Does the way others perceive you impact your self-worth?

[blind_fury]

If not what should determine a persons self-worth.

 

[The Kid]

Only if it's Blind Fury's perception.

 

[Ice-man]

by self worth do you mean self esteem, if so than yes.

people see me as a lazy stoner whos dosnt do anyting, well if thats what they see me as than thats what i give them, it does kind of effect my self worth. cuz i know i can do much more. yes i admit im lazy, but i should get over that in time.

 

[cyborg ninja 14]

yes i admit im lazy, but i should get over that in time.

"Not until I get to 20,000 posts!" He says

 

[blind_fury]

Anyone remember the Twilight Zone episode where the beautiful women was considered a disfigured abomination by a society where being a disfigured abomination was normal?

What should determine a person's self worth?

 

[blind_fury]

Also why do we care what people think of us? Are our brains wired that way for Darwinian purposes? Or does society train us to care about what others think for Orwellian purposes?

 

[Fried Gold]

people see me as a lazy stoner whos dosnt do anyting, well if thats what they see me as than thats what i give them.

That's totally stupid.

 

[Ice-man]

Anyone remember the Twilight Zone episode where the beautiful women was considered a disfigured abomination by a society where being a disfigured abomination was normal?

What should determine a person's self worth?

my faveorate episode.

what was it called again, the eye of the beholder?

 

[Honey Vibe]

Anyone remember the Twilight Zone episode where the beautiful women was considered a disfigured abomination by a society where being a disfigured abomination was normal?

What should determine a person's self worth?

Yes, I remember that episode.
I sort of shirk the confrontation, by telling people so little about myself.

 

[Ice-man]

That's totally stupid.

well i do it mostly to my family, but when im outside with friends im energetic and outgoing, not as lazy as if i were at home, but hey isnt home a place to kick back and be lazy?

 

[blind_fury]

Only if it's Blind Fury's perception.

Cool. You're putty in my hands! t:

I feel like a god.

 

[Fried Gold]

well i do it mostly to my family, but when im outside with friends im energetic and outgoing, not as lazy as if i were at home, but hey isnt home a place to kick back and be lazy?

Whilst I still think it's pretty daft, I guess that does raise an interesting point as to how one acts around family or friends.

 

[blind_fury]

Yes, I remember that episode.
I sort of shirk the confrontation, by telling people so little about myself.

Do you use this approach with just strangers or everyone?

I think most people try to project an ideal self to others while keeping our true selves hidden.

 

[blind_fury]

"Be careful what you pretend to be because you are what you pretend to be." - Kurt Vonnegut

I think it's uncivilized to pretend to be something your not for social status. You're trading your freedom to be and express your true self for a prison of social acceptance and conditional love.

This may be considered civilized now but I believe sometime in the future society's ultimate goal will be to help all people achieve self-actualization rather than than help a few achieve status and prestige.

 

[blind_fury]

well i do it mostly to my family, but when im outside with friends im energetic and outgoing, not as lazy as if i were at home, but hey isnt home a place to kick back and be lazy?

Should we seek friends who accept us for who we are?

or change who we are to obtain/keep friends?

Personally I cannot consider someone who doesn't know or accept my true self as a friend. But I understand we don't always have a choice because friends are hard to come by. Sometimes hiding our true selves is a compromise we make to keep relationships.

 

[November Rain]

it does if one is easily influenced by other people.

for me, it really doesn't, my opinion of my self is the only thing that matters and that's because i'm slightly harsher critic than anyone else.