SPIDERGNOME: Second, it is just bad story telling. Marvel sets up Pete's ID is public, he is a hunted fugitive, MJ & Aunt May are hunted fugitives, Spidey's enemies know who he is, Aunt May is shot and dying, Pete has threatened to kill Kingpin if Aunt May dies. So this is some predicament. How will this be resolved...?
...it won't. We'll just ignore that build-up. No one knows who Spidey is, Aunt May is fine making wheat cakes and Marvel is just basically saying, just go with it! We don't have to resolve it, will pick it up with everything is ok.