Why Stay Single?

[RockSP]

I don't get most of you. Female companionship is great.

One can have female companionship and still be single.

They look good and smell nice.

Some of them...

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I adore being single. I could not bear to spend my days plumping up the ego of the person next to me. I love the freedom to think and feel and to travel and there's so many things I have to do in life.

I'm a bit like Bertie Wooster from Jeeves and Wooster really. Being a bachelor is just too much fun

If you have to plump up the ego of your partner you're with the wrong person. Also traveling is so much better when you have someone to go with, to share the experience with. I don't understand some of the posts in this thread making relationships seem like an awful chore. I've probably worked at my relationship to make it better, but it's never seemed like a chore or even work at all, it's just been fun. My girlfriend is truly my best friend and it's great to hanging out with her.

 

[Erzengel]

One can have female companionship and still be single.



Some of them...

Some people make it sound like relationships are to be avoided like the plaque and more like a choice when it seems inferred that it is circumstance.

 

[BlackLantern]

- I prefer paid escorts

- I like to sleep in and come and go as I please

- most people today DO need to be with someone to pump up their ego or self esteem and I have no time for that

- I'm just not cut out for it....no patience

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

You may not need a relationship, but the wrestling thread needs you!

 

[Pink Ranger]

- I prefer paid escorts

- I like to sleep in and come and go as I please

- most people today DO need to be with someone to pump up their ego or self esteem and I have no time for that

- I'm just not cut out for it....no patience

I kind of see the appeal of that philosophy.

Pay a hot girl, partly for the intimacy, partly for her to go away afterwards without nagging you about "where this is going."

 

[BlackLantern]

I kind of see the appeal of that philosophy.

Pay a hot girl, partly for the intimacy, partly for her to go away afterwards without nagging you about "where this is going."

it works for me....I am rather crippled from an emotional standpoint so paying for it straight up appeals to me

 

[Pink Ranger]

 

[terry78]

When the media contradicts itself with relationships so much, can't really blame some people for feeling mixed about it. You always hear about guys in relationships and how some view it as torture, even if the female is hot as all get out and not really that bad. Then they say how they needed that in their life, like it was a necessary evil. Pop culture doesn't make being tied down sound positive at all.

 

[BlackLantern]

not to mention the constant stories about domestic violence, spousal rape, and penis cutting off

 

[terry78]

Well, we all know every woman will end up cutting your penis off at some point. Metaphorically.

 

[Erzengel]

- I prefer paid escorts

- I like to sleep in and come and go as I please

- most people today DO need to be with someone to pump up their ego or self esteem and I have no time for that

- I'm just not cut out for it....no patience

See I can understand THIS or someone who just sleeps around but those who make it seem like they don't even want to be bothered with relationships and not do anything else?

 

[Nathan]

I'm single. Always have been. And I think my reason is that I'm not exactly a people person. I don't really care about meeting people or making friends on my own. Even those friends I have, I barely meet up with. Maybe once every couple weeks.

 

[Silvermoth]

Well, we all know every woman will end up cutting your penis off at some point. Metaphorically.

Ha!

If you have to plump up the ego of your partner you're with the wrong person. Also traveling is so much better when you have someone to go with, to share the experience with. I don't understand some of the posts in this thread making relationships seem like an awful chore. I've probably worked at my relationship to make it better, but it's never seemed like a chore or even work at all, it's just been fun. My girlfriend is truly my best friend and it's great to hanging out with her.

and that's fine because you sound like an extrovert.

But for people who aren't extroverts, who receive power from themselves rather than other people, being single is superior. Everybody's different. Some people like to travel alone so they can find their own interpretations of places and come back full of stories. Other people like to travel as a group.

 

[enterthemadness]

Reason #3 why I am single...

So I can party like in The Hangover and not regret it.

Hype: Really? Are y--
Me: YEEEEEEEEES!!!!!
Hype:....ok...

 

[Hound55]

I am not single, which is a good thing... Because I doubt there'd be too many women out there who could put up with me long term.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

If you have to plump up the ego of your partner you're with the wrong person. Also traveling is so much better when you have someone to go with, to share the experience with. I don't understand some of the posts in this thread making relationships seem like an awful chore. I've probably worked at my relationship to make it better, but it's never seemed like a chore or even work at all, it's just been fun. My girlfriend is truly my best friend and it's great to hanging out with her.

agreed. Im just glad I've grown and matured from "I need a relationship to be happy" to "id like a relationship, but I dont need it to be happy".

 

[DoomsdayApex]

I'm an extremely introvert individual who basically uses women for one purpose (yes, I am a womanizer).

Till this day, I've only been in one relationship in my entire 23 years of life. Me and her were together for about 8-9 incredible months (possibly the best time period of my life so far), and friends for about 2-3 years before we got involved intimately. I can say surely that she was the only women I ever 'loved' -- back when I use to believe in such an emotion. One day, she just left me and went back to her cheating ex. It was something I never understood. I mean, we were extremely happy together. We were talking about traveling the world and getting married.... and that was that.

I minored in Psychology, and was able to delete and strip most of my memories (and the emotions attached to them) of her. However, I fear that the relationship left me damaged. I find myself hurting other people to avoid being hurt myself -- a self defense mechanism that developed shortly after the relationship, I suppose. I also notice that my personality has become more cynical and 'darker' since. The strangest aspect of all this though is that I want to stay this way. It serves a purpose, in my opinion.

All in all, I think it's better to stay single. I've been alone most of my life, and it doesn't bother me. I travel and do what I want. Some people weren't built for relationships.

 

[greenrage36]

agreed. Im just glad I've grown and matured from "I need a relationship to be happy" to "id like a relationship, but I dont need it to be happy".

Bingo..this sums up my outlook very nicely!

 

[BlackLantern]

and people like that are in the minority.....id say over 90 percent of people NEED a relationship to be happy....theyve been told by society that it is a measure of their self worth

 

[SpideyVille]

I agree. I've always though that being in a relationship would make me more happier than if I would win the lottery, and that's mostly because that's what I always grew up thinking. All that ended up doing was make me try too hard at times to the point where I would mess things up and end up super depressed. But now I've come to realize that if I'm not happy on my own, chance are I won't be too happy in a relationship because my problems aren't limited to just being single, and being in a relationship won't fix those things. But I know that once I start to be happy with myself when I'm alone, then when I finally am with someone, I won't end up being a burden to them.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

Think it's going to be too hard to find a woman I can have mutual understanding with
I don't want anyone to toss away some of my stuff for the sake of space
Women are annoying
Parents are annoying
In laws are annoying

 

[Rhiannon]

I like being married, but I don't think it's right for everyone. I live in a region where many people marry straight out of high school or at least by their early 20's (I married at 23 myself) and divorce within a couple of years. The pressure to marry here is immense and rarely questioned, and many people get burned from going along with it when they are not ready for such a relationship. In fact, the first thing my father asked about my husband who was 28 when we started dating: "He's 28 and never been married? What's wrong with him?"

Nothing, but like many of you said, he didn't need a relationship for satisfaction. We're happy together, but we both had/have our own interests and lives outside of romance. I think it's the primary focus for many people, whether they are sincerely invested in finding a devoted relationship or merely satisfying a pervasive social expectation. We face a similar problem because we don't want children and almost none of our friends or family understand that or even believe it's true; everyone else wants children, so how can we not?

 

[Nevincer]

Not single by choice