What do you do when your Best Friend dies?

[Spider-Bat]

A month ago my Best Friend who I knew since we were 5 was killed in a car crash. Now I feel like I lost a limb. We use to talk about comics and fantasy. He loved the Hulk and Dungeons and Dragons.


Now I don't have anyone to talk to about this stuff, well there's one friend of mine but, it's not the same. There's not that connection there.

Well, I am teacing my Girlfriend about this stuff, I can talk to her, she likes all thesame stuff as me but she needs a bit of an education on the subjects. She loves horror movies, and collects horror comics.

Anyway, it's so weird when someone you think will be around forever is suddenly gone. When I watch Spider-man 3 all I can think is, he didn't get to see what happened next, we had planned to go see it together. When Harry died in the movie I cried, 'cause I thought of my friend.

It's so strange. I think of the movies he won't get to see which were a big deal to him, He wasn't happy aout the old Hulk movie but now he won't get to see the new one.

Oh, well. He was having some mental problems, and drug problems at the end so at least he's at peace now. We're starting to think he killed himself, like he drove into the dump truck on purpose.

He had 2 sons, 9 and 3. I saw Spidey 3 with his oldest, he was there for his Dad. It was not the same ofcourse.

I won't ever have a friend like him. He was one of a kind.

 

[Badger]

Sorry about your friend. There's really nothing you can do, but remember and give it time. I lost a very dear friend when I was younger, it'll get easier after a while.

 

[JP]

I'm so sorry.

All you can do is keep him in your memory. Appreciate the fact that you had him as a friend - someone you could talk comics with. Some of us don't have that, hence our reasons for being on the Hype.

I'd like to believe that he got to see Spidey 3 after all.

 

[Spidey]

That's awful, I'm sorry, too. It's better if I don't try to give cheerful, uplifting advice at this hour of the night, because I'm liable to just screw it up and have the opposite effect. But even though it's a cliched, somewhat corny saying, he actually is in a better place now. The most important thing about death was the experience of the deceased. Were they in pain, were they scared, etc. Those are things most certainly worth mourning for, but after death takes place, all that gives way to eternity, and there's nothing else to mourn for, except your own loss.

I'll close this out with a proverb from the all-knowing, all-powerful, all-wise Jedi Master Yoda himself. "Death is a natural part of life. Rejoice for those around you who transform into the Force. Mourn them, do not. Miss them, do not. Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed, that is. "

 

[nosebleed.]

A heartfelt sorry for your loss of your friend. It sounds like you two were almost brothers. My heart goes out to his 2 kids and his family. The relationship you two have sounds like my brother and I. We are two geeks who love talking about all things geek and I don't know what I would ever do without him. Its good that you are trying to be there for his kids and I hope you are stay with them to help them get through their pain.

 

[November Rain]

Apologies about your friend...

my only advise is to try and make sure you spread your dependancy and friendships with more than one person and try and get a good group going on. they may not all wish to hang out with one another together but as long as you get some alone time with each of them to cover aspects of your personality, then it's all good.

I would also reccommend trying to spend some time on your own, when you have finished grieving to see what you can manage to get done without getting dependant on other people.

Nobody unfortunately is around forever, use this as an example to appreciate those in your life, your friend wouldn't want you to feel as lonely as you do now and i'm sure you'd want him to move on (note: i don't mean forget) and keep happy if the situation was reversed.

all the best.

 

[Ahura Mazda]

My condolonces to you and your freind's family.

There is not much to do except to let time pass to dull the pain. All the best.

 

[Mr Jide]

Sorry about your friend, mate.

 

[Apollo]

sorry bout that

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Q: What do you do when your best friend dies?

A: Make a thread about it on the internet.

 

[PhotoJones]

Sorry to hear that you lost someone close. Death is the hardest thing people have to deal with.

 

[Mee]

Q: What do you do when your best friend dies?

A: Make a thread about it on the internet.

Maybe cut yourself a little after.

 

[Gonking]

move on