*Official* Relationship Advice Thread Strikes Back

[Anubis]

Nah, I have no problem striking up a conversation, I just didn't know if I should in a library. I didn't know if that'd be creepy doing it in a library. I just let the conversation die cause I couldn't find anything interesting to talk about with her.

People have sex in the library, why in gods name would trying to pick chicks up be creepy?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

People have sex in the library, why in gods name would trying to pick chicks up be creepy?

Convents and abortion clinics are probably a no-no. Library's are a-okay for .

Nah, I have no problem striking up a conversation, I just didn't know if I should in a library. I didn't know if that'd be creepy doing it in a library. I just let the conversation die cause I couldn't find anything interesting to talk about with her.

I'm guessing if you're worried about whether a certain location is appropriate or not, it's probably that you're self-conscious about how you will be preceived, which is a recipe for disaster. You should be open to try anything, but don't worry over whether it will work or not.

 

[Erzengel]

First step, find a nice book of poetry. Secondly, turn to a nice passage that you'd think you'd enjoy. Next, slip your member into it. Then ask her to turn to the appropriate section. Finally, enjoy the sex.

 

[BlackLantern]

First step, find a nice book of poetry. Secondly, turn to a nice passage that you'd think you'd enjoy. Next, slip your member into it. Then ask her to turn to the appropriate section. Finally, enjoy the sex.

foolproof

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

First step, find a nice book of poetry. Secondly, turn to a nice passage that you'd think you'd enjoy. Next, slip your member into it. Then ask her to turn to the appropriate section. Finally, enjoy the sex.

I like that, it's classy.

 

[BlackLantern]

edit...wrong thread

 

[LOBO3315a]

I like that, it's classy.

She Walks in Beauty by Lord Byron is a very good one.

On a whim, in a bookstore I read that to my now X-wife and I credit it for making my marriage bearable for the remaining 2 years.

 

[guitarsingerguy]

Convents and abortion clinics are probably a no-no. Library's are a-okay for .

I'm pro choice.

 

[Anubis]

STD clinics are good places as well.....I mean, as long as you wait the appropriate amount of time for the Penicillin to kick in.

 

[Wolfwood]

Convents and abortion clinics are probably a no-no. Library's are a-okay for .

I'm guessing if you're worried about whether a certain location is appropriate or not, it's probably that you're self-conscious about how you will be preceived, which is a recipe for disaster. You should be open to try anything, but don't worry over whether it will work or not.

I dunno, something about the library threw me off. Places don't usually bother cause..well..I've done things at a church that would be frowned upon. I think it's cause she was studying and I kinda felt like an ass for intruding in on that lol.

 

[ComicChick]

just ask what she's studying? if her answers are clipped or seem like she doesn't want to speak you can bow out. if she seems to like telling you what she's reading, them maybe you can open a conversation

 

[BlackLantern]

CC...awesome avy

 

[scatterax]

So, about a year ago I had a crush on this girl I've known for most of my life and who is about a year younger than me. But i gave up all hope after 2 weeks when I found out her older sister, whom is a couple months younger than me, and whom i have also known my whole life, had been convinced by her at the time new friends that I was creepy. Did I give up too soon? or would it've actually been creepy for me to try and win her over dispite what her older sis and friends were saying?

 

[Anubis]

Are you creepy?

 

[lixdexia]

So, about a year ago I had a crush on this girl I've known for most of my life and who is about a year younger than me. But i gave up all hope after 2 weeks when I found out her older sister, whom is a couple months younger than me, and whom i have also known my whole life, had been convinced by her at the time new friends that I was creepy. Did I give up too soon? or would it've actually been creepy for me to try and win her over dispite what her older sis and friends were saying?

you're judging relative age in months and have naruto in your signature, so i'm gonna bet that you're still in school, probably early high school. don't sweat it, move on.

 

[Anubis]

And stop smelling your fingers in the hallway. That s**t is creepy.

 

[scatterax]

nope. at least, she didn't think so. we got along. we were talking about burning eachother cds and stuff, if that means anything. We mostly talked about indy bands that we liked that nobody else knew.lol. .....but her older sister had 2 classes w/ me, and thought it was weird that I tried to talk to her @ school for some reason. (ya, she's that stuck up) plus she started hanging around 2 girls that have hated me for years. (no seriously, one of 'em posted a blog the other day about how much of a bad person they thought i was, despite not being able to come up w/ examples or reasons why.) so when the sister joined in on the me hating, i desided it would be better just to forget about her. (the younger 1 that i liked.)

 

[scatterax]

you're judging relative age in months and have naruto in your signature, so i'm gonna bet that you're still in school, probably early high school. don't sweat it, move on.

lol, nope. in college. sorry bout the months thing. I just mentioned it cuz the sister that was my age thought it was weird that i liked her younger sister because i was "even older than me(her)"

I'm 19 (18 at the time), the girl i like girl i like is 17 (16 at the time) and her sister though i was being inapropriate by talking to her. which when you keep in mind that I've known these girls our whole lives is kinda stupid. and what's even more stupid is that the older sister started dating some1 w/ the same age difference as me and her younger sis a few months after I stopped talking to them. Y make a big deal about something and than do it yerself?

 

[Anubis]

Maybe she liked you.

 

[scatterax]

OK, to make this less confusing I'll make a simple timeline.

Spoiler

Age b4 I can remember, I met a future crush and her sis.

Age 14, hater has crush on me, creeps me out, but get used to her deside to give her a chance, she plays hard to get, I misread it as her losng interest, start talking to haters best friend, she hates me for life.

Age 18, Start having crush on crush, end up at same college as crushes older sister. at same time older sis starts talking to hater, becomes haters new bestfriend. trouble starts. I stop talking to big sis and crush b4 it gets ugly.

Age 19, see former crush every week. neither of us has interest in dating the other person. We still see each other every week, but don't talk. (we work w/ a group of kids on week ends) hater hates, and posts blogs about her undying hate for me on the interenet. hater has boyfriend, posts about how much she hates me as much as how much she loves him. hater creeps me out. I creep big sis out. no clue why. no clue what former crushes opinion of me is.

 

[scatterax]

Maybe she liked you.

Big sis? nope. not at all. she told people I stalked her at school. barely talked to her tho. sat by her a couple times at the bigining of the semester. still tried to act friendly on account of us having the same group of friends and since we saw each other almost every day (2X a week for school, the rest cuz we knew the same people) I thought it would make more sense for us to get along since we were stuck w/ eachother.

I think part of it was that b4 she found out about me liking her sis, I asked her if she (big sis) thought i was boyfriend material. She told me she didn't see her self ever dating me. I told her a day l8r that I didn't like her, but I think she still got confused on that.

 

[lixdexia]

dude, you are making way too much of this, just let it go

 

[scatterax]

heh? not really. If it was a big deal to me I'd ask some1 I know. I just mentioned it cuz this thread reminded me of the awkward sich and I wanted to here yer guys take on it. no biggy tho.

 

[Asteroid-Man]

dude, you are making way too much of this, just let it go

Yeah dude, I agree with this post. You're being creepy. You're making a big deal out of nothing. Want me to make it simple for you? Write down all the reasons why it would be a bad idea so that every time you doubt not going for her, you can read it again. Seriously, it could even be something as simple as "I hate how she nibbles her food... she sounds like a squirrel" - so that you're like "I can't marry someone who nibbles their food like a rodent!" And I know bringing in marriage is drastic, but if you're gonna make a big deal like this out of it I am %1000000000 sure you've thought of marrying her cause you've known each other since you were kids and yadda yadda.

Wanna know WHY you've been crushing on her? Because you've invested so much of your life and time in her and in your friendship that you want to make it all feel worth it.

The sooner you can accept this the better. I was like this too - **** got ugly, but eventually I moved on. Do the same, my friend.

 

[scatterax]

nonononononononononono. I don't like her NOW. I've been over her. I was just wondering I had quit too soon back THEN. I don't feel like I missed anything, and I wasn't that attatched to her to begin with. I'm just wondering if now if giving up w/o a fight was the right thing, or if it was as poinless as it seemed. It's more of a manhood thing than a love thing I guess. We were only starting to get close so cutting ties didn't really hurt. it's just the what if's that bother me. (I like those kinds of riddles. )

edit.

I guess my question is, for the future, is it better to give up w/o a fight when things seem hopeless, or is it better to take a chance and fight for something/one you want?