15 Minutes 15 Minutes with Hobgoblin

[Hobgoblin]

Did the death of your mother lead to your manic depression or bipoloar diagnosis? I know that both of those can be incredibly hard to deal with on a day to day basis, how do you cope with it?

Do you believe that you might be less rigid with respect to sex if you were seriously involved with someone?

No, I was diagnosed as bipolar before mom got sick. The causes for bipolar/manic depression are still being worked out, but its at least partly genetic and environmental. As for coping, seeing a psychiatrist saved me. I dropped out of ISU back in 2001, because my mind was absolutely rioting against me. I couldnt sleep, I wasnt making sense when I spoke, I was depressed. The diagnosis was, oddly, the best thing that ever happened to me. I finally knew what was happening to me and that there was treatment. It was also depressing, because there is no cure. I would never be 100% again.

I just had to learn to accept it. I dont mean to generalize, but I think some other manic depressives get into trouble because they saw "Screw it, I'm gonna go nuts and use this as an excuse." As I said before, I try to be a disciplined person. But sometimes, all the discipline in the world wont stop me from having an episode. You just have to deal with it. Ride it out.

As for the sexual regidity, yeah, I guess I could learn to lighten up. She would have to be patient and do it one step at a time but yeah.

 

[Marx]

No, I was diagnosed as bipolar before mom got sick. The causes for bipolar/manic depression are still being worked out, but its at least partly genetic and environmental. As for coping, seeing a psychiatrist saved me. I dropped out of ISU back in 2001, because my mind was absolutely rioting against me. I couldnt sleep, I wasnt making sense when I spoke, I was depressed. The diagnosis was, oddly, the best thing that ever happened to me. I finally knew what was happening to me and that there was treatment. It was also depressing, because there is no cure. I would never be 100% again.

I just had to learn to accept it. I dont mean to generalize, but I think some other manic depressives get into trouble because they saw "Screw it, I'm gonna go nuts and use this as an excuse." As I said before, I try to be a disciplined person. But sometimes, all the discipline in the world wont stop me from having an episode. You just have to deal with it. Ride it out.

I do believe that the cause is both genetic and environmental. What was your childhood like?

As for the sexual regidity, yeah, I guess I could learn to lighten up. She would have to be patient and do it one step at a time but yeah.

I have no doubt that you'll learn to lighten up when the right person comes along. Being able to share something like that with another person is an amazing feeling.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I do believe that the cause is both genetic and environmental. What was your childhood like?

So so. I wasnt beaten or molested or anything. Dad and Mom loved my brother and I but they could be cold. Dad sees nothing wrong with making fun and Mom had a lot of anger. She was angry at my father, her father and men in general. I probably felt that I wasnt allowed to speak. Dad used to work nights as a mechanic and slept during the day. I was little at the time, and I know he would shout if I made too much noise. The only time I ever got spanked was when I was distracting my mother when she was trying to have an important phone conversation. Even today, people comment on how quiet I am. I'm not saying that my parents "traumatized" me into being intensely introverted. Its really just speculation.

I have no doubt that you'll learn to lighten up when the right person comes along. Being able to share something like that with another person is an amazing feeling.

I agree. When I'm single I get set in my ways. When I have a date, I visualise myself doing things that I normally would never think of doing.

 

[ImWithTeamConan]

Best date you've ever been on

 

[Marx]

So so. I wasnt beaten or molested or anything. Dad and Mom loved my brother and I but they could be cold. Dad sees nothing wrong with making fun and Mom had a lot of anger. She was angry at my father, her father and men in general. I probably felt that I wasnt allowed to speak. Dad used to work nights as a mechanic and slept during the day. I was little at the time, and I know he would shout if I made too much noise. The only time I ever got spanked was when I was distracting my mother when she was trying to have an important phone conversation. Even today, people comment on how quiet I am. I'm not saying that my parents "traumatized" me into being intensely introverted. Its really just speculation.

...speculation or not, it does make sense. I think it's only natural that you would be more reserved if you grew up living 'on edge'.

I agree. When I'm single I get set in my ways. When I have a date, I visualise myself doing things that I normally would never think of doing.

Exactly.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

Dude, are you flirting with me?

Uh, that'd be a negative. We both work here so that'd be sexual harrassment and I'm certainly not losing my job for your azz. LOL

But you said you wanted more unexpected, shocking questions, and...my name is Lightning, so be "shocked"...LOL

Nope, hetero all the way. I used to be homophobic but I grew out of it. Meh, frankly I dont understand the fascination with homosexuality/bisexuality/etc. Whether people hate it or are supportive, America seems fixated on sexual orientation. I see gays as normal people with a sex life that I dont see the appeal of. Then again, I'm sexually rigid. Oral sex (receiving) or anal sex (either way) doesnt interest me. I find it odd that the things that gay couples do are exactly the same things that hetero people do, but when its gay, its gross. Its hypocritical.

One of my favorite co-workers is a lesbian. We are supportive of each other: her being misunderstood for being gay, myself misunderstood for being manic depressive.

Nice answer. You gained some serious cool points in my book for that response.

 

[Marx]

Since I'm still thinking of some 'shocking' questions...

Chess or Checkers?

Monopoly or The Game Of Life?

Pictionary or Taboo?

Scrabble or Boggle?

Scattergories or Catchphrase?

Jenga or Kerplunk?

Rook or Euchre?

500 Rummy or Poker?

 

[Hobgoblin]

Best date you've ever been on

Probably the one I was on last Sept. We went out to dinner and had a nice time. Then she asked why it took me 6 years to graduate college and I told her it was due to my dropping out. I later told her I dropped out due to manic depression. She told me that she didnt want to pursue a relationship with me, because her last bf was also a manic depressive.

Yes, that was my best date.

Exactly.

 

[Marx]

Probably the one I was on last Sept. We went out to dinner and had a nice time. Then she asked why it took me 6 years to graduate college and I told her it was due to my dropping out. I later told her I dropped out due to manic depression. She told me that she didnt want to pursue a relationship with me, because her last bf was also a manic depressive.

Yes, that was my best date.

That was very supportive of her.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Uh, that'd be a negative. We both work here so that'd be sexual harrassment and I'm certainly not losing my job for your azz. LOL

But you said you wanted more unexpected, shocking questions, and...my name is Lightning, so be "shocked"...LOL

Touche, sir.

Nice answer. You gained some serious cool points in my book for that response.

Cool.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Since I'm still thinking of some 'shocking' questions...

Chess or Checkers?

I never learned chess, so checkers.

Monopoly or The Game Of Life?

Neither. I never really got into board games.

500 Rummy or Poker?

I used to play Rummy with my grandfather. I have fond memories of getting my butt kicked by a 95 year old man.

 

[Hobgoblin]

That was very supportive of her.

The way I see it, she still wasnt over her ex, so I really never had a chance with her anyway. Meh, she seemed pretty humorless, tbh.

 

[Marx]

Do you wear glasses?

Do you wear contacts?

Do you wear rings, bracelets, or necklaces? If so, do they have any special meaning behind them?

 

[Hobgoblin]

Do you wear glasses?

Do you wear contacts?

Do you wear rings, bracelets, or necklaces? If so, do they have any special meaning behind them?

I have worn glasses since I was a freshman in high school. The only jewelry I wear is my high school class ring and that is on very rare occasions. Its golden with a green stone, a tiger on one side (my school's mascot) and a scales on the other (I'm a Libra).

 

[Marx]

Do you follow your horoscope?

Does 'Libra' fit you to a 'T'?

 

[Hobgoblin]

Do you follow your horoscope?

Does 'Libra' fit you to a 'T'?

Not really. I did more as a teen. The Libra horoscope is somewhat accurate but not so much that I put a lot of stock in it.

Although, I have been talking with a co-worker about starting a business selling life insurance and I seem to remember my birthday horoscope saying something about listening to an older woman in the coming year. Still not saying I believe it but it did kinda surprise me when the memory came back to me.

 

[Marx]

What is the most embarassing Halloween costume you've ever worn?

Have you ever played 'truth or dare'? If so, what is the most outrageous dare you've ever done?

 

[Hobgoblin]

What is the most embarassing Halloween costume you've ever worn?

I wore my bathrobe to a Halloween party my freshman year of college. I had absolutely nothing else to wear. Yes, I was dressed underneath. Thats more than I could say for a guy in my dorm in a later year. He had a one piece Superman costume and was naked under it. He was convinced he was getting lucky that night and he had a flap on the side. Unfortunately, it blew open and I saw more than I wanted.

Have you ever played 'truth or dare'? If so, what is the most outrageous dare you've ever done?

I always thought that was a game played with girls, and girls have avoided me for as long as I can remember. Short answer: No.

 

[Marx]

I wore my bathrobe to a Halloween party my freshman year of college. I had absolutely nothing else to wear. Yes, I was dressed underneath. Thats more than I could say for a guy in my dorm in a later year. He had a one piece Superman costume and was naked under it. He was convinced he was getting lucky that night and he had a flap on the side. Unfortunately, it blew open and I saw more than I wanted.

I always thought that was a game played with girls, and girls have avoided me for as long as I can remember. Short answer: No.

Don't you have any girls that are friends?

 

[ComicChick]

have you ever posted commando?

what's an obstacle you've overcome or a significant event in your life that has impacted you greatly?

what was your favorite class in HS?

least favorite class in HS?

What kind of toothpaste do you use?

How many times a day do you brush your teeth?

What kind of cell phone do you have?

What's your default ringtone?

 

[Hobgoblin]

Don't you have any girls that are friends?

Not really. One is married and lives in California. I only met her a few years ago. Another is more of an acquaintance and has a bf and lives in Chicago. I have a female work friend but we never meet outside of work. She has two jobs and four kids.

 

[Hobgoblin]

have you ever posted commando?

If I have its been a very long time.

what's an obstacle you've overcome or a significant event in your life that has impacted you greatly?

I nearly committed suicide when I was 17. Its actually become a source of strength for me. If I can beat the kind of crippling fear and anxiety I had so many years ago, I can beat anything.

what was your favorite class in HS?

Honors 19th and 20th World (meaning European) History

least favorite class in HS?

Math, computers or chemistry.

What kind of toothpaste do you use?

I think Colgate.

How many times a day do you brush your teeth?

Once, right before work.

What kind of cell phone do you have?

Nokia.

What's your default ringtone?

I have no idea what it is. Most of the time I have my phone turned off. Its really just around for emergencies. If people need me, they contact me online.

 

[ComicChick]

if you were a pro baseball player, what would be your intro song?

what's your lucky number?

any superstitions?

Favorite disney villain?

Favorite disney princess?

Who would be your wrestling tag team partner, dead or alive?

Fave song from a musical?

 

[Marx]

Since you don't remember specifically posting in the nude...

Have you ever streaked?

Would you ever go to a nude beach?

 

[Hobgoblin]

if you were a pro baseball player, what would be your intro song?

what's your lucky number?

any superstitions?

Favorite disney villain?

Favorite disney princess?

Who would be your wrestling tag team partner, dead or alive?

Fave song from a musical?

Sorry, I cant answer any of those questions. I guess "None" would be the best answer.