Is inviting a girl to your house considered a date?

[CConn]

Is the room all pimped out with surround sound/sound proofing/awesome seats too? 'Cause that'd rule.

I have a 84" theater screen in my basement with surround sound, and two futons for seating.

It's practically begging to be renamed Sexopotamia.

 

[Apollo]

i mean i also live right arross the street from the park, so if she comes over and then we walk to the park, would that be a better date??

 

[Bastila]

yea, i'm pretty sure there is

Then if you are on sure on that, ask her out, evening if you say it's a date but can you come round mine as you it would be better night, like you could cook, watch a film and talk and so on.
Thats a nice date really as you wont be interrupted (unless the phone goes off lol)

 

[Canadian Rider]

depends what she likes ... think of her hobbies, what she talks about. It shows you listen and that is very important ...

 

[Abaddon]

yea, i'm pretty sure there is

don't take her home on a first date. Especially if you plan on having her meet the family.

 

[Immortalfire]

At first glance, I thought this was another one of GAH's threads.

 

[kytrigger]

i mean i also live right arross the street from the park, so if she comes over and then we walk to the park, would that be a better date??

I guess...I mean it depends on the girl really. I could see where some would really like that, but some would hate it as well. Also, where do you live? If it's cold, then maybe a walk isn't the best idea.

One of the most important aspects of a date is to make sure they know you are actually trying. A date of having her come to your house and watch a movie, and then walking across the street to a park doesn't sound like you're trying too much. If I were you, then I would take her somewhere else.

OR, if you do want to stay at your place and/or the park, then make sure you spice it up a little. You cook dinner for the both of you instead of having a parent cook it, and plan somethign in the park, so it doesn't seem like you're just bored and pulled "uh wanna go to the park" out of nowhere.

So it is entirely possible to have a great date at your place and the park, but you just have to make sure she knows she isn't just some afterthought.

 

[Deep Thinkin'!]

First i ask her out, and if shes says YES, then i ask her if she'd like to RATHER go to my place and watch a movie (brothers and parents would be there so its not like we'll be alone)

I remember one day I was asked to hang out at this guys house. We had this attraction but were currently just friends. This would have been a very fun thing for me if he hadn't dressed in sweats and a shirt that was too short to show his fat , and this was a first date kind of....

 

[kytrigger]

I remember one day I was asked to hang out at this guys house. We had this attraction but were currently just friends. This would have been a very fun thing for me if he hadn't dressed in sweats and a shirt that was too short to show his fat , and this was a first date kind of....

moral of the story: If you invite her over to your house, don't wear anythign at all...

 

[Apollo]

I remember one day I was asked to hang out at this guys house. We had this attraction but were currently just friends. This would have been a very fun thing for me if he hadn't dressed in sweats and a shirt that was too short to show his fat , and this was a first date kind of....

well i'm not a slob, i dress nice, and i'm sure shes feels somthing, becasue she waves to me a lot at school, even when i didnt even know her, she would still give me a wave and hello how are you, and everytime i talk to her she goes red in the face, so i would have been stupid if i would ignore it, so i asked for her number, but she never picks it up, and i think shes just to shy to call me back,

 

[Ben Urich]

i conquer with this

Conquer/concur. Hadn't seen those two words confused with one another.

 

[lordofthenerds]

This sounds like a lazy attempt to skip the first step of a date and get right to your place so you can screw.

 

[Kyalesyin]

I'd call it a date.

 

[kytrigger]

well i'm not a slob, i dress nice, and i'm sure shes feels somthing, becasue she waves to me a lot at school, even when i didnt even know her, she would still give me a wave and hello how are you, and everytime i talk to her she goes red in the face, so i would have been stupid if i would ignore it, so i asked for her number, but she never picks it up, and i think shes just to shy to call me back,

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you/her?

 

[Hudson]

At first glance, I thought this was another one of GAH's threads.

or that guy Hudson

 

[Kyalesyin]

At first glance, I thought this was another one of GAH's threads.

Oddly enough, shortening it to 'GAH' is about accurate. Its the noise I make upon seeing one of his threads. I wondered if this was one of his too.

 

[Apollo]

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you/her?

17 and 18

 

[Apollo]

This sounds like a lazy attempt to skip the first step of a date and get right to your place so you can screw.

thats just out of the quetion, thats not what i would do, it would just be a nice gathering (date)

 

[Abaddon]

Take her out and invite her over after the date.



Also

 

[Deep Thinkin'!]

well i'm not a slob, i dress nice, and i'm sure shes feels somthing, becasue she waves to me a lot at school, even when i didnt even know her, she would still give me a wave and hello how are you, and everytime i talk to her she goes red in the face, so i would have been stupid if i would ignore it, so i asked for her number, but she never picks it up, and i think shes just to shy to call me back.

Ok sounds like your on the right track... Just thought I'd throw in the first dates are when you make her think you're perfect.

Good luck to you.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

It can work fine that way?
what the hell are you talking about?

You're saying that a platonic relationship can stay that way via exclusive one-on-one interaction if there's sexual attraction between them?

Sorry, but I have to respectfully disagree. Two people cannot deny/ignore sexual chemistry no matter how much they *want* to stay "just friends". Inevitably, the relationship is going to evolve past that point. Now, what it evolves into is up to one or both people involved. However, engaging in "date-like" activities alone is only going to aggravate that desire. Unofficially, it qualifies as a date IMO.

Do you see what I'm saying?

 

[Ghostrider84]

You're saying that a platonic relationship can stay that way via exclusive one-on-one interaction if there's sexual attraction between them?

Sorry, but I have to respectfully disagree. Two people cannot deny/ignore sexual chemistry no matter how much they *want* to stay "just friends". Inevitably, the relationship is going to evolve past that point. Now, what it evolves into is up to one or both people involved. However, engaging in "date-like" activities alone is only going to aggravate that desire. Unofficially, it qualifies as a date IMO.

Do you see what I'm saying?

yep.. agree 100%.... I was dating my fiance... and friends with this girl named megan who I thought was gorgous... she liked me alot too.... I almost ended up cheating on my GF.... we were hugging each other "goodbye" and we both moved in for a kiss, but I stopped before it happened.... I ended the friendship right after that....

 

[kytrigger]

17 and 18

okay, well first things first, you have to actually get her to commit to a date. You said she doesn't answer the phone when you call her, how many times has this happened? It could very well be that she is busy and too shy to call back, but that still leaves the problem that you haven't asked her out yet (even if it isn't for lack of trying). So ask her to her face. Next time you go up to her and talk to her, just ask her if she'd like to go out for dinner sometime.

Now, assuming you two will go out, there is the conundrum of what to do. Like I said earlier, I would personally avoid taking her to your house for dinner and a movie on the first date simply because it might make her uncomfortable seeing as how she is in a place where she is the only outsider. Especially if this girl is too shy to even call you back, imagine how awkward it would be for her to have to converse with your entire family while simultaneously on a date with you.

I would take her to a relaxed place with good food, but not too expensive and still relaxed enough where you two can actually talk. Like someone said earlier, what does she like? If she likes a certain type of food, take her there. Persoanlly, I used to like taking girls to a habachi place because the food is usually pretty good and it's still a fun lighthearted atmosphere.

Ultmately it's up to you (obviously). You know her better than any of us on here do, so you will know what she is more comfortable with. If you think she would really like the park, then take a stroll through the park etc. But if I were in your place, I would avoid taking her to your house for a first date (although if it works out and there are more dates, then it would be absolutely fine.)

 

[Ben Urich]

Take her out and invite her over after the date.



Also

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Venom drive truck!!!
How can that be?!?!

 

[FreeRadical]

A few years ago this girl I liked invited me to her house a few days after I asked her out, because I haven't arranged where to go out to. Well I said no and took her bowling and watched A Bug's Life at the local mulitplex.

It can work fine that way?
what the hell are you talking about?

Two words: Dawson's Creek