An 8 year old kid developed sarcasm as a coping mechanism?
I hope Ben's role isn't shirked by spy parents.
Um, as an 'orphan' that has - yeah, it is there as a coping mechanism and does come at the price of something as heavy as losing one's parents.
I seriously don't see what the big problem is here. Those who say Aunt May and Uncle Ben would "realistically" be his end all be all - I'm doubting ever lost their parents at any age and should count themselves lucky because realistically? It does have a key impact, especially when you're that young. They made the RIGHT decision in this impacting his life. And as I've said before, and as anyone who has lost a parent from early on knows, any loss beyond that first one
stings a
thousand times more. So focus here will undoubtably further the focus on Ben as well. Acting like Peter didn't have parents before he lost them? Is a thousand times worse and not in the least accurate. And THIS - is coming from a guy who would do ANYTHING to protect his adoptive parents. A loss is still a loss. And acting like that loss isn't there - would be doing the character a great injustice.
....not his parents who he barely remembers.
And the same could be said, hell ESPECIALLY said, about me. I never got to know them. But that loss? Is still very real. The first time I felt it? It felt like they had just died. But they, in me, are alive. And what I do? A large part of my motivation? Is them. And let's just say that motivation that is partly spurred on by them - has gotten me to a place, a career, many can only dream of. So yeah, it is strong and I'd say there is a reason why many mythological heroes are orphans. It's not to have the kid alone. It's what being alone gives the kid.
However, Uncle Ben's death might make him realize how close and important Uncle Ben was to him as a father figure, more so than his own father and that all the while he was searching for his father, he couldn't appreciate the only person he'd really known as a father. In turn make him realize how important his only family (aunt may) is to him. Yeah?
All depends on why they have him searching. The search isn't really to find his parents. It's more a search to find the question, "who am I?" The best way to put this is SMALLVILLE, or at least in my experience, got it right in that his parents could teach him how to channel his abilities but not how to use his abilities. Here, with his biological father, it's his love for science which I doubt Uncle Ben has. It's more of a search to find what he lost - a sense of who he is, as I think Avi Arad already mentioned in another interview. The thing is both fathers are very alive and strong within him as a character.
HOWEVER, if both Ben and Richard were alive and Richard was just 'gone' - he would still feel a lot worse about Uncle Ben's death since that's who raised him the longest and, in his heart, is more of the 'real' father. I feel like the only way Peter would realize Ben was not important to him is if he's shown as somebody who ignores his importance to him. Which, I don't really see them going that route here. Even when one shouts "you're not my father!" it's more from a displacement area and not really meaning/believing it - it's just a different variation on what every other kid/teen may say when extremely angry and out of control.
If guilt does arise from it, being similar to that, it would probably be focusing more on one set of parents than the other ("search now, since my adoptive parents are still here and will forever be here"). Meanwhile during that, he neglects or starts to pay attention to Ben and May less. Thus, the guilt would come from missing time hunting ghosts instead of being around them since he thought they would be around forever rather than favoring Richard over Ben.
... hope this whole, now really long post, explains further how everything would impact him and especially from the way it's been described in interviews. Because, from everything in these interviews that deal with being an 'orphan' - they've practically been describing ways I've felt for years.
Trust me, these guys? Are getting it right. So right, I'm actually wondering how personal this may be to someone behind it. Because just by what they're saying, even some of the terms that they're using, they've done their home work and then some. This Peter Parker is accurate.