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[squeekness]

well as you know i live with my longtime gf

i got drunk yesterday coz i didnt have to go to work today.......well i met this relle nice girl and well one thing led to another and we ended up at the apartment.

well i woke up with her in my bed I AM SO LUCKY my gf was in london

now she is back but shes in bed coz she tired

do i wake her and tell her

or do i keep it quiet

One has to wonder just what it might take for a fellow to consider staying sober. This might be a wee bit of a clue. I think you should tell your gf because secrets kill. If she dumps you then you should learn from the experience and will hopefully never do this again. Your post seems a bit cavalier to me, like this isn't something that bothers all that much, besides maybe getting caught. Maybe you should just ask yourself how you would feel if your gf had cheated on you instead and that might help you decide how to handle this. At the very least, I suggest you stop drinking. NOW.

Yeah, and an AIDS test might be a good idea too, if you weren't careful.

 

[LEX]

This feels like JokerNick all over again.

Yes, I agree with the above. Keeping secrets is never a good thing because they always find a way to come out sooner or later. Get yourself tested. And stop drinking. I seriously don't get the obsession with alcohol. Yes, I drank it before and I found it repulsive.

 

[squeekness]

I know I may have sounded a bit snippy and judgemental but it seems like these kinds of posts keep happening and all I can do is cry and bemoan the fact that sacred boundaries simply no longer exist in this sinful world. There is no hot guy -- and I am including Gambit and my beloved Travis in here -- that could make me cheat on my husband and I would have felt that way even before we were married. There are lines you are not supposed to cross -- EVER. All it does it hurt people and spread misery. If you don't love your girl enough then let her go, just let it go. Dude, you gotta stop drinking.

 

[theoneandonly]

but drinking is good

but losing my girl is bad

 

[squeekness]

Drinking is not good if it makes you lose control. This is a warning I hope you will heed. Maybe the next time you will drive drunk or get into a fight. It's just not worth it.

 

[theoneandonly]

your have harsh words

im going now

bye bye

xxxxxxx

 

[SCOTT&JEAN]

Drinking is not good if it makes you lose control. This is a warning I hope you will heed. Maybe the next time you will drive drunk or get into a fight. It's just not worth it.

I totally agree with you squeeks! He should STOP drinking.

 

[Iceman]

Oh dear

Cheatin' is bad news for your relationship Amir. Anything you do after you've met someone is a big potential problem for you in the long term future. You need to decide how serious you are about this relationship and either decide to go for it fully or end it. Otherwise there's a lot of hurt in store.

Whether or not you should tell her straight away, I'm not sure. Keeping secrets of things you've done since you've met could end the relationship if she finds out through some other way in future and it's unhealthy anyway. Telling her would probably hurt her a lot so don't bother if you're going to end it but think carefully about it if you're staying together.

Everyone makes mistakes buddy, you just got to learn from them.

Ironic as I made a thread related to cheating today.

Please bump these threads if you can people.

Which is worse - "The Cheating" or "The History"?
What is the message behind films that glamorise intelligent serial killers?

Drinking is not good if it makes you lose control. This is a warning I hope you will heed. Maybe the next time you will drive drunk or get into a fight. It's just not worth it.

Yeah, although drinking itself is not really an excuse for driving while drunk, starting a fight or even cheating. Millions of people drink regularly and manage to completely avoid all 3 of those things.

 

[LEX]

I know I may have sounded a bit snippy and judgemental but it seems like these kinds of posts keep happening and all I can do is cry and bemoan the fact that sacred boundaries simply no longer exist in this sinful world.

You misunderstood me. I wasn't referring to you giving advices, but the drinking situation. I was agreeing with you, actually. So, yeah, drinking bad. It is okay when they drink on special occasions, but just drinking it EVERY DAY for no reason other than to either look cool or just for the sake of it isn't right. It can only lead to trouble.

 

[squeekness]

No, I was thinking that I was being a bit harsh in general. The problem is the behavior Amir described disgusts me ( as a woman) and as a Christian I am supposed to hate the sin and not the sinner, but what he did made me angry and it's coming out in my posts. I just think it's so sad that cheating is considered by many male habitual drinkers to be something of a small lapse when I don't happen to think it is. I guess, being female, I take relationships more seriously than he seems to, and many others that post here, including Joker Nick. I just wonder what ever happened to proper moral values? We should be living in a society where cheating is not common or considered nothing, but it just doesn't seem like it any more. I am not saying cheaters should be stoned to death or anything, but the offenders should feel more ashamed than they seem to be on the surface.

 

[theoneandonly]

I WAS DRUNK

OKAY

 

[SCOTT&JEAN]

Just DON'T EVER GET DRUNK AGAIN!!!!! Ok?

 

[theoneandonly]

but....... but

wait i need squeeks lex's and ice's votes

GUYS ITS EITHER

carry on drinking if you want to ruin your life

or

stop drinking until christmas

 

[SCOTT&JEAN]

I would say "Stop drinking permanately"

...but you wouldn't do that...

...so drink but not too much... just one glass, ok?

 

[theoneandonly]

no i will stop until christmas eve

so thats 1 from you

i need 3 more

 

[LEX]

I agree with her. Stop drinking. It will be for the best.

 

[SCOTT&JEAN]

That's what the others are gonna tell you as well.

 

[LEX]

I mean, why are you even considering this? Is a bottle of beer more important to you than your girlfriend?

 

[theoneandonly]

im not gonna stop

im jus gonna go cold turkey for a few mionths

thats 2 so far

 

[LEX]

Your loss. Don't come crying if you lose your girlfriend or lie in a deathbed because of your drinking.

 

[theoneandonly]

you know how to cut to the core of me baxter..... i mean lex

 

[LEX]

Whatever to knock some senses into you.

 

[theoneandonly]

awww

at least you care

i mioght do but i need to see what ice says

 

[SCOTT&JEAN]

Whatever to knock some senses into you.

I don't think that's possible.

Something has to happen because of his drinking in order for him to understand what that causes to him.... Otherwise he'll always be tempted to go and have a drink.

 

[theoneandonly]

ok if you relle want me to stop i will i promise