Freddy_Krueger said:
I never said that it did make it right. But it happens. And just because Superman is a role model of sorts doesn't mean that he doesn't make mistakes. He's made mistakes in the comics, he's made mistakes in the movies. Just because he's Superman doesn't mean he should be infallible and perfect.
I agree that SUperman should not be infallible or perfect, but I don't think that the flaws portrayed in SR are accurate to his character. SR portrays SUperman making the mistakes of an immature, irresponsible teenager. SUperman's flaws should be related to his caring and sense of responsibility of his powers. I don't think one of his flaws is that he's willing to cause pain and hurt to Lois in order to save his own pain which is implied by the stated reason in the movie for leaving w/o saying goodbye, "It would hurt too much."
Ummm...sorry. Once again, Superman Returns is a continuation of the first two Superman films. It doesn't need to state that he needed to end the relationship in this film simply because he ended it in Superman II. Whether or not you like that the Donner films state that Superman can't live as a mortal and still be Superman is moot, dems the rules in the movieverse.
But from LOis' reaction it doesn't depict how he ended it. IT just appears he left without ending it. My impression is that one day they are in a relationship that includes sex and the next day he is just gone, poof, no goodbye, no nothing. That is why Lois is so upset at him. The problem here is that SR is unclear as to what is in continuity from SUperman I and II. If you read the thread on the History of SR in the Sperman Returns forum, then it becomes more and more clear that you just don't know what's in continuity with this film and what is not. The thing is, we don't really know how he "ended it." But from Lois' reaction, she seems to be upset that he left w/o saying goodbye b/c they were STILL in a relationship. Otherwise, her level of anger towards him doesn't make sense in SR. If he actually ended the relationship before he left then it would MAYBE be more understandable that he didn't say goodbye. But if this is true, there wasn't a whole lot of time that passed between him ending the realationship and him leaving and her having sex with Richard. Knowing the context and timeline of all these events would certainly make this aspect of the story make more sense and more believable.
There is no indication in SR that the whole "Can't live as a mortal and be SUperman is in continuity in SR." The vague history from the first two films is so unclear that it is confusing. This is not a part of 'basic SUperman lore.' It is something specific to the Donner films and therefore, not basic to one's knowledge of SUperman. If it is supposed to be in continuity in SR, then Singer obviously doesn't understand that it is not at all like this when it comes to basic SUperman lore. If you take this as part of basic Superman lore, then it fundamentallly changes the character.
So, no, he didn't disappear like a coward. He simply couldn't be with her. There was no abandonment.
Then why is Lois so upset 5 years later?
So why doesn't the film indicate that they had ended the relationship before he left. All indications from the movie are that he left on the spur of the moment while they were still in the relationship. I chalk this up to a poor script and bad filmmaking/ storytelling.
That smile on her face at the end pretty much shows happiness. And trust. It's not like she was scowling at him at the end wondering where her child support money was.
It may have been enough for Lois, but I don't think it's enough for the viewer to really believe that he's made amends. At least not for me. He's screwed up so badly in this situation, a " I'm always around," is just not enough to make me believe it. An actual conversatio between the two would have been more effective, believable and dramatic.
For a non-forgiving person maybe. And, once again, had he known he was having a child he never would have left. The whole purpose of his leaving was to find others like him, but the tragedy of it was that there was someone born that was literally a part of him.
That irony is not a part of the SUperman mythos or lore. That is something brand new that is injected to the story that fundamentally changes who SUperman is.
People have this mistaken take on Superman that he's supposed to be perfect and infallible. That's just not the case. Hey, Superman admits in the film that he screwed up and was sorry for leaving Lois. He even promises her that he'll always be around for her and Jason. I don't know what more you'd want from a fictional character.
I don't think he's supposed to be pefect, but he should not make the kinds of mistakes that you would expect immature and irresponsible people to make. The mistakes he makes in SR are based to much in his own selfishness and inability to see how they affect the people he loves. No where in any Superman story does he take the easy way b/c it protects him from feeling pain. No where does he think of his feelings before considering the feeling of someone he loves. SUperman is always thinking of the other person before himself. That is the point of altruism. This movie portrays a character that has no sense of resonsibility or maturity in his personal life, while in his public life he is hailed as the world's greatest hero. That dichotomy is not part of the SUperman character in any medium. He treats his friends and loved one's properly. He may worry them in the risks he takes, but he never chooses to act in a manner which will cause them pain if he can avoid it. Plus, if you accept that SUperman is supposed to be a role model, should he really be portrayed as someone who would be so irresponsible as to father a child and leave town w/o saying anything to the woman he loves who he's unknowingly gotten pregnant? This is one of the biggest social problems we have in our world today. Is SUperman really the kind of character that would act that irresonsibly?
Lastly, "I'm always around," doesn't sound like he's hammered out the details with Lois on how he will be supportive and involved in his son's life. It sounds vague and non-comital. It doesn't sound like he's taking any initiative in his responsibility towards his son, but rather that he will be around somewhere, so if anything comes up, she can contact him. It doesn't feel like it has any impact considering that he's just been gone for the past 5 years, because it directly contradicts the fact the he HAS been gone for 5 years. Actions speak louder than words. His actions indicate he could leave at any moment for an extended space mission. The move doesn't even bother to give us a good, " I was wrong, I learned my lesson, I won't dessert my son, like I desserted you" speech, which would seem appropriate in this situation. "I'm always around" is just not convincing.
Then again, maybe I'm just a forgiving person.
Forgiveness and making amends are two different things. Lois may forgive SUperman, but nothing he will ever do will change the fact that he missed those first 4 years of Jason's life and Lois's pregnancy. As father of two, I can tell you first hand how critical those times are in a childs life as well as the mother's life. I just don't think SUperman is the kind of character that makes mistakes that will haunt him his whole life, especially when they involve hurting the woman you love and your own child. That is not SUperman, that is directly opposed to the essence of the character.
SUperman is not a character about opposing apects. His goodness is genuine and true. He treats ALL people honestly and fairly. That is the beauty of the character. He acts resposibly, even when it means carrying the burden of pain in lieu of another. He is responsible to a fault, not not that sometimes he acts irresponsibly. His flaws come from caring too much, not from being selfish. He constantly sacrifices his own personal image as Clark Kent to make an appearance as SUperman to help someone else. It is inconcievable that he would think of himself before someone he loves when he constantly sacrifices his image as Clark for the sake of strangers around the globe.
The essence of the SUperman character is that he learned tough lessons from his own mistakes, the essence of the SUperman chacter is that he learned right from wrong by his upbrining from the Kents and worked out his insecurities as a boy growing up. When you have SUperman struggling to act responsibly, you are no longer talking about SUperman. He is a paragon of resopbsibility and ethics. THAT is the essence of Superman. The essence of Superman is that he really is as goody-goody as he seems, not that in SUperman's personal life there are skeletons burried in his closet which is what SR attempts to show.