with tony. people were dying the sky was falling the floor benith their feet was crumbling and all that matter was the fist fight between those two. and their plenty ofother in the ilumilanyt to blame. as my youngest sister it was in his most un heroic before the red skull came and supposed turned young again and replaced with nazi creation of captain america that lead to secret Empire.
duringthe incursion of the ultimate vers the one thatwere the heroes were Doctor strange Spider man Cyclops that found the pheonix force for the second time and others like the two thors.
sadly they were defect by doom who had the power of more then millon cosmic cube's and he created break world.
point is alot of the heroes post civilar one did D bag thing to each other as I listed for the worst reason possble . sadly they didn't got to jail for it with out trial . they should have withatiral but they didn't. but thelot of them are D bag's & indeed hypocritical people.
Not to forget what Scartlet witch from the jump of which she's an avenger.
lastly I've never seen the X-Men as soilders causeo of how xaiver got itno this and his first contact's were the FBI as oversite and then sheild and The super hero commision that val coopeer was a part of . his villain were crimenal inthat were makeing kids's steal like the shadow kind and forceing kid's into slavery like what the shadow king did to storm one ofthe first kids xavier saved befo forming the X-men. they were doing literal cirmes not war zone. the whole soilder thing dosn't compute. that came in with ling field's thing when xforce was made. xaiver wasn't into making an army or soilders. other wise he wouldn't have had conflit with X-force being made initally. and there were too many hint's inthe book that Xvaiver never treated them as such when cyclops mention how xaiver never dissallowed to have relationship in the organization. one of themany hint's that he never wanted them to be soilders. he want villan to be stopped and he made clear with power mutant like magnito groups worked and the only other reason he made them was that he was wheel chair bound due to stoping lucifer's crimes of stealing gold and kidnapping legion's mom who xaviver was invoved with romantically. all thing that had nothing to do with war.
kitty stated the X-men are his secret warrior's / agents in his own stead.