The thing that bothers me about the Gwen situation is that she's been dead since 1973 in REAL TIME. We're halfway thru 2006. She's been dead 34 years. Most of us never read the comic while she was "alive". We only know of her thru back issues. Gwen died in AMZ 121. We're over issue 500 now. I can't speak for the rest of you, but I just don't have a big attachment to her. I didn't even know who she really was until around AMZ 276 or so, which is 150 issues after her death.
Like one person said earlier, for awhile the sitiuation was well handled. Peter would think abouther from time to time, but she wasn't constantly brought up like she is now. In recent years, Marvel seems to be desparately trying to make us remember/miss her. Well, that's hard for the people who grew up reading the book with MJ as his girlfriend. I mean Peter is MARRIED TO ANOTHER WOMAN now. That's why so many people were put off with the House of M. Peter's fondest wish is to be with a girl most of the modern readers have no attachment to.....not his wife who's been with him thru thick and thin. Let's be frank, in comic time Peter couldn't have dated Gwen more than 2 yrs.
I think a lot of creators like to write about characters they grew up with. The guys who put the most attention on Gwen or the Stacy's in general(Loeb, JMS, Mackie, etc.) are middle aged men who grew up with her during the Silver Age. Consequently, I think THEY DON'T WANT TO FORGET HER. So, they shoe horn her into the stories. Perhaps this trend will pass when writers who have no vested interest in the character eventually take over the writing duties.
I'll close by agreeing that Gwen's death was made moot when Norman returned and Peter really NEVER brought Norman to justice for his crime. It always bothered me that Norman went to jail in an issue of the PULSE, not AMZ....and Peter didn't play a big role his downfall.
Eye Doc