I just need to vent, sorry...

[ihateusernames]

Yeah, not reading your response. Try to justify it however you want. You're wrong. The fact that you fail to see that shows that you are in no way ready for a relationship.

Ok, Thats your 2 cents and I do respect your opinion.
Just know, if you actually read this post, next time you come into an "advice" thread, try to expect whoever your giving advice to, too retaliate a little if your going to be a flat out **** about how you give the advice.

Thanks, though. (for real)

 

[Matt]

Ok, Thats your 2 cents and I do respect your opinion.
Just know, if you actually read this post, next time you come into an "advice" thread, try to expect whoever your giving advice to, too retaliate a little if your going to be a flat out **** about how you give the advice.

Thanks, though. (for real)

No, its not opinion. If you want to fix this, you are wrong. That is honestly the way it works. Sexist as it may sound, you will never fix a relationship if the woman has to admit fault. She said she felt like she was cheating and look at how she responded. She basically had a nervous break down.

And for future reference, you shouldn't ask for advice if you can't handle the advice you get.

 

[Superman79]

Sexist as it may sound, you will never fix a relationship if the woman has to admit fault.

It's not sexist if it's true.

And truer words have never been spoken...

 

[GunBlade]

Awwww...

Give it time. If it's meant to be, it will happen.

 

[Erzengel]

So after you tell her you love her in your sleep, she freaks out about her age, commitment and the future. You break up, she kisses another guy, yet still feels guilty about it?

Quick question, do you think it's possible that maybe she just doesn't want to be tied down right now and wants to enjoy college and just used the whole "committment" freak out as an excuse to break up?

 

[Canadian Rider]

Perhaps she is missing your connection and friendship but wanting to experiment since that is her expectation of College?

If she has not expressed that she loves you, perhaps it is because she does not feel that deeply -- OR that she does not express her love in that way.

Long distance can work if you both want it to.

I would suggest that you ask her what she wants and what she sees in the future for herself. Not about your relationship, but what she sees in her future ...

Work from there and step back. Be her friend first and help her deal with her situation.

IMO.

 

[November Rain]

er, ihateusernames, it may seem abit hard to swallow but matt's 1.2.3. approach pretty much sums it all up.

I don't personally know how one person could do something just as much as another person and then let them feel guilty about it.

if she knew about your dates, do you think she would be asking you to come over, especially when you had a clear opportunity to tell her and didn't.

basing your comeback relationship on a lie is not the best thing to do and it will just end badly.

I say wait until your circumstances have changed (geographically and socially, you both still have the same problems you did when you broke up last time), then see if there is still anything there but until then, keep her as a friend and for the love of god, don't sleep with her, you're messing with her head here dude.

bad man.