Question for the guys

[Drakon]

Now, there are some good quality fakes out there. But it's still not as good as the real thing.

I've said it before and I'll say it again. If you can touch it, it's real.

 

[Two-Face]

If your wife/longterm girlfriend had breast cancer and had to have a breast removed, would you stay with her ?

Yes I would, I love her and she loves me that's all that matters...

 

[Master Chief]

If your wife/longterm girlfriend had breast cancer and had to have a breast removed, would you stay with her ?

If my girlfriend broke a fingernail I'd drop her, there's no depth to my shallowness.

 

[CrashNburn]

is someone going for shock factor?

 

[Anita18]

Is it a trend for women who get a mastectomy to have both done? Don't know anything about the psychology of it, but I know that if losing one of my nuts made me feel like half of a man, I wouldn't get rid of both of them to finish the job.

I think it depends on their risk. If they're already very genetically predisposed to getting breast cancer (every female relative getting it, for example), they might choose to get all breast tissue removed as a precaution. But I think that's on a case-by-case basis.

My wife would often joke that having the reconstructive surgery afterwards was necessary from a safety standpoint because if she didn't, she constantly walk in circles because one side of her body weighed more. t:

She had a wonderful surgeon for the breast reconstruction surgery and it's almost unnoticable now.

Your wife sounds like an awesome woman. I hope she (and you!) are doing well.

I'm a chick, but IMO only jerks would leave their wife/long-term gf over the loss of a breast. Glad to see that all of you here are not jerks. t:

 

[Golgo-13]

If your wife/longterm girlfriend had breast cancer and had to have a breast removed, would you stay with her ?

Absolutely.

 

[DBella]

Well, technically, she'd only be half a woman.

Is it in your opinion that two breasts make a whole woman and that if she loses one, it'll make her half a woman? Even on 'technicality', a woman is so much more than that. Her breasts is only a small part of what makes her whole.

Thanks man. I'm willing to stay with her, even if it turns out that this gets worse and we aren't able to have kids. Or, it doesn't spread and she is cured.

I'm sorry to hear about your lady BizAids. I wish her all the best and may what you both fear (that you'll not be able to bear your own children) will somehow be avoided. And finally, I wish that your love for each other will endure this... setback. My best wishes to you both.

So in a way, I see how your question applys, and I just think that your feelings for the woman should hold that answer. If you truly love someone, you'll stick through them, especially such a rough time. A guys shallowness of lossing his girls breast shouldn't end a relationship. He's not the one that losses it, he's not going through the Kemo. He should stick by her side through it all. If their love is that strong.

If a guy bails out on a girl in her time of need, I doubt he loved her at all. He's mostly just in love with the 'idea' of her, of what he expects of her and wants her to be.

Well that I think would be an incredibly jerk ass thing to do. I mean, there's always adoption. You may not be able to have your own biological junior, but the woman you're with hasn't physically changed, you know?

I mean, honestly, how many dudes would even approach a girl if they only had one tata? Unless they're *truly* in love with that person, I think a lot of dudes would jump ship. It's sad, but it's true.

Sad but true indeed. A lot of us pay too much attention and put too much significance on appearance but I think that usually applies when we meet strangers. Once we get to know a person, hopefully appearance becomes less and less significant and once love grows, it should be the least of what's important on how much we value a person.

Well, then it comes down to what the guy would be more accepting of: his girl not being able to reproduce, or his girl only having one breast.

What will be more accepting for you given the two option?

 

[Immortalfire]

Have you ever felt a fake boob?
Awful.

Have you ever felt a real one?

*wipes spit off monitor* Dang you.

 

[Anita18]

Is it in your opinion that two breasts make a whole woman and that if she loses one, it'll make her half a woman? Even on 'technicality', a woman is so much more than that. Her breasts is only a small part of what makes her whole.

Agreed, they're just body parts. Having them is part of the experience of being a woman, but they don't certainly make you one.

Sad but true indeed. A lot of us pay too much attention and put too much significance on appearance but I think that usually applies when we meet strangers. Once we get to know a person, hopefully appearance becomes less and less significant and once love grows, it should be the least of what's important on how much we value a person.

You do have a point there. Appearance is really all we have when we see strangers, but I would certainly hope that there would be something more once you became close to someone.

 

[DBella]

Agreed, they're just body parts. Having them is part of the experience of being a woman, but they don't certainly make you one.

I don't know if Cmill meant that having breasts distinguishes women from men but then again, some men have boobs, too.

You do have a point there. Appearance is really all we have when we see strangers, but I would certainly hope that there would be something more once you became close to someone.

I think it's in our nature to first find attraction in appearance. Which is why I find it great that when we get to know someone here, appearance is the least important factor. We get to know a poster from the inside out and once we've form friendship and affection, how the person looks doesn't matter at all.

Btw, I just have to say that I LOVE your avatar!

 

[Anita18]

I don't know if Cmill meant that having breasts distinguishes women from men but then again, some men have boobs, too.

Some men have bigger boobs than me. I wonder how they'd react to someone telling them they're more of a woman than I am.

Btw, I just have to say that I LOVE your avatar!

I haven't bothered to change it, since Jokerized dancing Stephen is the awesomest of the awesome.

 

[C.F. Kane]

If your wife/longterm girlfriend had breast cancer and had to have a breast removed, would you stay with her ?

I'd have to be a pretty nasty breed of a*****e not to.

 

[Bill]

If your wife/longterm girlfriend had breast cancer and had to have a breast removed, would you stay with her ?

Yes, I would stay with her.

 

[Crook]

Being a guy in my 20s, I would say that if it significantly affects our physical relationship, then I would have to break up the bonds associated with dating. That is not to say I would ditch her, however. I'd more than likely still be by her side as a friend.

If I were in my mid-40s and we'd been together for 15 years or something, then obviously my answer would be much different.

 

[The Apocalypse]

If your wife/longterm girlfriend had breast cancer and had to have a breast removed, would you stay with her ?

Yes.

 

[terry78]

Ladies: If your husband/boyfriend had penis cancer, would you stay with him?

 

[DBella]

Ladies: If your husband/boyfriend had penis cancer, would you stay with him?

Absolutely! Commitment means not running away when the going gets tough. As long as we love each other, I'll stick by him no matter what. A man is more than just his penis and if we're going to talk about sexual satisfaction, there are many things a man can do to sexually satisfy his woman that doesn't involve his penis.

 

[chaseter]

We have wonderful plastic surgery now so I would buy her some new tata's.

 

[chaseter]

Absolutely! Commitment means not running away when the going gets tough. As long as we love each other, I'll stick by him no matter what. A man is more than just his penis and if we're going to talk about sexual satisfaction, there are many things a man can do to sexually satisfy his woman that doesn't involve his penis.

So you would send him out to get a vibrator Or the ever so demeaning strap on

 

[DBella]

So you would send him out to get a vibrator Or the ever so demeaning strap on

I can get the vibrator myself. As long as he has a mouth (for tender kisses) and fingers (for loving caresses), I'm happy.

 

[Anita18]

Was watching a documentary on Sundance Channel last night about body image, and they chose some really interesting subjects. Besides the usual suspects (model, overweight synchronized swimmer, guy with no legs), they also had tattooed gang member, transsexual teacher, and breast cancer patient.

The breast cancer patient was dying, and she finally had her cancerous right breast removed after a failed lumpectomy. Part of an interview was held with her completely naked post-mastectomy, with her husband by her side. She talked about someone at the cancer support group being unable to go naked in front of her husband at all after her double mastectomy. She was afraid of that too, but the morning after she came home after the operation, she woke up to find her husband kissing her scar. She started to cry at this point, saying how lucky she was, even though she was dying.

At the end of the documentary, there was a title card saying that she had died 5 months after the filming.

IMO, any cancer is a scary, scary thing, and if one's greatest worry is how attractive they'll be after a mastectomy, that's incredibly sad.

 

[Ring Deacon]

I don't think it matters whether it is just your girlfriend or your wife. If it is a commited realationship and you love each other then nothing can tear you apart. To me my wife is more then just her breasts and that is comming from a life long boob man. The woman I love isn't the one I see on the outside, it is who she is inside. Now don't get me wrong here, I think my wife is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, and I am damned luck to have a beautiful wife like I do. But she is more then that to me. I promised to be with her till death do us part long before our wedding day. I will be with her forever even if she does have a breast removed.

 

[terry78]

Most of us don't really know what love is until we hit our late 20s or 30s, though. And even then, it's a stretch.

 

[Crook]

The woman I love isn't the one I see on the outside, it is who she is inside.

I hear this all the time, yet I wonder if the tune would change had it be something more drastic. Like say, your girlfriend/wife was born a hermaphrodite and had her penis surgically removed before you two ever met.

 

[BizarroAids]

Most of us don't really know what love is until we hit our late 20s or 30s, though. And even then, it's a stretch.

If a man doesn't know what love is by the time he hits his late 20's or early 30s, than he has some serious soul searchin to do. Or needs to grow up and phase out his immaturity.

I'm 25, and I know perfectly what love is. I've never gone around just throwing out the word to every girl I've ever dated. I saved it, until I knew it was right. And I know PLENTY of guys who are the same.

You're like 29 right? Can you honestly say you haven't found/had love? Especially something strong enough to over look a girlfriend losing a boob to cancer?

If a guy doesn't have the heart to stay with a supposed loved one through a time of need like that, than he deserves to die a lonely bitter old man.