I'm well aware of all my faults and what I have to do to move on, but there's a major part of me that doesn't want to. Strange, I know. Maybe I feel like I don't deserve to be happy? I'm not sure.
Maybe you're scared? As unhappy are you may be at the moment, might it be that you're ... content with it? Getting by day to day because you know you can, but also with the optimism that something will change/happen by chance?
I say this simply because I think that's how I've been living these past few years. I want change. I want differences, but I'm also not going out of my way to make them (in part because I don't necessarily know where to start).
If change frightens you, then I propose you need to conquer your fear.
Those letters are a reminde of a better time,when I actually felt loved. For years I have thought about throwing them out, but you know...easier said than done.
I can fully appreciate this, but if the letters are doing nothing for you, then I question the logic in keeping them.
That's one of problems I felt before creating this topic...that some may see this all as whining. After all,we all have problems. Some more than others.
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I want to create this so that we all have a chance to get out feelings/problems out and hopefully get some great advice and some help from fellow board members.
It's good to have the support, sure, but the area that I sometimes feel is in place is where people come along and post (or whine, as it were) in in the hope that someone else will fix all of their problems, or where they're going on about the same issues week in, week out, for months on end whilst not making any advancement in themselves.
It's okay to whine, it's okay to have a verbal (or even physical) cry, but if people aren't willing to help themselves, what's the endgame?
By the way, I just sent out some applications for other jobs. I despise my current one. It's not helping my health at all and I so need a change. I'm so miserable there! I know it sounds rather mundane, but for me it's a major step.
I may have been to quick to jump on some people about this before, but you're right, a job is a good portion of our lives, and if we're not happy in it, we've got to make changes to amend that. A happier job equals a happier self.
I think around 180 jobs just sense the start of 2020. Having a job you despise is a big one when it comes to causing depression/anxienty because you spend so much of your time at work. I mean like 40 hours a week for like 40 years or so. If you had a job you hated but only had to work like 1 day a week or something it would not be a big deal but being there 5 days a week yeah it sucks. It really can rune your life.
If I were you, I'd stop counting the number of jobs I've applied for, and been unsuccessful with. That's not going to make you feel any better.
Apply for jobs, by all means, but don't keep track of every job you don't get.
And for the next post,
@spiderman2, what happened to those paragraphs we started to grow very fond of?
I hope you find something to not sure like what is all bother you but for me it would help a lot. I fell more and more trapped each day at my work and I have had to surprise a lot of feelings and for someone who sucks at hiding how they fell and has no poker face it sucks. There is nothing I hate more than having to hold in how I fell. A lot of it is work related that I have had to surprse but I have had to hide how I fell a few times over things that where not work its self but things I would have not had to deal with it I was not in that area any more.
If you're able to be clear and coherent in a reply, what is it exactly that you despise so much about your job? Is there anything you can do differently whilst working? Change your shifts, change how you do things, change who you work with? What's your
wiggle room?