i'm helping with problems again.

[Spider-X]

spideyboy_1111...try this:

go up to him and just be frank with him...just ask "last friday, when we had sex...did that mean anything to you?"

 

[Danalys]

I'm in love with my best friend... have been for about a year.. he knew in the past i liked him.. but i dunno, its wierd.. i know a part of him likes me.. but i get the vibe we both just ignore our thoughts on the subject. I dunno were both very spiritual he claims he gets "visions" alot, and he gets alot when hes with me... and i feel personally very drawn torwards him... i feel like were suppose to be together.. maybe not now, but later. anyways friday we ended up having sex together for the first time, i mean we have fooled around a bit in the past nothin too serious... and lately we've been spending alot of time together.

I always seem to fall for him.. and then just kinda give up on it... and its rough cuz hes my best friend, one of the people in my life i admire the most, i idolize him and hes definately one of the closest people in my life...

i really want to tell him how i feel but the trick is how do i do that without 1) messing up our friendship 2) making things akward and 3) not stopping the messing around... lol cuz its fun :P

this problem almost scares me. you know if you are both mature enough even if you find you aren't right for each other you can remain friends. you'll probably lose the messing around part but that would be counter productive for you anyway. is the guy in good health? under pressure or anything? he could be worried about his own judgement over this as you are. if your both in good moods together then go for it. otherwise not knowing if it would work out will screw with your mind. are you mutually surportive? that would be a great sign. does each of you initiate the messing around? that'd be a good sign also.

 

[Kritish]

You're a guy arn't you?

 

[Abaddon]

He's not interested in being in love,for whatever reason.You'll have to deal.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

thats what they are,apparently.

haha ya.... but its not just that, i dunno we both feel extremely comfortable around eachother, and he tells me things before he tells others and i duno id really like it to be more

 

[Danalys]

We run on different schedules,and there's only one I keep in contact often.And its not so much that theyre boring,but I feel the need to replace the void.

you might need new friends at this point in your life. tell the old ones that it isn't working out for you tho. that may spur them to be more friendly or drive them away. either way that's probably for the best depending on them. either than or they have issues that are getting in the way of being a good friend to you.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

this problem almost scares me. you know if you are both mature enough even if you find you aren't right for each other you can remain friends. you'll probably lose the messing around part but that would be counter productive for you anyway. is the guy in good health? under pressure or anything? he could be worried about his own judgement over this as you are. if your both in good moods together then go for it. otherwise not knowing if it would work out will screw with your mind. are you mutually surportive? that would be a great sign. does each of you initiate the messing around? that'd be a good sign also.

were def both supportive.. he motivated me and a bunch of friends to go the the gym with him.. and because of that ive lost 25lbs... i know he finds me attractive.. and i do usually initiate.. but thats because he is always afraid of me thinking hes a ****e or thats why he had me over... in the past he told me hes tried initiating stuff by saying something but lol it never seeps through my head because hes always sarcastic and i cant tell when he is or is not

 

[Abaddon]

you're best friends.it doesn't have to be anything more.

 

[Abaddon]

you might need new friends at this point in your life. tell the old ones that it isn't working out for you tho. that may spur them to be more friendly or drive them away. either way that's probably for the best depending on them. either than or they have issues that are getting in the way of being a good friend to you.

Wheres should I start?I'm not used to actively seeking new friends.It usually just happens.

 

[Danalys]

spideyboy_1111...try this:

go up to him and just be frank with him...just ask "last friday, when we had sex...did that mean anything to you?"

that's pretty good.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

you're best friends.it doesn't have to be anything more.

it doesnt have to be... but i dunno i could really see the rest of my life with him..

and lol i get jealous when another guy hangs out with him and i know hes never liked a guy ive sought interest or went on dates with in the past.

(btw we are both very safe when it comes to sex, he only has had sex with bf's and ex bf's he trusts in the past... and ive only had sex with one other guy (aside from him) and it was a year ago

 

[Danalys]

Wheres should I start?I'm not used to actively seeking new friends.It usually just happens.

you keep your eyes open for opertunities and then you take them or you'll kick yourself if you don't. if you're enjoying yourself in a way others like, it normally helps.

 

[Kritish]

Can't...stop...laughting

 

[spideyboy_1111]

that's pretty good.

except i know it ment something to him, were very close. but wich way? and i dunno still afraid of it getting things akward..

 

[Spider-X]

except i know it ment something to him, were very close. but wich way? and i dunno still afraid of it getting things akward..

then ask him...you don't have to say "i'm in love with you" just ask him how he felt about it...it seems like he's a pretty emotionally enlightened and open guy...i'm sure he'll tell you what you're looking for.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

then ask him...you don't have to say "i'm in love with you" just ask him how he felt about it...it seems like he's a pretty emotionally enlightened and open guy...i'm sure he'll tell you what you're looking for.

i hope... its just scary haha

 

[Kritish]

i hope... its just scary haha

Take him on a long cattle drive...

That seems to work.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

cattle drive? lol im afraid to ask

 

[Danalys]

Can't...stop...laughting

if anyone laughs at you, you deserve it.

 

[Spider-X]

Take him on a long cattle drive...

That seems to work.

lol...you're such a prick...and i respect that...keep up the good work

 

[Abaddon]

Take him on a long cattle drive...

That seems to work.

is that like missionary?

 

[Kritish]

cattle drive? lol im afraid to ask

You havn't seen butt sex until you've seen it on the big screen!

 

[Spider-X]

i hope... its just scary haha

no doubt...but you 2 had sex, which is huge, and it's gonna naw at you until you find out what you want to know.

 

[Danalys]

spidey boy one of you two is going to have to be brave. take the chance if it doesn't work out make the most of that situation.

 

[Danalys]

You havn't seen butt sex until you've seen it on the big screen!

but i saw velvet goldmine when it was on tv.