The Mental health thread

[ComicChick]

Sometimes I can pick which I want. Our OT is time and a half and comp is regular but I usually sit on the Comp Time and let it expire. When it “expires”, it pays out time and a half so I can get the same amount of pay either way.
Another plus is that I get Travel Comp for traveling too so I’ll get 18 hours comp time on Saturday.

 

[cregsim]

When do you guys know that it is time to get a professional help?

 

[squeekness]

Certainly any time you are considering harming yourself or others.

 

[theastsunnn]

How can I be happy for others if I’m not happy? I don’t want to be jealous of others or look at anyone’s life as it’s better than mine, but it’s hard to be invested in other peoples happiness close to me, when I’m going thru things.

 

[JoshB1980]

I've been fighting epilepsy since I was 12 years old, and I also have type-2 bipolarism. In addition, I was diagnosed in 2013 with Asperger's Syndrome, a type of autism.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I've been fighting epilepsy since I was 12 years old, and I also have type-2 bipolarism. In addition, I was diagnosed in 2013 with Asperger's Syndrome, a type of autism.

Mental health combinations are the worst. I’m also bipolar but with ADHD. Dealing with a brain that won’t listen is a female dog.

I’ve been on medical leave for a month and a half and really need to get back to work. I found out that my disability claim was rejected last week. I filed an appeal but they are often rejected. My chiropractor and physical therapist both sent information with my appeal but even if it’s accepted, the backlog is weeks.

I’ve been told to hire a lawyer and that they won’t get paid unless I win. I’ve also been told to job hunt, which I’ve been doing. I have an apartment and I live alone so having a job is kind of important.

All this because I slipped and fell on my back. The stress has not been helpful.

 

[squeekness]

Mental health combinations are the worst. I’m also bipolar but with ADHD. Dealing with a brain that won’t listen is a female dog.

I’ve been on medical leave for a month and a half and really need to get back to work. I found out that my disability claim was rejected last week. I filed an appeal but they are often rejected. My chiropractor and physical therapist both sent information with my appeal but even if it’s accepted, the backlog is weeks.

I’ve been told to hire a lawyer and that they won’t get paid unless I win. I’ve also been told to job hunt, which I’ve been doing. I have an apartment and I live alone so having a job is kind of important.

All this because I slipped and fell on my back. The stress has not been helpful.

It's standard practice for disability claims to outright rejected the first time, soits good you appealed it. We went through that with my daughter and she was accepted the second time around.

 

[Hobgoblin]

It's standard practice for disability claims to outright rejected the first time, soits good you appealed it. We went through that with my daughter and she was accepted the second time around.

I went to the store yesterday to get advice and a manager said I’d probably be ok. I wondered if he would tell me if I was screwed. It’s good to hear that initial claims are typically rejected.

 

[squeekness]

I went to the store yesterday to get advice and a manager said I’d probably be ok. I wondered if he would tell me if I was screwed. It’s good to hear that initial claims are typically rejected.

I think they do that weed out the less serious cases.

 

[Dommy]

I think they do that weed out the less serious cases.

Agree

 

[Hobgoblin]

I quit my job about two weeks ago. The process was taking too long and my second claim had been denied. I worked stocking shelves at another store this past week but quit after two days. I worked 10pm to 6am and then had to drive 45 minutes to get home. I almost nodded off a few times. The pay would have been excellent but it wasn’t worth it. Management seemed disorganized and my boss seemed unimpressed after two days.

I applied to another place yesterday, right across the street that I know is looking for help. I have no idea what the pay is but I’ve worked for the company before. I’ll take it. The stress is real but I know I’ll be ok.

 

[squeekness]

I quit my job about two weeks ago. The process was taking too long and my second claim had been denied. I worked stocking shelves at another store this past week but quit after two days. I worked 10pm to 6am and then had to drive 45 minutes to get home. I almost nodded off a few times. The pay would have been excellent but it wasn’t worth it. Management seemed disorganized and my boss seemed unimpressed after two days.

I applied to another place yesterday, right across the street that I know is looking for help. I have no idea what the pay is but I’ve worked for the company before. I’ll take it. The stress is real but I know I’ll be ok.

I'm wishing you good luck. The overnight shift is very hard. I was my least productive at those hours.

 

[ComicChick]

I'm wishing you good luck. The overnight shift is very hard. I was my least productive at those hours.

on the flip side, i was very productive on third shift, but it does take a toll on you. my sleep schedule is still and probably always will be erratic

 

[Venom75]

I've been feeling ok lately. Mainly because I doubled my medication. But one of my biggest hang ups though is my ex girlfriend. I haven't seen her since 2010 and she's been happily married since 2011. We dated and were best friends throughout most of the 2000's. I've tried reaching out to her a few years back,but she wanted nothing to do with me. But she's constantly been on my mind this whole time. Sometimes I hate her for how she's treated me,and sometimes I miss her so much it hurts. I've tried like hell to find someone else,but dating these days is nightmarish and it's been nothing but failure. I know I should've moved on years ago,but she's all I want or thing about. I don't even think my heart is into finding anyone anymore. Most likely I'll remain single for the rest of my days. Although sometimes it can get really lonely. But I'm not sure why it's been so hard for me to move on. I mean,it's been like,20 years.

 

[Babillygunn]

I’ve been struggling the last couple of weeks. Stress is so overwhelming. My kids are finishing up school so it has been crazy schedules with finals and track meets and orchestra concerts. I also stress all the time about work because I bought equity ownership into where I work recently and that has really amplified the stress. I’m constantly monitoring my performance as well as everyone else’s as well. My wife and I are like two ships in the night trying to stay afloat with everything going on. And it seems like everything is vying for my attention. We are going to do a short trip early next week to celebrate school being over. But while that is meant to be a getaway, vacations to me now feel like a distraction that take me away from work.

I really need to get a better perspective.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I’ve been struggling the last couple of weeks. Stress is so overwhelming. My kids are finishing up school so it has been crazy schedules with finals and track meets and orchestra concerts. I also stress all the time about work because I bought equity ownership into where I work recently and that has really amplified the stress. I’m constantly monitoring my performance as well as everyone else’s as well. My wife and I are like two ships in the night trying to stay afloat with everything going on. And it seems like everything is vying for my attention. We are going to do a short trip early next week to celebrate school being over. But while that is meant to be a getaway, vacations to me now feel like a distraction that take me away from work.

I really need to get a better perspective.

How has that gone? Any better?

I’ve kept the same job for a year and for the most part it goes well. We’ve gotten better employees and the bad ones have quit or been fired. Sales are up 50% from this time last year and customers are happier. I’m the night manager now and for the most part my employees respect me.

My issue is keeping track of dinner orders. If they are too big or too complex I tend to make mistakes. Yesterday we had two big orders due at the same time (which was a big mistake in itself) and one was finished 45 minutes late. Then I realized I’d forgotten to give part of the order. Boss didn’t get angry but at the same time, this kind of thing isn’t too unusual. It’s all overwhelming.

 

[Babillygunn]

How has that gone? Any better?

I’ve kept the same job for a year and for the most part it goes well. We’ve gotten better employees and the bad ones have quit or been fired. Sales are up 50% from this time last year and customers are happier. I’m the night manager now and for the most part my employees respect me.

My issue is keeping track of dinner orders. If they are too big or too complex I tend to make mistakes. Yesterday we had two big orders due at the same time (which was a big mistake in itself) and one was finished 45 minutes late. Then I realized I’d forgotten to give part of the order. Boss didn’t get angry but at the same time, this kind of thing isn’t too unusual. It’s all overwhelming.

Life is still stressful and overwhelming. I constantly have to remind myself that I cannot control my external stressors, but I can control my attitude toward the stressors and my preparation and performance in light of them. Fortunately I’ve never had any issues with substance addiction but I still find the AA “serenity prayer” to be extremely helpful: “God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change; grant me strength to change the things that I can; and grant me the wisdom to know the difference between the two.”

I’m sorry to hear of your challenges in keeping up with orders for work. I had a similar experience a few years ago in my work. But in my case, I found that I was lacking in my administration skills. I wasn’t keeping my schedule well and I’d nearly miss deadlines and have to rush work at the last minute. I found that I had to learn some administrative skills and do better at keeping my schedule up to date. I also had to learn delegate more to others and trust others to work with me and help me.

But sometimes it’s just a situation where you have too much to do, and you can’t change that.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I’m not religious but I can see how that prayer would be helpful.

 

[Mandon Knight]

Felt very honoured this week & proud to be part of the Baton of Hope movement in my town of Basingstoke, here in the UK.

The Baton of Hope is a foundation charity with the primary aim of raising awareness of mental health & preventing suicide. The Baton has been travelling the UK, passing from town to town with baton bearers taking on 'legs' of the journey between town's & cities with their own story behind why they wished to walk with the baton, until it reaches its London arrival to mark World Mental Health day on the 10th October.

The charity I work for, Inclusion Education, a SEN charity were the hosts this year for Basingstoke and our learners were involved on the day and as I have my own story, covering these subjects, it was, with an immense sense of pride and great honour to be part of the day and represent my workplace.

A hugely emotional day and one that I felt represented a life-long journey 'back' for my own past.

As I said to my colleagues.....'I have fought all my life for the peace I have in my life now and regarding my work role, I am where I was always supposed to be'.