No, it means she is moving beyond Jakku and learning more about herself and her role in the universe, which still can tie into her past. Jakku was the hope that what she lost would return to her, that doesn't mean she is satisfied with the answers about her past. 2 different thing. You're assuming they're the same thing, and that is why it feels like a retread to you.
No, point A means - you were abandoned. Point B means you were abandoned for no good reason. Completely different. Just being given up can have been for a noble cause. Kylo is saying they didn't love nor care about you.
Rey is the type of person to attach herself to people Kylo knows this. Her seeing Luke as a father figure was inevitable. It's not backwards. Just look at how quickly she attached herself to Finn and BB8? Same thing, only they were not mentor/father figures, but same attachment complex she has.
Just being evil doesn't make you wrong.
Disagree on the first and third points, based on the decision Maz presents to Rey:
Rey - "What was that? I shouldn't have gone in there"
Maz - "That lightsaber was Luke's, and his father's before him and now it calls to you!"
Rey - "I have to get back to Jakku"
Maz - "Han told me" (they hold hands) "Dear child, I see your eyes - you already know the truth. Whomever you are waiting for on Jakku, they're never coming back" Rey cries "but, there's someone who still could"
Rey - "Luke"
Maz - "The belonging you seek is not behind you, it is ahead. I am no jedi, but I know the force. It moves through and surrounds every living thing. Close your eyes, feel it. The light. It's always been there. It will guide you. The sabre - take it."
Rey - "I'm never touching that thing again, I don't want any part of this"
When she picks up the lightsaber to fight Kylo Ren, and when she takes it to Luke, that is her deciding to look to the future. And as Maz presents it, her choice isnt between finding belonging and finding her destiny. Its between seeking belonging in the past and looking for it in her destiny. After all, the Force is the bond between living things. As she already finds in Finn, Chewie and Leia, the light side is never a lonely path. The dark side, however, is most certainly a lonely path, as Kylo Ren knows.
But this is how stories work. A mentor figure presents the hero with a defining choice, the fork in the road. Galdalf to Frodo. Morpheus to Neo. Obi-Wan to Luke. Stay in the past, or look to the future. It becomes a retread because the character has already made the choice to go forward. Something can certainly cause them to doubt their choice, or to be tempted to turn back, but thats not what happens here. Here, halfway through the film, it is as if Rey hasnt made the choice at all.
On the second point, again, this is what Maz tells Rey: Dear child, I see your eyes - you already know the truth. Whomever you are waiting for on Jakku, they're never coming back. Kylo says the exact same thing, and the information he gives her only reinforces Mazs point. It doesnt actually tell her anything new, other than that it is impossible for them to come back. More importantly, nothing Kylo Ren tells her can actually impact the decisions she makes. Shes already taken the pivotal step. What does she actually do after that revelation that symbolizes that she gets it this time? Nothing.
On the fourth point, being evil means that the character is not a moral authority, and usually means that the character has false wisdom to share. And, again, the film actually suggests that Kylo Ren is wrong in what he believes.