of course she called you a jerk. Trust me, I've said the same thing to women before, they don't like being told that. Sometimes it's because they know they've been found out and are getting defensive, but mostly it's because they don't really realize they're doing it (especially at your age). They just liek the attention, and want more. It doesn't necessarily make them a bad person, but it doesn't mean that you have to cater to them either. While it probably would have been best to not speak to her for a while, since you did, that was probably the best thing to say.