Well why by just telling them, are you making it their business?Maybe you shouldn't tell them you're a virgin then. By telling them you're making it their business.
People say things all the time, doesn't mean we should jump in and start messing around with their lives.
Sometimes, people close to you just know. My sister-in-law, who I've know for almost 14 years, asked me the other day when was I going to lose my virginity. She's even tried to introduce me to some of her unattractive cousins. Meanwhile, my brother always tries to turn any kind of friendship I have with a girl into something sexual, regardless of whether I like them or not.Maybe you shouldn't tell them you're a virgin then. By telling them you're making it their business.
What does that mean, though?
I was a late bloomer myself, but I was simply waiting until I was ready to do it and with someone I trusted. At that age I had stopped looking at my virginity like a commodity. But then again I'm a woman - I have no clue how a guy would approach that.
Thats basically my way of looking at it too. When I had the opportunity to have sex in high school, I felt too young. In college, I still didnt feel ready. The idea of maybe getting sick or getting someone pregnant terrified me.I actually disagree that virginity should mean something to you. It goes back to the days where virginity determined a woman's worth.(Feminist here, can you tell?) Still gets me
when I think about it, especially those purity pledges and whatnot. As long as people are responsible and don't hurt others, doesn't matter to me what they do together in bed. Or don't do in bed. Whichever is the case.
Even when I was a virgin, it just meant I hadn't had intercourse yet. It didn't mean I was saving myself for that extra-special person to unwrap. That's like saying I'm only worth something to my partner because I haven't been touched by another man. (Again, the feminism thing.) I just didn't want to jump into things before I was ready. That was my principle.
I don't know, I don't want to offend anybody, but to me, being a virgin holds just about the same importance as being gay. It's something ABOUT you, but it's such a small part of what makes you who you are, I don't understand how many people make it the big deal that it seems to be.
For me it was sort of the other way around. I got into church about 3 years ago because of a friend of mine, and one day I went out with some other the other younger people to get to know them, and one of them asked if I had all the girls after me. When I told him no and that I was actually shy and stuff, one of them asked me straight up if I was still a virgin, and even though I was a little ashamed to admit, I told them I was, and one of the guys was very genuine when he said he wanted to shake my hand. It really made me feel a little more at ease with all of them since I felt like I was actually being accepted for being a virgin, as opposed to being laughed at.It makes me laugh sometimes. My parents made me go to Catholic classes after school as a kid, no matter how much I told them I hated it. After a while I just accepted that what they were trying to teach me was important and I accepted the lessons, more or less. Now that I'm in the real world, they're surprised that I never did the horizontal polka.
Yes, I said before that Dad doesnt know but Mom did kind of ask a few times what my romantic life was like at school. I was like "The women are beating my door down."
Oh, I agree. It's not even restraint - there are things that people have made to specially prevent STDs and/or pregnancies.
Some people just don't think. Well, most people in high school don't. 
Oh, I agree. It's not even restraint - there are things that people have made to specially prevent STDs and/or pregnancies.
What does that mean, though?
And of course I never mean it to be a huge defining issue for anyone, but I think there's something a little warped in believing that you're worth more to someone (not financially, but personality-wise) just because you haven't had sex.
I'm not saying that Hob is like that.
Or the ability to consider consequences longer than 5 minutes from the present.I think "common sense" is the phrase you and I are looking for.
Yes, I think I misunderstood you because of the way I interpreted "virginity meaning something to you." Because being "a virgin" didn't mean something to me, it was just the result of decisions I had made.
I think Marx is agreeing with me and Hob in a roundabout way, that we chose to stay virgins longer than what is typical because we wanted to wait until we were ready. That "waiting until we were ready" meant something, even if "being a virgin" wasn't the goal.
It's just swapping bodily fluids with somebody. Did you wait until the right time to take a dump in a public toilet?
Same thing really.
Exhibit A of how sex means different things to different people
I have a very under developed "you know private part" much too small to do anything with besides urinate & even that can be difficult at times unless I am sitting down. Surgery to correct the problem is to expensive & would only guarantee minimal length results at the most, so attempting to be with any girl would only lead to her hurting my feelings from laughing at it being so small.
There's someone for everyone. Sounds dumb, but it's true. And you know, there's a lot of things you could do with a girl that don't involve sticking that part up anywhere. Sticking something into a hole is waaay overrated among guys anyway.Guess I will be a virgin forever
I've seen this in my school. Many times.
Virgin out of principle. My question is: Why does someone not having sex piss off other people? I tell people about my choice and they suddenly are starting a fund to get me a hooker.
