The Virginity Question

[katie_girl09]

As mentioned above, it's not necessarily "difficult," but the opportunity doesn't arise for whatever reason. It doesn't mean that something is wrong with you.

We're basically saying the same thing.

 

[Conebone69]

Yeah, my ex was really hung up about being a virgin in college but didn't have the balls funny to go all the way with me. Then again he was hung up about A LOT of things in college....

Honestly, I think virginity only bothers you if you let it, even if you're a guy. My current bf wasn't a virgin when he met me, but he got extremely nervous the first couple of times he was with me. If you get my drift... I was more relaxed than he was, and I was the virgin. I shouldn't be able to tell the difference, right? Getting him comfortable actually helped me get comfortable with the fact that sex wasn't really a big deal, and it certainly isn't what you see on TV.

So in that way, just because you've had sex at all doesn't mean you're some sex god the way the mainstream media defines it. It's just a number you can check off and you might as well lie to your partner if it's really that important to save face. Yeesh.

How old are you?

 

[Anita18]

How old are you?

I'm 27 now. My bf will be 29 this year.

 

[Erzengel]

So in that way, just because you've had sex at all doesn't mean you're some sex god the way the mainstream media defines it. It's just a number you can check off and you might as well lie to your partner if it's really that important to save face. Yeesh.

It's on my business card.

Erzengel
Sex Machine

Tel: 908-XXX-XXXX
Fax: 908-XXX-XXXX

 

[knowsbleed]

It's on my business card.

Erzengel
Sex Machine (Will do weddings)

Tel: 908-XXX-XXXX
Fax: 908-XXX-XXXX

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[Anita18]

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Don't forget bat mitzvahs and quinceneras.

 

[katie_girl09]

 

[Conebone69]

I'm 27 now. My bf will be 29 this year.

Go have sex right meow!!!

 

[Erzengel]

fixed

Don't forget bat mitzvahs and quinceneras.

I also do graduations.

Here's my official one.

 

[Hound55]

So in that way, just because you've had sex at all doesn't mean you're some sex god the way the mainstream media defines it. It's just a number you can check off and you might as well lie to your partner if it's really that important to save face. Yeesh.

I believe the Ancient Inca referred to him as Houndito Brigande...

 

[katie_girl09]

I also do graduations.



Here's my official one.

My, what big ears you have!

 

[Harls]

Haha yeah, when I explained it, it was only because I wanted to be safe "just in case;" I hadn't even made the decision that I was planning to have sex before marriage, yet. Or dating anyone. In high school, I unfortunately had no choice but to ask if I wanted to begin any medication because it would have fallen under my dad's insurance. At any rate, it went terribly, and I ended up just waiting until I was in college and going to the health clinic there to get a prescription.

For your future reference: Birth control becomes effective 7 days after you first begin taking it.

Ah yeah, that's similar to what I assumed & seven days? That's it? I wonder why I have months stuck in my head. Ah well, that's good to keep in mind

Yup, it's a damn shame. I fully believe that what you described is a HUGE factor in why STDs and unplanned pregnancies are such a big problem in this country.

Anything sexual is still often viewed as "taboo" or "dirty."

I think so, too. Hopefully in the future things will adapt & start making sex education easily available and less taboo.

And, I can't remember where I saw this, but I've read about a country (UK perhaps?) that began educating children about family life and sex when they were still rather young. It was of course very PG/G but still introduced the topic and idea to them early so they are more informed and often make better decisions when they are older. Of course the USA would have a heart attack if they did that here, but I still think it should be brought up around the time of middle school, at least. (I've personally had it in 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th & 9th grades & they focused on diseases if you aren't safe which just grossed us out instead of making us want to have sex because now we knew what that word meant, you know?)

Also for those who are still virgins, are you virgins on principle or lack of opportunity?

Principle.

 

[Darthphere]

The principle of I can't get laid.

 

[Hound55]

My, what big ears you have!

To give the lady something to hang onto...

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Hiyo!

 

[Chris Wallace]

A persons Virginity is a funny old thing, Some men feel it's like a weight on their shoulders and would like to try and get rid of it at any chance they get. For some it actually has a stigma attached, the older you get with your virginity intact is often frowned upon by most.

Then theres the other side of the coin, some people wear purity rings, holding out for there first real sexual experience until they are married.

For me i lost mine with someone i loved at 21, but i did feel it was a burdon being that age and still a virgin. Though maybe if i did lose it earlier i'd have regretted it.

How did you feel about your virginity? was it something sacred? something special or something you just wanted to get rid of as soon as possible?

How do you view people that choose to save their virginity? or those that are still virgins at a later age?

Do you feel you lost your's at the right age? do you wish you waited, or maybe you feel you waited too long. Or maybe your still one. Discuss.

I was 18-and yet the community in which I grew up would consider me a late bloomer. It was someone I didn't even like all that much and was glad to be rid of. I wish I had waited a bit longer. I wish I had held out rather than letting my libido lead me into some of the dumbest decisions I ever made.
I don't look down upon those who retain their virginity so long as they extend the same courtesy to me.

 

[AndThePickles]

Ah yeah, that's similar to what I assumed & seven days? That's it? I wonder why I have months stuck in my head. Ah well, that's good to keep in mind

It takes a few months for your body to adjust to the hormones. A lot of women give up on the pill after a month because they hate the side effects, but the side effects that you have the first 3-4 months won't necessarily happen anymore after your body adjusts.

 

[Watson]

I think everyone here is missing the big reason why it is good to have sex.

It's really, really fun

 

[Metamorpho1977]

this one time at band camp...

 

[socool]

this one time at band camp...

Hey me too! Wait...

 

[Darthphere]

I think everyone here is missing the big reason why it is good to have sex.

It's really, really fun

Yes it is, and it's also incredibly healthy.

 

[Watson]

Depending on how long it lasts...

 

[Darthphere]

Or how many times you do it.

 

[Watson]

True!

 

[terry78]

If you aren't a virgin, more often than not you do not want to be somebody else's first. You're going to be the one they remember, whether it was good or bad.